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#1 The prisoner-warden approach to parenting is when the parent is the warden, constantly watching the child’s actions. The child, in the role of prisoner, does something right or wrong, and the parent responds with either a reward or a punishment.
#2 When we discipline our children, we assume that they are inherently undisciplined and need to be civilized. But what we think of as discipline is actually detrimental and fails to produce the kind of behavior parents want.
#3 Because discipline seems to be related to the parent’s whims rather than something reasonable, it always triggers resentment in children. They may comply with our demands because we force them to do so, but they resent us as the messenger.
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Contents
Insights from Chapter 1
Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 4
Insights from Chapter 5
Insights from Chapter 6
Insights from Chapter 7
Insights from Chapter 8
Insights from Chapter 9
Insights from Chapter 10
Insights from Chapter 11
Insights from Chapter 12
Insights from Chapter 13
Insights from Chapter 14
Insights from Chapter 15
Insights from Chapter 16
Insights from Chapter 17
Insights from Chapter 18
Insights from Chapter 19
Insights from Chapter 20
Insights from Chapter 21
Insights from Chapter 22
Insights from Chapter 23
Insights from Chapter 24
Insights from Chapter 25
Insights from Chapter 26
Insights from Chapter 27
Insights from Chapter 28
Insights from Chapter 29
Insights from Chapter 30
Insights from Chapter 31
Insights from Chapter 32
Insights from Chapter 33
Insights from Chapter 34
Insights from Chapter 35
Insights from Chapter 36
Insights from Chapter 1
#1
The prisoner-warden approach to parenting is when the parent is the warden, constantly watching the child’s actions. The child, in the role of prisoner, does something right or wrong, and the parent responds with either a reward or a punishment.
#2
When we discipline our children, we assume that they are inherently undisciplined and need to be civilized. But what we think of as discipline is actually detrimental and fails to produce the kind of behavior parents want.
#3
Because discipline seems to be related to the parent’s whims rather than something reasonable, it always triggers resentment in children. They may comply with our demands because we force them to do so, but they resent us as the messenger.
Insights from Chapter 2
#1
Parents who are constantly on edge with their children’s behavior often end up losing their temper and disciplining them. But when their children don’t do what they want, they don’t know how to handle it
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