Domestic Violence: Assault on a Woman's Worth
By June Hunt
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About this ebook
This mini-book is a quick overview and is easy-to-understand. It focuses on the key issues and is perfect for the busy person who needs instant advice.
Included in the mini-book Domestic Violence: Assault on a Woman's Worth are abuse checklists with a list of behaviors that you may have observed or experienced. God has a heart for those who are victims of domestic violence. He wants you to know that he hears your cries; he thinks you are worthy of love without violence, and he holds you in the palm of his hand. Learn the causes of violent behavior and the reasons many women won't leave abusive relationships. This book will give you the tools to learn:
- How to answer a person who claims that violence is justified
- How to know whether the abuser has really changed
- How to build healthy boundaries
- How to prepare a safety plan
- And much more
God designed the marriage relationship to benefit one another. He intended married couples to love, honor, and cherish each other all the days of their lives, but life doesn't always turn out that way. In some relationships, cruelty has replaced the sacred relationship defined by God. The Domestic Violence mini-book outlines a Christian approach to help you identify and stop physical and emotional abuse.
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Domestic Violence - June Hunt
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Assault on a Woman’s Worth
This story is real. The facts are true.
He is prominent and highly esteemed, praised for his significant contributions to the community. What woman wouldn’t feel fortunate to be his wife? She certainly has all the finer things in life. And the children have the best that money can buy. How could she think of destroying such a picture-perfect family? How could she risk losing her security or stepping into an unknown future?
Where would she go? What could she do? How would she support herself? Even worse, if she began to expose the terrible truth, would she lose her children?
She feels hopeless. Who would believe her? No one could conceive that such a pillar of the community could pummel his wife night after night with painful punches. She is skilled at hiding her feelings, as well as her bruises. With swollen, tear-stained eyes, she wrongfully reasons, It’s mostly my fault anyway!
But her Creator God knows the undeniable truth:
You hear, O LORD, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry, defending the fatherless and the oppressed, in order that man, who is of the earth, may terrify no more.
(Psalm 10:17–18)
DEFINITIONS
God designed the marriage relationship to balance, to benefit, and to better one another. With the first marriage on earth, He created Eve to be the perfect companion for Adam. He intended the pair to love, honor, and cherish each other all the days of their lives, just as He intends for every married couple today.
But in too many homes around the world, the marriage bond has become bondage—shared lives have become shattered by abuse. Husbands are berating, belittling, betraying their wives. Yet these secret assaults stay hidden from the outside world. The sacred relationship created by God has been undermined by one mate hurting—even harming—the other.
Any form of abuse is a flagrant violation of the marriage vows, To have and to hold from this day forward ... to love and to cherish, ‘til death do us part.
And although such abuse is too frequently behind closed doors,
it is blatantly in open view before the eyes of the Lord.
Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
(Hebrews 4:13)
WHAT IS Abuse?
While abusive acts are committed by both men and women, in cases of domestic violence approximately 95% of victims are women.¹ Although abusive treatment has a long history of being tolerated socially and even legally, abuse has always grieved the heart of God.
In certain countries, wife beating is considered a cultural norm. The majority of health-care workers in those countries, both male and female, condone husbands using physical force against their wives under certain circumstances, resulting in abused women who are receiving little or no emotional support from the national health-care system. For example, if a Turkish wife criticizes her husband, the public supports his inflicting her with painful blows as her rightful punishment.²
Often, women suffering in other countries get little help from those around them, but help is available from Someone above them. God promises to be close to the brokenhearted, to compassionately care, and to comfort the abused.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
(Psalm 147:3)
Abuse means to mistreat, hurt, or injure.
³
Abuse and violence are often used interchangeably, although the word violence implies an escalation of abuse and introduces the element of fear of harm as a means of control.⁴
Violence, in Hebrew, is most often a translation of the word chamas, which means to wrong
or treat violently.
⁵Chamas is also translated as malicious, destroy, wrong, crime, ruthless, plunder,
and terror.
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God feels the strongest opposition against anyone who is abusive or violent toward another.
‘I hate a man’s covering himself with violence ...’ says the LORD Almighty.
(Malachi 2:16)
Domestic violence and family violence are the legal terms for physical spousal abuse, child abuse, elder abuse, or any other physically abusive relationship within the home or family.⁷
Domestic violence refers to a pattern of coercive and violent behaviors exercised by one adult in an intimate relationship with another.⁸
Domestic violence isnot an issue of marriage problems
or irreconcilable differences
solved by conflict resolution.
This kind of abuse ...
A—Affects everyone in the family
B—Bridges all levels in society: racial, religious, geographic, and economic
U—Undermines the value of others
S—Seeks to dominate others
E—Escalates in intensity and frequency
Spiritual leaders, community officials, family, and friends need to be responsive when informed of domestic violence. Abuse of any kind should never be tolerated nor hidden under the cover of male supremacy or godly submission.
To the contrary, the God of the Bible is our God of refuge—a stronghold of support and defense against