Love Is

By Craig R Durrant

What is love? Craig thought that he knew what it was until his life fell apart and his dreams shattered along with all that he held close to his heart burnt in the fires of divorce and broken hearts. He thought it was giving up our dreams in order to please others and to do whatever it takes to make them happy, but that isn’t love. Everything that he thought was love failed over and over and felt more like neediness and desperation instead of love. Believing that his only source of love was from others he had given away his dreams and his power which left him feeling broken and needy.

Love is a heart and soul learning how to love and dream again with increased openness and greater depth. Love is many things but it is never needy or broken. In his journey to love again the answers came. It exposes our inner song as a gift to those we love and to the world.

This is a gift to the world. It is Craig’s inner song of loving again with the transparency and nakedness of love. It is remembering and learning that love is. Read on and see if it speaks to your soul like it has for so many others. Love is…

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Nov 17, 2019
• ISBN: 9781982233662

Craig R Durrant

Craig R Durrant is a student of truth and lives what is taught in this book. At twenty-seven the asthma specialist told him that over eighty percent of the people with that genetic version die before age 28 and to fill out his will and gave him a week to begin getting better. Five years later he was given two months to live with Crohn’s disease. After divorce he raised his four kids as a single parent with full custody. He has always been fascinated with the topic of love. But it took near death to become committed to knowing what it is. January 1997 begins the quest to live, know and understand love which continues on everyday. Love for his family keeps passion alive in his life. He was raised as a carpenter on a family farm and construction company. Dyslexia has always been a challenge. He barely passed his language classes until in college when the teacher graded on content instead of grammar and spelling and he went from failing to getting top marks on his papers.. He seeks to express himself in ways that are clear and easy to relate with and in a manner that speaks to everyone in a personal way.

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Balboa Press rev. date: 11/06/2019

To C. D., the angel who inspired me to know

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CONTENTS

Introduction

Section 1   ?

Chapter 1     Love Isn’t Sex

Chapter 2     The Analogy

Chapter 3     The Raindrop

Chapter 4     Unconditional

Section 2   Love Is …

Chapter 5     Love Is Naked

Chapter 6     Is Love Clothed?

Chapter 7     Love Is Free

Section 3   One

Chapter 8     Love Is Surrender

Chapter 9     One

Chapter 10   Love Is Sex

INTRODUCTION

WHAT IS LOVE? I THOUGHT I knew—until I was asked. With the realization that I didn’t know what it is, I decided to learn. I was asking a wonderful lady who I cared for to trust me and to follow me into the unknown, and as a leader, I was supposed to do whatever it took to know. This book was written for her, and I have chosen to leave the wording personal like I would in a letter, text, or e-mail. I know there are things she has experienced, and I know that understanding is already in place. Only my personal experiences are brought out; her life and privacy are kept private.

Life taught me what love isn’t—or I recognized many things that I initially thought were love before I realized they were just imitations of the real thing. As I learned what it isn’t, I began to understand what it is. I also began to remember and believe in what I want in this area of my life.

This led to knowing that I already have everything I need in order to be happy, along with some other things that have changed my life in positive ways.

Some questions may be answered later. Maybe you have your own answers for some of them.

Every chapter is tied together and interrelated. They build on each other and may seem like overviews of what has already been covered. My intent is that different aspects will come out when things are written about in a different light. Every topic is of equal value, but at the same time, some are more important depending on where we are in life.

This book is meant to be part of the understanding. In other words, there is more to love than any of us can accurately describe to everyone in one hundred pages or more. It is progressive, and in ten years, our views will have shifted along with our waistlines and hair colors.

Enjoy, laugh, and smile.

Craig

SECTION I

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CHAPTER 1

Love Isn’t Sex

WHAT? ARE YOU SURE? LOOK at Hollywood and all the romance novels. They sure make sex look like love. I used to believe that sex meant love and love meant sex—and then the divorce came, and I, the typical male, learned that I didn’t know what love is. Now, I can pretend to know what women think. That is a favorite pastime of some of the male species. They give themselves names like man, doctor, boyfriend, husband, and a variety of other self-important titles. But in truth, I don’t. And because I am human, I know a little about love. I offer some guidance and direction. Love, as it develops, gives us the ability to connect with each other in such a way that we can know what the other is thinking.

For many years, the intimate bedroom scenes—the sex and the orgasms of life—appeared to be the crowning moments, the ultimate experience, heaven on earth, and more, and it can be when it is combined with love. If the act of sex were love, then the sick and repulsive acts of incest and rape and forced sex in marriage would be acts of love.

Consensual casual sex is more acceptable in society. Two people come together just for the pleasure, the companionship, or whatever else they want without the commitment that is an essential part of love. In these