Domestic Violence is rampant…even in the church. 1 in 4 Christian women report being in an emotionally destructive marriage. 
In this episode you’ll discover when behavior crosses the line, how the church should handle these situations, and what women can do to get safe. Leslie will share biblical support for all of this crucial advice. 
 
Chapter #1 :43 A definition of domestic violence. 
Domestic violence is about controlling another. The Bible’s word for this is “oppression.” A person can hold “power over” someone physically, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually.  
 
Chapter #2 3:08 Can a woman be guilty of domestic violence?
A woman can be guilty of domestic violence toward her children because she’s bigger, stronger, and more able to use violent methods of control. That’s not as true with men. Men aren’t usually afraid of their wives but women are often afraid of their husbands. 



Chapter #3 4:30 Why would Christian men do this to their wives?
We see a lot of sinful things happen in the church because people are sinners. 
Sometimes men grow up in these kinds of homes and under this type of patriarchal teaching in their churches. 



Chapter #4 6:07 When does it cross the line and what is a biblical definition of leadership and submission?
When a woman is objectified…she is not a woman to love but an object to use, a role. God created us to have choices. 
God’s definition of leadership was not to “lord over” but to serve. 
 
Chapter #5 8:12 What about when a woman provokes her husband?
People get provoked all the time by all kinds of situations. Life is provoking. The question is really, “when I get provoked, who is responsible for managing me?” Moses was legitimately provoked by the Israelites; he lost his temper twice. God held him responsible for his temper outburst, not the Israelites. 
 
Chapter #6 11:08  What should a pastor or people-helper do when a woman claims to be a victim of domestic violence?
It’s important to understand how prevalent this is in our society:
Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually.

Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.

Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.

Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.

The costs of intimate partner violence in the US alone exceed $5.8 billion per year: $4.1 billion are for direct medical and health care services, while productivity losses account for nearly $1.8 billion.

Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence were twice as likely to abuse their own wives than sons of nonviolent parents.

As a church we must recognize when oppressive control is at play, even if it isn’t physical. It might be spiritual or financial but recognize it as sinful and serious. It’s still abuse. Treat it as such.
Chapter #7 15:55 What about submission?
Submission is a good discipline. Men and women are called to submit to one another. Submission is yielding your will to one another but it is not your will being taken by another. 
Submission is recognizing and deciding to lay down your will for the greater good. But it is a choice and not done out of fear. It is not just for wives.
All believers are