I've Stuck It In. Now What?

By Mark Bentley Cohen

What is in Book One – “I’ve Stuck It In. Now What?”
Mastering your masculine sexual energy is key to successful sexual encounters.
You will discover how ejaculation control is supported by proper fucking techniques, and how both contribute to your ultimate goal: building sexual energy between you and her.

The book clarifies the 8 Fundamental Misconceptions men have about sex and intercourse. These not only severely limit the pleasure and fulfillment you both experience, but they also contribute to premature ejaculation.
The 10 Exercises + Masturbation Regime are like weight-training for your sexual energy muscles, enabling your body to hold much greater amounts of pleasure for longer periods of time.
Find out how:

the goal of sex is not orgasm
misunderstandings about the role sexual energy plays in creating erections often lead to misdiagnosis of erectile dysfunction, as well as premature ejaculation
managing your sexual energy through ejaculation control and proper fucking are necessary for her pleasure
to train yourself to build, hold, and maintain ever-increasing amounts sexual energy far beyond your current threshold for ejaculation
the longer you go, the easier it gets, and the many benefits of having intercourse beyond the Magical 20-Minute Mark
You will learn to:

establish proper masturbation habits based upon understanding, and then managing your masculine sexual energy, rather than spilling it
gain control of habitual masturbation, and use it as your new re-training ground for ejaculation control
build, hold, and manage ever-increasing amounts of sexual energy in your body without ejaculating
take the lead in you sexual encounters by knowing what you are doing, where you are heading, and how to get there
build sexual energy, desire, and fire in her
replace harmful masturbation habits which train for fast, quick, sudden ejaculation, with techniques that teach you last longer and build sexual energy capacity
immediately start refocusing how you interact sexually with women so you can both enjoy yourselves more
By the end of Book One you will be on your way to accomplishing the first two personal milestones of masculine sexual energy:

Conscious Ejaculation Release
Going beyond the Magical 20-Minute Mark of fucking
After this, Book Two, “The Ins and Outs of Proper Fucking”, will prepare you for the final two personal milestones of masculine sexual energy:

3. Holding off through her orgasm/Ending sex without ejaculating
4. Becoming a multi-orgasmic, Post-Ejaculatory Man
Begin your journey of sexual transformation today, and go from a guy who fumbles around during sex, to a man who understands sexual energy, how to build, hold and maintain it in himself, and his partners so that pleasure, enjoyment, connection and intimacy flow between you, transporting both to far-off destinations which can only be explored by creating sexual energy through ejaculation control.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mark Bentley Cohen
• Release date: Jan 20, 2022
• ISBN: 9780993636028

Mark Bentley Cohen

Mark Bentley Cohen is a published writer, performer, workshop facilitator, counsellor, and outdoor enthusiast living in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Mark runs workshops on non-monogamy, bisexuality, and other topics around sexuality. He also sees bisexuals for one-on-one counselling.Mark believes that sexuality is fluid, and that there is an inherent need for continued sexual growth and exploration throughout one's life. Modern partnerships are slowly changing to accommodate those needs.Bisexuality is a queer thing indeed.Many bisexuals feel trapped by their yearning for both sexes, the dream of having a family darkened by the belief that they must either deny their desire, or lie about fulfilling it – neither of which is satisfying.It is Mark's hope that his work on this topic and ground-breaking relationship with Lianna will help people of any sexual orientation take the first small steps toward living a more authentic, fulfilling, and exciting life.Mark and Lianna are still happily married, non-monogamous, and very much in love after 19 years. They live together with their two teenaged progeny.Mark's one-man show, "Bi, Hung, Fit... and Married" is based upon "Confessions of a Bisexual Husband". The show premiered at the Vancouver Fringe in 2012 and has received rave reviews. It continues to delight, excite, and challenge audiences around the world.Please contact Mark to have the show performed at a venue near you.

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Who This Guide Is For

These books are meant to be instructional guides for men who want to fuck women. This is in no way a repudiation of any other type of sexual intercourse or sexual practise. As a bisexual man I’m well aware of the multitudinous varieties of sexual expression and exchange. Nonetheless, these books are focused upon men who want to improve their sexual experiences with women, for both themselves and their partners.

I assume you are looking for more authenticity, connection, pleasure, passion, fun, and fulfillment in your sexual exchanges with women. You enjoy women, enjoy sex, enjoy sharing, and exploring. You know you can create more through your interaction with others than you can on your own.

