The Book of Self

By INicole Royce

This book is a guiding tool to help those around me and in the same positions as me, if not those who are continuously in the same position. My book in the genre of confidence and self-positivity. To help improve things such as self-love, self0improvement, and overall self-esteem.

• Language: English
• Publisher: True Vine Publishing Co
• Release date: May 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9781956469363

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CHAPTER 1

SELF-START

You want to open yourself up and take the leap that you've always wanted to take. To apply energy towards the vision grown within your person and apply it to the life you wish to not one day live, but to create. It takes self-growth and overall self-start from you and those around you to uplift and continuously motivate. Be the example you know that no one other than your physical well-being can take from you. To want it and go for it, how will you do it? And which direction will you choose? -INicole Royce

When simplifying self-start, it all begins and ends with you. So, here is where I brighten your horizon and draw your attention to the uplifted motivation of the phrase. The name self-start pretty much explains the meaning of what it holds, without too much overthinking behind it. But it includes more self-initiative, so to say, when it comes to what it truly stands for in my eyes, as I'm sure it will stand out in yours.

Do you find yourself wanting to start something; but remain calm? And do you go about having all these brilliant ideas with an overload waiting to flourish? I love the meaning behind the words self-start. Because I look at these word as power words within this book, The Book of Self. It is more like the brainpower of all the other characteristics you will need, and all the others will soon follow. So when I think of the words self-start, I think of a starter kit. The kind of things needed to help build up to one's true self.

You want to be someone who can undertake anything without holding back, without hesitation. Someone who doesn't need an uplift or push to get something going, or the peer pressure of the thoughts of those around them. But someone who has self-motivation and takes the initiative to build the empire needed, to create the brand of something without being encouraged. That sense of encouragement someone can get due to thoughts of their own. There is a difference between doing something strictly because you feel obligated to, or because you feel that someone else's dream overrules yours and that yours is not good enough to be in the light. Another way is just being your creator and the mastermind behind what you truly stand for, and the creativeness you hold within yourself. If you had no clue of the exact meaning behind selfstart, then the only real thing missing is you.

You will find yourself in the sense of still gaining overall sanity, without hesitation of losing yourself.

Your inner person has to offer so much that you never question it, and abide by doing so without hesitation. It's going to make you nervous when starting out, making it more and more challenging over time. The more you devote yourself, it comes to a point when the most difficult challenges become the easiest. I believe that with every self-start of someone there is something more powerful to reach. We don't always notice these things, but trust and believe whatever you think will come true the sooner you give yourself genuine recognition for it. There should be a fine line between starting something for yourself and loving yourself.

I love to encourage those with these minds that we must never let it go to waste everything is brilliant and to each its way; when I say this, I'm merely speaking for the upbringing, the mishaps, the good, bad, and the ugly. The beginning is where we will be soon, if we not have already discovered an overall experience. It is how we choose to come out of that experience and what it takes to get through it. There is no right or wrong way, but there are ways that are better than others. Although the way you choose to go in the route you decide to take is your business, there are positive steps throughout your self-start journey once you finally decide to take it.

There will be some people with a similar start, comparisons, or similarities, but nobody will ever be the same. No matter how many ideas there are, we all feel someone has ours within their thought process too. It's about how yours stands out and what makes your brand better than the next in its own creative way. It is that amount of confidence that you must build within yourself, to build yourself up. And there are many people out there who feel as if their one way is the only way. I'm here to tell you that it is not. It's okay to stand out and be different. That is one characteristic right there that will help you continue to shine and be you. I'm all about helping and guiding people who feel like they must be or do a specific thing to become uplifted and motivated.

The amount of confidence someone has gone a long way. It can determine many things, and be the reasoning behind why you either did or didn't do something. It falls in place of body language that stands behind not only you, but the actions that follow. I love to say that confidence will take you far once you've grasped the truth behind you and what you stand for, which is what we're trying to create within this book of self.

I believe self-confidence to be something that everyone can have, yet in their own way. You have multiple people who are themselves, and then you have those who feel they should be somebody else. And then you have others who interpret that same image of themselves, but yet ball their self-identity up due to a lack of selfconfidence.

You have people who are perfectly comfortable in someone else's shoes and yet disappointed when it comes to the true them within their own four walls. That is when you have to sit back and genuinely think about the consequences behind your self-start. Don't prosper until things become too thin, or almost too delicate to dig ourselves up out of. People have accomplished some in the making or even in the bind trying to figure it all out.

The start-up of self and how you project determines the obstacles you lead yourself to go through. This is not necessarily saying that the person you are makes for the life you create. But, I believe it makes for the obstacles you have to go, through no matter the case, as you can form the life you wish to live by if you know what lifestyle consists of initially. Sometimes we know that we want something good, but we don't necessarily understand what. We know that we see what we see, think about what we believe, and want what we want. We need to be mindful of the energy that we deliver within ourselves. Because everything holds a consequence, which is an outcome of every situation we go through; it carries weight. Whether light or heavy, can you handle the result of your actions. You should try giving yourself peace of mind by being you if you haven't been doing this already, and restarting your self-start.

The self-start that you've projected and your interpretation in the eyes of others will be different. You'll be offbalance and continue to be off-balance the longer it takes for you to adjust to the real you. Not the you that makes you comfortable on the outside looking in. But the you that allows you to be comfortable inside looking out. You want to look at yourself on the inside with the same amount of confidence as you do for those around you. You can see within you the direction that you don’t want to be heading in, and you should focus on not looking back or being continuously dragged into the direction you were going.

