The Ins and Outs of Proper F*cking

By Mark Bentley Cohen

What is this series about?
This is a how-to series on sexual intercourse and intimacy for men who want more pleasure, fun, intimacy, connection, and fulfillment from their sexual experiences with women.

This series will take you on a transformative journey of sexual-self discovery, from a guy who fumbles around during sex, to a multi-orgasmic man who understands the importance of building sexual energy, and who can maintain his sexual energy - and therefore his erection - for hours and days while experiencing toe-curling, non-ejaculatory, tantric orgasms.

This is the new Post-Ejaculatory Man (PEM). The PEM is one who experiences sexual pleasure far beyond which he can achieve through ejaculation.

Sexual intercourse is the most powerful physical connection we know. It holds the promise of transcendent union between men and women. Unfortunately, intercourse is not fulfilling its potential. Find out why mastering control over your ejaculation – and therefore your masculine sexual energy – is the fundamental basis upon which having heated, fulfilling, intensely connected and orgasmic sexual interactions depends.

This series will open you up to deeper, greatly expanded dimensions of your sexual self, and therefore your sexual interactions with women. Discover the real magic of proper fucking, with its promise of connection, heat, passion, and transcendence, fulfilled.

Your sexual self-discovery in Book Two will include:
What does your authentic sexual expression look like?
How do you go from rush and fumble sex, to intimate, erotic sex?
Taking control of your sexual experiences.
Gaining the confidence you need to meet any woman, no matter how wild, sexy, or freaky she is!
How to get to deeper levels of connection, intimacy, fun, fulfillment, and satisfaction with your female partners.

This series will help you overall if:
you have no control at all over your ejaculation while having intercourse
your sex life is superficial, unsatisfying without feeling, unfulfilling
you feel insecure, lost, uncertain about what you are doing while having sex
you shy away from sex because you don’t know what you are doing

The books are easy to read, fun, funny, and chock-a-bloc with vital information necessary to a satisfying, fulfilling, heated sex life.

What is in Book Two
The book is structured to take you through each stage of proper fucking, with detailed information on every step.

In this book you will learn how to follow your authentic sexual desires, and express these desires with your partners, and why this is key to building sexual energy, and intimacy.

Find out how to transform “rush and fumble sex” into intimate, erotic exchanges by using time and space “slow the fuck down”.

Learn how to “speak the language of pussy”, and the importance of how, when, and where to touch her body and private parts while coaxing and beguiling your partners to pleasure.

Proper entry is crucial, for both you and her. Clear, step-by-step instructions on how to properly enter your woman to ensure a successful journey.

In order to experience the magic beyond the 20-minute mark, strategies and techniques are given to manage your intense sexual energy.

Achieving Personal Milestone #3, of holding off through her orgasm, or ending a proper session of intercourse without ejaculating, is the result of all your hard work. It is at this point where Personal Milestone #4, becoming a post-ejaculatory man, and having non-ejaculatory, tantric orgasms is realized.

With the completion of this book you will be the new Post-Ejaculatory Man, ready to meet the new, modern woman, and the intense sexual interactions which await.

May you go forth and spread joy and fulfillment with every encounter you experience!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mark Bentley Cohen
• Release date: Jan 20, 2022
• ISBN: 9780993636035

Mark Bentley Cohen

Mark Bentley Cohen is a published writer, performer, workshop facilitator, counsellor, and outdoor enthusiast living in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Mark runs workshops on non-monogamy, bisexuality, and other topics around sexuality. He also sees bisexuals for one-on-one counselling.Mark believes that sexuality is fluid, and that there is an inherent need for continued sexual growth and exploration throughout one's life. Modern partnerships are slowly changing to accommodate those needs.Bisexuality is a queer thing indeed.Many bisexuals feel trapped by their yearning for both sexes, the dream of having a family darkened by the belief that they must either deny their desire, or lie about fulfilling it – neither of which is satisfying.It is Mark's hope that his work on this topic and ground-breaking relationship with Lianna will help people of any sexual orientation take the first small steps toward living a more authentic, fulfilling, and exciting life.Mark and Lianna are still happily married, non-monogamous, and very much in love after 19 years. They live together with their two teenaged progeny.Mark's one-man show, "Bi, Hung, Fit... and Married" is based upon "Confessions of a Bisexual Husband". The show premiered at the Vancouver Fringe in 2012 and has received rave reviews. It continues to delight, excite, and challenge audiences around the world.Please contact Mark to have the show performed at a venue near you.

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THE INS AND OUTS OF PROPER FUCKING

Mastering Ejaculation Control

IN THE FIELD

by

Mark Bentley Cohen

Copyright ©2021 Mark Bentley Cohen

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Published by Proper Way Publishing * Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

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Cover Design: Mark Bentley Cohen

The Ins and Outs of Proper Fucking / Mark Bentley Cohen. – 1st ed. ISBN 978-0-9936360-3-5

Dedication

These books are dedicated to every single one of the extraordinary women with whom I have had the pleasure of being intimate. Without you, these books, the smile on my face, and the twinkle in my eye would not have been possible.

Con todo mi amor

Assumption Before Reading Book 2:

Congratulations! You have completed Book One, I’ve Stuck It In. Now What? You understand the need for ejaculation control. You have begun to practise ejaculation control while masturbating or with your partners. And you challenge the Magical 20-Minute Mark. This does not mean you succeed every time, but it does mean you have the understanding and the tools necessary to challenge this mark, and do so regularly.

