Boundaries: How to Set Them--How to Keep Them
By June Hunt
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About this ebook
In Boundaries: How to Set Them—How to Keep Them, you will discover:
- How burdens are lifted with boundaries
- 6 biblical guidelines for setting boundaries
- How to identify and reestablish broken boundaries
- How to communicate boundary changes in marriage, friendships, the workplace, ministry, and with your children
- How to overcome false feelings of guilt and obligation
This easy-to-read guide is filled with frequently asked questions, simple explanations, relatable stories, and biblical solutions.
4 Key Features of June Hunt's Boundaries Quick-Guide Resource
1. Easy-to-Read. Provides solid information laid out in simple overviews, bullet points, and charts that serve up everything you need to know at a glance, including key terms and definitions, outlines and characteristics, steps to solution, and more!
2. Bible-Based. Discover more information and practical solutions straight from the Bible. Get helpful references and verses alongside the step-by-step tips from June Hunt's decades of experience in counseling!
3. Practical. Boundaries features key Scripture verses as well as compassionate and non-preachy counseling insights to help practically apply its message to your life. Enjoy having dozens of actionable steps that you can start today!
4. Relevant. Unlike other books on boundaries, this Hope for the Heart quick guide is laid out in an easy-to-follow format with key principles straight from the Word of God. Relevant Scriptures are outlined and formatted to clearly give you a step-by-step roadmap to help you build and keep boundaries that will restore and refresh your relationships!
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Boundaries - June Hunt
DEFINITIONS
Boundaries! They were vital when God brought forth something from nothing. One of the most vivid pictures of physical boundaries is recorded in the Bible when the Creator Himself poses a litany of rhetorical questions to the man named Job who is questioning the goodness of God.
Consider a few of these rapid-fire questions:
"Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation?
. . . Who marked off its dimensions? . . . Who stretched a measuring line across it? . . . Who laid its cornerstone? Who shut up the sea behind doors . . . when I fixed limits for it . . . when I said, ‘This far you may come and no farther; here is where your proud waves halt’?"
(Job 38:2–4, 8, 10–11).
God directly confronts Job’s wrong thinking, thus his heart becomes deeply humbled.
"I know that you can do all things;
no purpose of yours can be thwarted.
You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge?’
Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know. . . .
My ears had heard of you
but now my eyes have seen you.
Therefore I despise myself
and repent in dust and ashes."
(Job 42:2–3, 5–6)
What Are Boundaries?
Boundaries are such an indispensable part of daily life, they often exist unnoticed.
Physical boundaries say: My body is mine—your body is yours.
They keep us in our own lane and out of someone else’s lane.
Personal boundaries say: "I am me, you are you. This is my responsibility—that is yours."
Spiritual boundaries keep our eyes on God’s purpose for us and off His purpose for someone else. "God’s plan for me is this. God’s plan for you is
something else."
God created boundaries by establishing fixed limits, but He Himself is limitless.
"Great is our Lord and mighty in power;
his understanding has no limit."
(Psalm 147:5)
Boundaries are established limits
A marked limit of an area
Example: Sports—Many sports have marked boundary lines defining the playing field (e.g., for football, baseball, soccer, tennis). All competition is confined to that designated area alone. When competitors step out of bounds
or balls cross over the line, an immediate repercussion occurs (the action momentarily stops).
A limit creating necessary space
Example: Relationships—All healthy relationships have boundaries—rewards for right interactions and repercussions for wrong interactions. When someone becomes belittling, disrespectful, or destructive, this negative behavior creates the necessity for space between two people.
Limiting the relationship is appropriate at destructive times (e.g., when someone becomes abusive, addicted, or expresses excessive anger).
A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again
(Proverbs 19:19).
Boundaries are dividing lines
A line separating one entity from another
Example: Territories—Territorial borders are dividing lines (e.g., separating countries, states, counties, cities, even personal and business properties). The Niagara River divides Canada from the USA by forming the eastern boundary of both countries. To gain permission to go across the border of countries, people must possess passports. However, violators of passport or visa restrictions can receive the repercussionof being jailed or deported.
A line not to be crossed
Examples: Laws—Among civil law, drivers are not allowed to drive on sidewalks. A curb is a boundary. Because the boundary of a curb is the protective edge of a sidewalk, if drivers cross over the curb onto the sidewalk, they could experience numerous repercussions (e.g., killing a pedestrian, hitting stationary objects, receiving a fine).
Likewise, biblical laws are also lines not to be crossed. These laws (don’t lie, don’t steal, don’t envy) benefit all people and show them how best to live with one another. Those who break biblical laws experience numerous repercussions, thus losing the blessing of God.
Deuteronomy 30:19 states, I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.
Boundaries at the Beginning
of Human History
Physical boundaries are territorial lines that divide one area from