How many times have you considered yourself to have experienced a self-start? Like many people, we have multiple startups, so that's perfectly normal. It's okay to have a fresh start. You want to be happy within yourself, turn a circle, and notice that it may be no bigger than just a small process. And that it can be ok to backtrack and lose sight of your sense of direction sometimes. To figure yourself out, is how I look at it. There is no timing for when you'll figure yourself out, but it's the process behind taking the accountability to do that stands out most.

The average person will look at a self-start as how you start up your life at the beginning. That's not possible, no matter how deep you are into life, no matter the number of years. The self-start has a lot to do with the mental state rather than physically being where you are. There are different lineups in which I believe pertain to self-start, in which you'll always be starting up a new challenge, but as long as it's benefiting you in the long term then it’s beneficial. The steps within your headspace allow you to face challenges no matter what environment you're in, given your ability to separate the two.

And in some cases, you're in the wrong environment. That places a huge role in the thoughts that you're able to gain, so try your best to find a space, if not places that you're able to go, which will help allow you to elevate your thinking into a more creative state of mind. I love to push people around me to dig deeper into their thoughts than just the idea that we have about ourselves or something abided by someone's normality.

Don't look for it; continue to do what you plan as planned, and the pieces will fall accordingly. Otherwise, they'll drop, and you'll find yourself having to pick them up continuously. When handled accordingly, you'll notice they'll begin to pick up themselves, and their placements will come naturally. Anything forced isn't a good fit for the perfect fit.

INicole Royce

You’ll soon figure out the start of what makes you the person you see yourself to be. Not by just looking in the mirror, but by getting within the core of you that you've not dared to reach. I'm all about getting things out of people they don't even see within themselves. I know how people judge themselves as those around them like to indulge. But, sometimes, you have to dig deeper than deep and go outside of the normalization, outside of your comfort zone, to find extreme comfort in things.

At times we don't want to believe this is true, but who we have around us can sometimes lead us in the direction of discomfort. Some things that we'd typically realize or notice won't allow themselves to fully prosper or direct you in the path you need to go if you’re surrounded by the wrong people. I believe that timing is everything, and situations happen to us once we realize what we're missing. Things have either gone wrong by changing up our routine or possibly even eliminating things that took hold of our energy, that probably shouldn't in the first place. So whatever you decide to do, be mindful, and stay aware of your feelings internally and externally.

Don’t move too fast, but time will only go as slow or fast as you allow it to. You will learn to tap into the inner senses, and you have to gain that discipline you're looking to have. It could all be so simple; it's okay to be dismissive. Not everything or is everyone good for you. I feel as though we sometimes forget that we came into this world alone, yet feel as though some of us need everybody. Sometimes, everybody can cause you to go back to square one for even learning your true self.

Let's try to get to know ourselves once more, no matter how many times you've tried or even attempted to try, or better yet if you've brought up the thought but never accessed the physical for putting your words into action. Well, this is your perfect time to start. Think of it this way you have nothing else to lose, and everything that you've either lost or that you’re losing was never truly meant for you in the first place as better things are waiting to come, if only you allow for those doors to be opened.

So, with your thanks for yourself, give yourself the simple respect needed for doing just that. You'll realize that there's so much more out there. Maybe even things are already happening or have happened for someone else, but never underestimate yourself or find yourself trying to compare yourself to others because you won't win. I have a quote that I stand by when it comes to thinking on this level, and I quote:

We all have deadlines; sometimes, it's not met to match our dedicated time frame. Instead of seeing that as a discouragement, look at it as the outcome means better timing in making it all and striving forward. Don't lose hope still keep that same dedication towards the finish line and filled with greatness, so it's nothing less than to come the confirmation is already affirmative!-INicole Royce

Know Yourself Truly

There’s more to the meaning of self-start, but it’s essential to start it all by just being you. It would help if you tried with the start of it all by asking yourself:

Who am I exactly?

Do I even know who I truly am or my pur pose?

Have I ever honestly just sat back and tried to get the chance to know myself on a more personal level?

One should get to know themselves on levels that one understands, and not be so wrapped up in the stories others perceive you to be. But you wonder if you truly know yourself. These questions might take you for a loop, but you'll be surprised. Just because you know who you are at a given moment doesn't mean it's the real you. Suppose you haven't yet reached the total growth you wish to happen within yourself. You can know who you are for that moment in time, and for those years you've lived and are living. But what happens when you begin to grow?

Your mind becomes wiser than before. You then grow out of yourself. And that's okay, to grow up and out if it's for a turn in the right direction. There is one thing being yourself and another when it comes to knowing yourself fully. There are so many things that trigger our nerves. Things which give us setbacks that we can't even begin to think about how to get out of; let us not forget the situations that take many of us over the edge at times.

When you finally give yourself a break, you eventually realize that a problem wasn't even as serious as you made it out to be. All these inquiries seem uncertain when you deserve better within any and everything around you. I seek things within people who I could share a gift with. But I would want to be that perfect example of practicing what you preach. I had a set of role models who, in my eyes, couldn't tell me any different, and I envision being like them and better so that I can give back the way they did and be that positive example for others. There is not a day that goes