Overall, you have:

noticed gradual improvements in your sexual relations

become comfortable with greater levels of sexual energy

found it a little easier to keep back from the edge, and

had fewer unwanted ejaculations.

And most importantly, you now know why ejaculation control is important. You understand the role sexual energy plays in building heat and creating orgasms.

You are now ready to discover the ins and outs of proper fucking.

Section 1

Introduction

The culmination of the work you have done in Book One, and the transformations which will occur as you make your way through this book and the final two Personal Milestones of Masculine Sexual Energy, is that the pleasure, satisfaction, and fulfillment you derive through your sexual interactions with women will have expanded far beyond the momentary fling of ejaculatory fun you used to believe was the entire experience.

This is the basis of my concept of the new Post-Ejaculatory Man (PEM). The PEM has evolved to the point where he experiences sexual pleasure which greatly exceeds any he can achieve through ejaculation alone.

He is beyond the ejaculatory experience; hence, post-ejaculatory.

As we all know, relationships have changed. The ways we do intimacy and sex have changed. The ways we express our sexual selves have changed as well. The new PEM is a response to these changes.

Deeper levels of sexual fulfillment await men in our interactions with women. And as such, much awaits all the women who are about to experience the new PEM.

At the end of this book you will find The Post-Ejaculatory Man-ifesto. This is the PEM defined, for the moment. As we all evolve and transform through new ways of interacting, these definitions will morph and evolve as well.

It is my intention to have as many men as possible open up to this new way of interacting sexually, emotionally, and energetically, for the benefit of all.

The Four Personal Milestones of Masculine Sexual Energy

As a refresher from Book One, here are the Four Personal Milestones of Masculine Sexual Energy:

Mastering the fundamentals of ejaculation control.

Having intercourse beyond the Magical 20-Minute Mark.

Holding off through her orgasms/Ending sex without ejaculating.

Becoming a multi-orgasmic man with non-ejaculatory orgasms.

About This Book

This book is broken up into the various stages of sexual intercourse, followed by Personal Milestones #3, #4, and through to the non-ejaculatory orgasm.

Pre-Entry: What to do before you enter her vagina

Penetration: How to properly put your penis inside a woman’s vagina

You Are Now Inside Her: Rules of engagement for penis/vagina pleasure

Beyond The Magical 20-Minute Mark: Strategies for managing your sexual energy once inside her

Personal Milestone #3: Holding off through her orgasm/ending intercourse without ejaculating

So Mark, When Do I Get to Cum? Guidelines for when to ejaculate

Personal Milestone #4: The non-ejaculatory orgasm

The Post-Ejaculatory Man-ifesto

Proper Fucking Means Ejaculation Control

All proper fucking is based upon ejaculation control. Ejaculation control and proper fucking are one and the same. They are mutually beneficial: one enhances and encourages the other.

Our primary goal when having sex and intercourse is to build sexual energy. For men, ejaculation is the release valve of sexual energy. Therefore, holding in ejaculation builds sexual energy.

And it just so happens that the steps a man must take to control his ejaculation are also the steps he must take to properly fuck his woman. Slowing down, stopping, and mixing it up are all elements of proper fucking. These steps benefit women as well as men, by contributing to the most important goal of having sex: building heat and sexual energy.

The Power of Sexual Intercourse

The most powerful sexual connection we know is when the man's penis is plugged into the woman's vagina, completing our human electrical circuit and allowing the unimpeded sharing of sexual, physical, and emotional energy.

Nothing enables a male/female couple to build sexual energy together, within, and between them like proper fucking.

In order to properly fuck a woman right down to her deepest levels of want, need, and satisfaction, you must enlist the full strength of your erect penis, and the entirety of your sexual energy, authentic sexual expression, desire, passion, and wanting.

This can be done only if you have not ejaculated. It is not possible to properly fuck a woman if you have released your sexual energy through ejaculation.

Intercourse is the most important time to hold off ejaculating, and it is also the most difficult.

To achieve proper fucking and make it beyond the Magical 20-Minute Mark, you must be able to have intercourse for prolonged periods, with the ability to repeatedly take yourself right to the very edge of ejaculation and then pull back, without going over.

As a master of ejaculation control, you will be able to take her to new heights of pleasure, new depths of intensity, and new feelings of connection, intimacy, and orgasm by giving her the prolonged, sustained, erotically charged, sensuous fucking she has been missing all her life.

You Are a Fucker!

Every couple has a fucker and a fuckee. As the fucker in this scenario, you are the driver of a sleek, nimble motorcycle. You are cruising along the road of life, looking for a sweet little hottie or two to get on the back and join you for an exhilarating ride.

You pull up to her house. She’s waiting for you on the curb, smiling and thrilled to be heading off with you. She gives you a big, unexpected kiss, puts on her helmet, and hops on the back, wrapping her arms tightly around your body.

This feels good already.

She has no plan other than to take an exhilarating ride to adventures unknown on the back of your motorcycle.

But as the driver of the motorcycle, you have to know where you are going and which roads to take. You are in charge of the timing, tempo, distance, and duration of the ride.

And because you’ve read Book One, you now know:

where you are heading: exploration and expression of your sexual desires

how to get there: you are holding off and cooling down so she can heat up and

Reviews for The Ins and Outs of Proper F*cking

[Chris Omodi · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Very helpful for anyone struggling with premature ejaculation. Good read!