Stop Limiting Yourself: Release Mental Junks and Emotions That Hold You Back From Being Who You Are.

By Jacob Meyer

 

LEARN TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.

Are your thoughts holding you captive? Do you often feel you are inferior or inadequate? Do think you'll never be good enough. Do you think your needs won't be met? If so, there's a simple solution: STOP LIMITING YOURSELF. Imagine a scenario in which unexpectedly, you were genuine. Imagine a scenario in which you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn't apologize for it. Amazon bestselling author Jacob Meyer with her background in health and wellness has figured out the 16 junks in our mind that limit us. You and I know that if the mind is left at default it only focus on negative thoughts, painful memories, daydreaming, fantasies and obsessive thinking.  The good news is that the mind can be trained to work for us to achieve our goals and dreams in life, this book provide the essential skills to bring awareness to your negative thoughts, unpleasant emotions and how to renew your mindsets.

With practical examples you will learn and understand how to tame your inner critic (the voice in your head) that sabotages you. Most of us think life is a script we have to follow. Therefore, we enslaved ourselves by "I should mentality" the book provides a real guide on how to overcome such a prison of the mind.

The book also gives a step-by-step technique to change your self-limiting beliefs that hold you back from being the best version of yourself.

This book will help you get rid of unhealthy emotions, and unleash the power within you in order to be mentally strong and happy.

In This Book You'll Learn:

The 16 junks in the mind

Unhealthy emotional habits

How to overcome low self-esteem

How to tame your inner critic

How to develop self-awareness

Unleash the power within you

Change limiting beliefs

Overcome I should mentality.

Release your authentic self.

This book is good for everyone.

As a parent, your child emotional intelligence is more important than his/her school grades, this book helps you get freed from the prison of the mind. And at large, helps you build your children self-esteem and emotional intelligence.

As a student this book will help you to become emotionally intelligent and mental strong to achieve your most ambitious goals.

As an entrepreneur / business owner, this book will help you change all your self-limiting beliefs so that you can take your business to the next level.

"This breakthrough book is a lifesaver for people who are frustrated, stressed, and anxious, or who have minds that won't shut off. If you long for more joy, give yourself a gift and read this book!" —MARCI SHIMOFF, bestselling author of Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul and Happy for No Reason

"If you, like myself, wish for a deeper and truer life, a wiser understanding of yourself and your emotions, this book will provide you with answers, with companionship, and, most powerful of all, the clarity and faith of an extraordinary teacher." —MARY OLIVER, Pulitzer Prize-winning poet

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jacob Akalogire
• Release date: May 20, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393449010

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Stop Limiting Yourself

Release Mental Junks and Emotions That Hold You Back From  Being Who You Are.

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Table of content

Introduction

Chapter One:

the 16 junks in the mind

Chapter Two:

Unhealthy Emotional Habits

Chapter 3:

Developing Self-awareness

Chapter 4:

Taming the chatter box

Chapter 5:

Unleashing the power within

Chapter 6:

What do you want?

Chapter 7:

Unlock from the box

Chapter 8:

Being true to yourself

Chapter 9:

Look forward

Chapter 10

Stop procrastination

Chapter 11

Start a spiritual journey

References:

Acknowledgement

I am very thankful to the almighty God for his goodness and blessings. In fact, He has given me wisdom and strength to write this book.  I am also thankful to my entire family for loving me so much and so well. My younger brother Prince is my source of joy and the love of my life. He provides all the support within his capacity to help me write this book. My mother Margaret and my elder brothers, Norbert & Roger they called me all the time, to check out on me, they also gave me inspiration and motivation to write this book. My last appreciation goes to my father Joseph A. who financed me throughout this project.

Introduction

Stop Limiting Yourself

Our life is what our thoughts make it. Marcus Aurelius

Embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we unravel the secrets to recreating your life, reviving your happiness, and unleashing the untapped reservoir of creativity within you. I extend a warm invitation to join me on this remarkable expedition toward a life filled with purpose and personal power.

Often, we find ourselves complaining, getting angry, or placing blame on external factors for our perceived shortcomings. However, the truth is, the path to a fulfilling life begins within us. Our self-esteem, the emotional muscle that shapes our perception of ourselves, plays a crucial role in determining the quality of our lives. Without a healthy measure of self-worth, we risk leading a life where basic needs remain unmet, and misery becomes a constant companion.

Human uniqueness lies in our ability to recognize our identity and decide whether we embrace or reject it. The challenge with self-esteem lies in the judgments we impose upon ourselves. While it's natural to dislike certain external elements, self-rejection inflicts deep wounds on the psychological structures that sustain our very existence.

The consequences of self-judgment are profound, leading to pain, avoidance, and the adoption of defense mechanisms such as anger, blame games, or perfectionism. This book serves as a guide to breaking free from these judgments, healing old wounds, and witnessing a transformative shift in your perception of self, consequently altering the trajectory of your entire life.

