Adultery: The Snare of an Affair
By June Hunt
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In the first section of Adultery, June defines adultery and reveals the warning signs of adultery, such as change in mood, appearance, spending, etc. She provides practical ways and sound biblical wisdom in answering tough questions, such as—
- What can I do to ensure that I will be faithful when I feel attracted to someone beside my spouse?
- My husband had numerous affairs and now wants to reconcile. Should we get back together?
- Why does anyone get involved in adultery? Is it my fault?
- Is it wrong to try to find out whether or not my spouse is being unfaithful? If it's not wrong, what is the best way to do so?
June illustrates the consequences of adultery by retelling the story of David, a man of God who fell into the temptation of having an affair, which led to guilt-ridden "cover ups" and a strained relationship with God. She goes on to explain the causes, characteristics, and consequences of adultery, such as the—
- 9 false promises of adultery
- 9 characteristics of an adulterer
- 9 common reasons people get sucked into adultery
In the section titled, "Steps to Solution," June Hunt explains—
- How an adulterer can change—for good
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Adultery - June Hunt
ADULTERY
The Snare of an Affair
Look at how that long, lingering stare subtly becomes the snare. But how could this happen to him? He is their fearless warrior—determined and disciplined. And he is their king—held in highest esteem.
Yet one fateful evening, when he should be overseeing his army, he becomes mesmerized at the sight of a beautiful woman, consumed with lust for this married woman. Although he, too, is married, he forsakes his wedding vows and behind closed doors commits adultery.
Somehow this one, solitary evening of selfish pleasure has just opened the door to other unthinkable sins. Indeed his own sexual compromise leads to unimaginable consequences.
Has your life been gripped by the agony of adultery? Has your life been forever changed by the snare of an affair? Since marriage was designed by God to be a lifelong covenant commitment, He will judge those who break the marriage covenant.
The Bible states clearly that ...
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
(Hebrews 13:4)
DEFINITIONS
But David remained in Jerusalem
(2 Samuel 11:1). These ominous words foreshadow far more than a king who fails to join his army. It’s springtime. Weather conditions are favorable. Army provisions are ample. It’s the customary time for kings to go to war. But not King David! Instead, he sends his commander while his troops wage war without him. Meanwhile, he stays home, walking the halls of his palace. This scenario is most unusual because David’s history reveals he doesn’t hold back from battle, but rather runs toward it.
As a young shepherd boy, when an entire army cowers, David accepts an impossible challenge: He comes against the arrogant Goliath and kills the Philistine giant. Soon he is leading King Saul’s army into one victory after another. Then later as God’s next anointed king, he bravely goes to battle to consolidate the kingdom. Yet now with his military battling many miles away, King David finds himself in an entirely different battle and his defenses are dangerously down.
Interestingly, those who walk through the door of adultery assume, I won’t get caught. No one will know. It’s no big deal. Oh, how blind they are. They simply do not see how their own selfish choices will reap severe results. The Bible even warns ...
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.
(Galatians 6:7)
WHAT IS Adultery?
The king has been restless this particular evening, walking aimlessly around the roof of his palace. From the corner of his eye David notices light casting a golden glow across a reclining silhouette.
He looks, and soon his eyes are locked in a lustful stare. He gazes upon this woman—a very beautiful
woman (2 Samuel 11:2)—bathing by lamp light in her courtyard. Now he is transfixed and trouble is on the horizon.
As a man of God, David is familiar with all of God’s commands, including the seventh of His Ten Commandments: God forbids adultery. God expressly forbids sexual relations with another person’s mate.
But the king turns a blind eye to Scripture, so that he can scope out the enticing scene. Soon, his visual sin takes a strategic spin. First David sends someone to find out who the woman is, then he sends messengers to bring her to the palace.
He’s a married man, and Bathsheba is married too, but her husband is far away—ironically, fighting in David’s army.
So lust looms and blooms, which proves to be a pitfall. What happens next will forever change the course of David’s life.
She came to him, and he slept with her.
(2 Samuel 11:4)
Adultery is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and another person who is not his or her lawful spouse.¹ Spiritually, it means to apostatize or to stray away from the covenant with God.
Adultery,
the English word, comes from the Latin ad, which means to
and alter, which means other, different
(to make different, to alter).
Adultery
in Hebrew is the word naaph, which is first mentioned in the Bible, the seventh of God’s Ten Commandments.²
You shall not commit adultery.
(Exodus 20:14)
Misplaced Attraction
QUESTION: I find myself attracted to someone other than my wife. What can I do to ensure that I will be faithful?
ANSWER: At the very moment your emotions start turning from your wife to someone else, redirect your mind and emotions back to your wife. Realize that guardrails on mountain roads serve as constraints that compel us to stay on course and drive safely. They keep us from plunging off the road to destruction below. In the same way, guarding your emotions keeps you from plunging headlong into an adulterous affair.