This is my way: How I’ve discovered what real pleasure and sex really is

By Victorine May

A story inspired by the author's life experience which is going to take you into a journey meant to change your perspective on sexuality.

A sexual act could be enjoyable for most people, however, because of traumatic experiences or prejudices imposed by society or your own barriers, it can become stressful or unpleasant.

The experience of the sexual act can be full of mysteries for some, but making love is an ability that could be learnt and improved by anyone, providing the willingness to put in some interest and effort into it. One of the most important part of this journey is to have a clear understanding of what sexuality means for you and what purpose and importance you grant it.

If you place the appropriate importance on sexuality, then this area of your life is bound to improve.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Dec 6, 2021
• ISBN: 9781667812298

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THIS IS MY WAY

How I’ve discovered what real pleasure and sex really is

© 2021 Victorine May. All rights reserved.

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ISBN: 978-1-66781-229-8

Disclaimer

The information presented in this book is based on the author’s personal experience. Its purpose is to educate and empower men and women in their sexuality. The techniques herein, should you choose to try them, are to be used with discretion. Regarding the reader’s liability, the author is not responsible or liable in any manner for the sensations, experiences, and issues that may result from applying these techniques. Success in the application of these practices is directly related to the amount of time dedicated to them.

Contents

Foreword

1: The Journey

2: A Few Words about Love

3: Love in a Couple Relationship

4: The Female Genitalia

5: The Male Genitalia

6: Foreplay

7: Making Love as an Art Form

8: The Subtle Energetic Channels

9: The Subtle Chakras

10: Energy Transformation

11: Pelvic Exercises

12: We Take a Break

13: Types of Female Orgasms

14: Aphrodisiacs

15: Menstruation

16: Menopause

17: The Seminar Ends

18: Everything Changes

19: Sexual Positions

Bibliography

Foreword

Although we are in the early years of the twenty-first century and at the peak of civilization, we can say that human sexuality continues to be prejudged and its discussion is still considered taboo. Nevertheless, sexuality has a huge influence on our private lives.

In order to acquire skill in any field, we require years and years of study, lessons, and special training in schools and by other forms of learning (for example, specializations in various fields are learned in appropriate colleges, sports are practiced in clubs, etc.). Let us consider, for instance, how much time and effort a child requires to learn how to play a musical instrument. The child has to learn the notes, how to read and write them, how to coordinate his or her movement in rhythm with the melody, and, eventually perhaps, even how to integrate himself or herself into an orchestra. Even when a person correctly learns all the musical rules, there is no guarantee that he or she will manage to sing a harmonious melody, because true mastery is reached only by one who knows how to combine personal experiences and artistic emotions, thus integrating the sum of qualities that are indispensable to a musician.

A series of questions thus appears naturally with respect to the area of our intimate lives: Why do we not consider that our sexual life deserves the same attention as that of a musician’s development? Is it perhaps less important to us? What place do we give it in our list of priorities, and what is the place that it actually deserves?

During the teenage years, generally everything we learn about sexuality comes in bits and pieces that we see on TV and movies, read in magazines, learn from our friends, or, if we are lucky, from our parents. However, they may introduce us to sexuality in a way that is often incomplete and, unfortunately, full of mistaken ideas. We rely on what we can steal, catch out of the corner of our eye, or intuit for ourselves.

At the root of most of the obstacles in the path of progress lies the very belief that sex is something demeaning, that it is of an animalistic, instinctive order. Some religions even condemn it as being the original sin. But is it really so? What kind of god would give humans all these instincts and psycho-physiological needs and then blame them for filling these needs? Is this basic instinct inherently demeaning or is it so by the meaning that people give it? Is it perhaps our intention and purpose that we attribute to lovemaking that give it either the vulgar or the noble meaning?

Once the problem of obsolete prejudgments is resolved, we may face difficulties of a different nature: the erotic act can give exquisite pleasure for most of us, but for some people it might be a grind, even create a real stress, due to certain psycho-emotional connections, traumas from the past, or memories of unpleasant experiences, all associated to lovemaking. The experience of erotic pleasure may even be completely foreign to some people.