Our self-worth should not be contingent on unrealistic conditions. Instead, cultivating positive mindsets and beliefs can empower us to shine regardless of external circumstances. Stop Limiting Yourself delves into comprehensive and creative approaches to handling daily challenges and overcoming old beliefs that push us beyond our emotional limits.

The key to stopping self-limitation lies in increasing emotional strength, cultivating positive emotions and mindsets, and compassionately transforming negative ones. An unlimited self opens the door to happiness, fulfilling relationships, and an abundant life.

As the author, I understand the struggles firsthand, having battled with these mental obstacles myself. This book shares my experiences, thoughts, and certified techniques by therapists that have helped me overcome inner critics, develop self-esteem and confidence, break away from conventional life, and rebuild my life on my terms.

The journey outlined in this book spans eleven chapters, each designed to guide you through understanding and overcoming mental limitations. From identifying the junks in your mind to unlocking your creative power, this book provides practical steps to reclaim your happiness, live debt-free, and attain a high quality of life.

I assure you that every step in this book is simple and easy to follow. Embrace this transformational journey with gentleness, leaving your past behind as history. Today is a gift, and through reading this book, you are poised to shine again.

Chapter One:

the 16 junks in the mind

A negative experience is just a story that one allows to dwell in his/her mind. And it should never influence their inner peace or diminish their thrill to shoot for the stars. Remember, it is just a STORY."

― Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana, Ph.D. MBA

Junks in the mind

In the intricate landscapes of our minds, we often find ourselves burdened by the weight of self-limiting beliefs – the junks in our mental attic that hinder our journey towards fulfillment. These ingrained thought patterns, stemming from childhood experiences with parents, caretakers, and guardians, have the power to evoke emotions like sadness and hopelessness, clouding our true identity. It is crucial to recognize that these are echoes of the past, not a reflection of who we truly are.

Junks in the mind refers to the unpleasant thought patterns and limiting beliefs that hinder personal growth and well-being. These mental junks act as barriers, preventing individuals from realizing their full potential, experiencing happiness, and creating the life they desire.

One Lady tells her self-limiting story, the daughter of alcoholic parents, felt basically ignored as a child. The message I got from childhood, she said, was that when you ask for what you want, no one hears you or even wants to be near you. That makes it hard to ask for what I want in my marriage. I feel very vulnerable when I bring up my emotional needs. My needs won’t be met— this last sentence is the belief that holds her back.

Her problem stem from her parents’ insensitiveness to her needs during the early stage of her life. Self-limiting thoughts and habits in the mind arise from our childhood experiences from our parents, caretaker and guardians. That is not who we truly are, they are just past experience and we must let them go.

Another sad story is Shirley who went through a litany of complaints: I work for hours and hours to prepare for the music classes I give. I do much more preparation than any of the other teachers, and I take on more classes than anyone else. I work so hard on it that I feel I have no time left for my own life. And then when a parent makes even a slightly negative comment, I berate myself about it for days.  This is Lack of contentment in her life.

What we focus on will become either our obstacle or resource. Shirley focus is on perfection not growth. She wants everyone to praise and appreciate her work all the time and that is never possible. Our mindsets shape how we see and believe in our potential.

If we allow negative mindsets to define who we are, they become junks in our mind that limit us to an undesirable routine of living our lives; they sabotage our happiness, creativity and self-growth. Take a look at some of the junks in mind that are holding you back!

The 16 Junks in the Mind.

Perfection

Out of the fear of criticism and disapproval, we are always under the illusion that we can be perfect in life. We want a perfect relationship, a perfect job, perfect health, a perfect society and perfect friends. Worst of all we want other people to see us as perfect; we are the best without fault, everything else is working perfectly in our lives. There is a saying that one man’s meat is another man’s poison. Can we truly be able to do all things, that please everyone else and be seen as perfect beings in this world? I doubt it. We can only do our best.

Through a distorted lens, perfectionists look at the negative side of what they have done. Any flaw they find in their performance, any mistake they make will be what they focus on. They always self-criticize and self-reproach themselves mercilessly.

Perfectionists believe that if any aspect of their live that does not seem to be perfect as they think it should be, their whole life is worthless. Nobody will like them; they will never fit in any group. Everyone is better than they are. They have to meet all standards in their highest perfection. No fault everything about them should be as pure as a snow.

Perfectionist can also impose their own strict and rigid thinking on other people and expect them to be exactly as they think of them. Other people should know everything. They hold resentment about people just because, they do not meet their unrealistic expectations.

Perfectionism is positive to some extend but, in most cases, it causes a sense of insecurity and inadequacy in you all the time. You don’t get satisfied with your own achievements Instead, you constantly compare your work to the work of others or fixate on achieving flawless output.

The simple way to overcome perfectionism mindset is to focus on the positive results or achievement that you have. The mind will try to give you so many reasons that you should not be happy, you will fail and so on, do not succumb to that tendency, and remind yourself of the positive