But these books aren’t of benefit solely to men. Women who like to fuck men will also gain valuable insights into the little-discussed topic of sexual energy in general, and masculine sexual energy in particular, and the importance of ejaculation control in all male/female sexual interactions.

Within these pages you will find clarifications to fundamental misconceptions about sex that are shared by us all, and which inhibit us all, preventing us from having the fulfilling, exciting, erotic, connected sexual encounters about which we all fantasize.

The goal of these guides is to increase the amount of sexual satisfaction both men and women experience within their male/female sexual encounters.

PART I

Mastering Your Masculine Sexual Energy

Chapter 1

Why Ejaculation Control?

When a man has no control over his ejaculation, he cannot meet his woman sexually or emotionally.

The Way of the Superior Man, David Deda

Controlling one’s ejaculation is a seminal pillar of a man’s personal power. This control is necessary for dealing with both women and the world at large. The motivation to gain control over one’s ejaculation is indicative of a deeper desire to gain control over one’s life in general, and masculine sexual energy in particular.

As adults making our way in the world, we struggle to gain control over our own destiny. What is the reach of my own personal power, and how much am I at the mercy of the world? What can I accomplish in my life? How do I measure up?

We explore these questions as they pertain to our professional, creative, spiritual and intellectual selves, and we also consider these in terms of our sexual selves. The desire to gain control over your ejaculation is also a desire for personal growth and maturity—not only sexually, but emotionally and interpersonally as well.

The transition from one who is at the mercy of his physiological response to one who can control his ejaculation is much the same as the transition from boyhood to manhood; from having others dictate the direction of your life to taking control of and responsibility for your own possibilities.

In order for you to tackle your life, meet the world on your terms, steer your own course, and make your own decisions, you need to know that you have mastered your own personal power and can say, No one dictates the experiences I have except for me.

This includes your ability to have satisfying sexual relationships with women. Feeling comfortable and confident about your sexual self is a source of personal power which is then channelled into all other areas of your life.

Healthy Relationships Depend on It

Mastering ejaculation control is necessary for having healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships with women. In order to fully engage with a woman emotionally in partnership—from an one-night stand to long-term unions—you need to know you can meet or exceed her sexual energy and satisfy her sexually.

If you can meet her needs sexually, then the emotional part can follow. But if you are insecure and fear her sexual energy and sexual needs, then little more can flow between you.

If you do not believe you have the ability to satisfy her sexually, you will never get over the feeling that she is not being completely fulfilled by you, that deep down her needs are not being met. True or not, this will affect you emotionally.

Which is why ejaculation control goes much deeper than a physiological response. One who does not have power over his most personal, private, intimate aspect of his being—the sexual response of his penis—does not have power over himself or his life.

Inability to control one’s ejaculation on a regular basis can lead to anxiety about having sex, erectile dysfunction, and a fear of interacting with women in general. Feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, jealousy, depression, anger, embarrassment, and shame can stem from and be affected by involuntary ejaculation. In extreme cases, this can also lead to anger at women in general.

Deep down, you may feel as if you are at the mercy of women, powerless in the face of the feminine. All they have to do is open their legs and you melt into a puddle of ooze.

We all have our fair share of issues around relationships and sexuality, but feeling inadequate and insecure because you cannot control your ejaculatory process need not be one of them.

There is a sense of personal power—no one can knock you off your pedestal—and of emotional connection, personal satisfaction, completion and fulfillment from knowing that you’ve satisfied your partner down to her deepest levels of desire and beyond.

With a wry smile on your face you caress her calm, soft body as she sleeps next to you. She has been emptied of all sexual need and desire because you have done your job.

Ejaculation Control is Fundamental to Proper Fucking

The most powerful sexual connection we know is when the man's penis is plugged into the woman's vagina, completing our human electrical circuit and allowing the unimpeded sharing of sexual, physical, and emotional energy.

Nothing enables a male/female couple to build sexual energy together, within, and between them like proper fucking.

In order to properly fuck a woman right down to her deepest levels of want, need, and satisfaction, you must enlist the full strength of your erect penis, and the entirety of your sexual energy, authentic sexual expression, desire, passion, and wanting.

This can only be done if you have not ejaculated. It is not possible to properly fuck a woman if you have released your sexual energy through ejaculation.

Intercourse is the most important time to hold off ejaculating, and it is also the most difficult.

In order to achieve proper