Making love is an ability that can be learned. For this to happen, it is best to know ourselves and our partner, and to have a clear understanding of what sexuality means to us and what importance and purpose we give it. Just as in any other area of our lives, in order to improve ourselves, we need to learn from someone who has more experience than we do and has already gotten to the point where we want to be. The person we learn from had better be a true expert in the respective field and have genuine results.

My journey started several years ago, when I was disoriented and did not know anything about the true meaning of femininity, an erotic life, or the balance between the emotional and psycho-physiological planes. Because of my many prejudgments acquired in childhood and adolescence, it was pretty hard for me to accept my own sexuality and take the first steps toward it, and also to discover and to know myself with respect to the realm of Eros, sexual love.

I remember how, when I was sixteen or seventeen years old, I was not at all familiar with my sexuality and my body. Indeed, I was very much ashamed to look at myself naked in the mirror or walk about naked in my room. And this was not because I had a body that I didn’t like, but because I was simply so ashamed that I started to blush the instant I totally undressed my body, even when I was alone. It was difficult for me to approach any subject of this sort with my girlfriends. When it came to my first boyfriend, it took me a very long time before I felt comfortable with him touching me, and after a while, when we had started to make love, I absolutely had to make sure that it was completely dark and that he could not see my body.

Obviously, considering how inhibited and frightened I was of everything that meant sexual act, my knowledge of what an orgasm is was no more than its definition from the dictionary. After I made several attempts in the relationship world and discovered they were not very different from one another, sexually speaking, I catalogued myself as a frigid woman for whom sexuality was something stressful, nay, even boring.

I continued to look for the company of guys, but I had pretty short relationships. When I got to the point of intimacy of any kind—kissing, touching—it was very difficult for me, and usually I didn’t feel a thing. If we got as far as making love, the sexual act never lasted for more than ten or fifteen minutes. There were also moments when a pale wave of pleasure showed up, but it was quickly overwhelmed by the idea that I was making love as if out of duty, with the purpose of keeping a guy near me.

When I was twenty-three, my boyfriend, with whom I had shared my life for a while, left me. His main reason was, You don’t feel anything when we make love! I want a woman next to me who feels something. I want to feel that she likes it. With you, it’s like working aimlessly! I feel I can’t even make you have an orgasm. If I wanted this, I could buy an inflatable woman; at least I can’t argue with her! Although he was kind of a self-centered man, I knew that he was right in what he said about me: I was not awakened as a woman. And I knew that if I wanted to have a man in my life, I had to do something about it.

That breakup was followed by a harsh period in my life, during which I had very intense states of depression. It was not easy to hear such words from a man I was in love with and with whom I had been in a couple relationship. I began searching in books for information about sexuality in order to understand what actually happens when a woman makes love to a man. I felt too embarrassed to go to a specialist and talk openly about such an intimate subject. I thought a therapist would ask all sorts of awkward questions that I would not easily be able to answer. So, I went to the local bookstore and bought more than twenty books on tantra, which dealt with the subject of sexuality from several perspectives.

Just a few months after I began studying the Tantric tradition and practicing the exercises and techniques, I felt like a different person. It was as if something had awakened in me, and everything around me appeared in a different light. I felt more in control of myself; I felt my sensuality and femininity for the first time in my life. Then followed a series of events that radically transformed my way of seeing this component of our private lives.

In this book, I share the information I learned and my personal experiences related to erotic life, as well as practical methods that have helped me fulfill myself and discover my own femininity. What I have experienced in the course of nine years and all the exercises I use are presented here in a simple, easy-to-understand manner, accessible to any person who wants to improve his or her love life. There are methods that are useful to both men and women, and, even if you are not yet in a couple relationship, they can bring you to a better knowledge and understanding of your own sexuality.

1: The Journey

A real adventure is when you start down a totally unknown road without any luggage other than yourself. That is how I felt the day I was offered the opportunity to go to Prague on a two-week vacation. My friend had a round-trip ticket and accommodations for two people but she couldn’t go, so she offered the trip to me.

In the beginning it seemed crazy, especially since my boyfriend has just told me that he wanted to take a break, so I had no one to go with. However, I remembered that I had just made the