Suddenly Single
By Jo Read
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Would it surprise you to know a third of women live alone by the time they reach retirement age?
Do you know someone who has become Suddenly Single due to divorce or bereavement?
Having built a life with someone else, divorce or bereavement means the future for them may look very uncertain as they struggle to accept and decide wh
Jo Read
Jo Read is a Chartered Financial Planner, but so much more. Her extensive experience of working with divorcees and widows means that instead of just helping to sort out her clients' finances, her holistic approach helps them to re-build their lives in a simple and fun way that keeps their dreams and ambitions alive.
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Suddenly Single - Jo Read
Introduction
My life changed forever, on a flight to Vietnam several years ago. Well, technically, it changed before that, as I found myself in a situation I thought I’d never be in, Suddenly Single.
Happily married and building a life together with my husband, it all suddenly came crashing down when one day my husband told me he couldn’t see himself spending the rest of his life with me. He’d made up his mind and nothing was going to change that, despite the tears, discussions, the trying to work out what went wrong along the way.
I went through all the emotions you can imagine – fear, loss, anger, guilt – but most of all I felt a failure. For anyone who knows me, that’s about the worst thing that could happen to me. I’m successful, a Chartered Financial Planner, a Fellow of the Chartered Insurance Institute. I thought I was in control of my life, but then that moment came when I wasn’t in control anymore. It unnerved me. It made me question everything about myself and my life. I had become Suddenly Single. And I didn’t know what to do with myself.
As a Chartered Financial Planner, every day I come into contact with women who are going through what I went through. The majority of my clients are women who are Suddenly Single too, either through divorce or bereavement. I help these women take stock of their emotions, take charge of their finances, and help them to take off in their new life. There’s a journey that I take them on, and that’s what I love; giving women back that control, making them happier, healthier, wealthier and wiser, through a combination of financial planning advice, together with emotional support and guidance.
So, as I say, I found myself on a flight, getting away from it all. As you do, I struck up a conversation with the woman sitting next to me. It turns out that she was on a ‘Thelma and Louise’ type adventure with three friends. She had met them at a local hospice where, sadly, their partners had all died of cancer. She asked me what I did for a living so I told her. And before I knew it, I was telling her how I’d become Suddenly Single, much like my clients, and had taken this trip to take stock.
She told me of her own story, the difficulties she had faced trying to make her own way through the financial maze, not seeking advice and ending up not knowing which way to turn and what was best for her situation.
Unfortunately, her story was not unusual.
She turned to me and said, People like you need to help people like us. You need to write a book for Suddenly Single people.
That was the defining moment. I knew what it was that I needed to do. My purpose was to educate and inspire confidence in Suddenly Single women, both emotionally and financially. I wanted to help them take control, so they’d be happier, healthier, wealthier and wiser.
And now you find yourself reading my book. I realised that what I was already doing with my clients on a daily basis could, and should, become a larger thing. I would be able to help more Suddenly Single women. Having gone through the experience myself, I was in a better position to understand what a huge life change this was. I am keen to build a Suddenly Single Community where Suddenly Singles can share experiences, get support, and have a place where they don’t feel alone.
I formalised the process that I had been going through with my clients for many years, which now forms the Suddenly Single Journey:
Module 1 – Take Stock. This is where you consider ‘where your head is emotionally’. There’s no point trying to deal with the practical aspects unless the emotions are addressed. We look at the current situation, what needs to change, and what the end result looks like. We begin setting goals at this point and start to look into the future, turning negatives into positives.
Module 2 – Take Charge. This is where it gets into the nitty-gritty: how to get back on track and deal with the practical elements and finances. There’s a client report and recommendations about how to move forward and understand what you have and what it can do for you. And then it’s go, go, go!
Module 3 – Take Off! This is all about putting the plans into practice, and achieving the goals set in the previous module. I ensure everything’s on track, and revisit three to six months down the line. If I need to tweak/update/re-evaluate at this point, I can do that. At the end of this module, all graduates should be fully in control of being Suddenly Single, and well on the way to their new life! Congratulations!
So what next…
The key to the Suddenly Single process isn’t just about getting finances in order. It’s about taking women through the emotional journey, providing support, understanding, and considering the bigger picture. The journey that I go on with my clients is about doing things in the context of what’s right for them. For example, if it’s the right time to up sticks and travel the world, I can help plan for that. If they want to sell their property or carry on living in it, I work out what the best solution is to help them achieve this and also to move forward and be content in this new life.
I want women to know that it’s OK that there are many other women out there who have gone through this major life change. Yes, there’s a lot of uncertainty, unknowns, and a feeling of failure. So, let’s share those experiences and knowledge and build a Suddenly Single Community, a place for women to get support, share ideas and recommendations. I want to raise awareness of the Suddenly Single woman so they can connect with each other.
I want to share my process with as many Suddenly Single women as possible because it’s helped many women turn their lives around and achieve things they never thought possible. I want to help women understand that Suddenly Single is a beginning, not an ending.
Where are you on the Happy, Healthy, Wealthy and Wise scale?
By the end of this book, I want you to be a