Envy and Jealousy: Taming the Terrible Twins
By June Hunt
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About this ebook
In this book, you will discover:
- ow to eliminate envy
- How to rise above jealousy
- How to have an attitude of gratitude
This easy-to-read guide is filled with frequently asked questions, simple explanations, relatable stories, and biblical solutions based on June Hunt's decades of ministry and counseling experience. It covers:
- Root causes and setups for jealousy
- Common topics such as comparison, resentment, favoritism, discontentment, coveting, etc.
- 14 key differences between envy and jealousy you should know
- 5 ways to eliminate envy and embrace joy
- and much more
From overviews of the story of Jacob & Esau to life-changing Scriptures to memorize, enjoy seeing practical advice and biblical support side-by-side!
3 Key Features of June Hunt's Envy & Jealousy Quick-Guide Resource
- Short and Simple Overviews.
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Envy and Jealousy - June Hunt
ENVY & JEALOUSY
Taming the Terrible Twins
You’ve seen many a two-year-old. They stand only knee-high to an adult, yet buck authority with the boldness of a bulldog. Their temper tantrums can topple the firm resolve of many a parent who finally gives in by handing over a toy or a treat. I’ll do anything to stop the squabbling and restore some sense of peace.
The one word two-year-olds never want to hear—except from their own lips—is No! This stage of child development, characterized by full-blown selfishness, typically occurs after a child’s second birthday. Sometimes it’s called the terrible twos.
Thankfully, this stage doesn’t last a lifetime. However, people of all ages can also experience the tyranny of another trying twosome. If not tamed, the terrible twins of envy and jealousy can last a lifetime.
These tyrannical twins are known to dominate and demand. They also hate being told no. But if not restrained, envy and jealousy can wreak havoc on relationships and ruin lives.
The Bible conveys this straightforward counsel on the emotion of envy:
"Let us not become conceited,
provoking and envying each other."
(Galatians 5:26)
line_optDEFINITIONS
Imagine a picture from the past. Imagine twin boys who tussle—both inside the womb as infants and outside the womb as adults. And all because these brothers fail to say no to the formidable twins of envy and jealousy.
Following a turbulent time in their mother’s womb, Esau first enters the world with Jacob right on his heels—his hand literally grasping his brother’s heel. The twins seem destined for dissension with their marked differences. Firstborn Esau is a brash, rash outdoorsman while second-born Jacob is a quiet, calculating son who enjoys the craft of cooking. Esau, described as "hairy," is his father’s favorite. Jacob, described as "smooth," is his mother’s unmistakable favorite. (See Genesis 25:26–27:11.)
However, the twins’ greatest struggle is not over their immediate differences, but rather the prized birthright blessing. According to ancient Hebrew tradition . . .
The birthright is bestowed immediately at birth to the firstborn son so that following the father’s death, this son inherits the leadership role over the family, along with compensation of a double portion of the father’s estate (Deuteronomy 21:17).
The blessing serves as a last will and testament
bestowed by the father, and is individualized for each son, usually calling on God’s power to accomplish His divine purpose (Genesis 49:28).
The birthright blessing is exclusively for the firstborn son related to his status as head of the household, calling on the Lord’s guidance for his life and future legacy.
And what a legacy! This legacy would be exclusively to and through the one inheriting this honored role! Promises had already been extended two generations prior—promises not from Abraham, but from God.
God’s covenant with Abraham contained guaranteed promises that would be passed down from Abraham to his son Isaac, then to future descendants.
From this one obedient man Abraham, God promises national greatness, national blessing, and a national homeland.
"I will make you into a great nation . . .
all peoples on earth
will be blessed through you . . .
All the land that you see I will give
to you and your offspring forever."
(Genesis 12:2−3; 13:15)
Thus, Jacob, the second born grandson of Abraham, feels intense envy toward Esau, who assumes the firstborn rights.
What Is Envy?
When the twin brothers become young men, the day becomes explosive when hunter Esau returns home with only one thing on his mind—his growling stomach. As soon as he gets a whiff of what Jacob is cooking, he impetuously yells, Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!
(Genesis 25:30).
Esau’s hungry eyes are fixated solely on the present —the steaming pot of stew. Yet, Jacob’s envious eyes stay focused squarely on the future—obsessing on the blessings—if only he can get that birthright. Jacob becomes determined to not let a spoonful of red stew reach his brother’s lips until Esau bargains away his birthright.
Finally, to satisfy his physical appetite, Esau foolishly yields his birthright—the inherited promises passed down from Abraham to Isaac and earmarked for Esau. The hungry hunter is willing to satisfy his craving at all costs, and that cost will be high! Because Esau belittles the value of his birthright, he falls prey to his brother’s envious scheme and blurts out . . .
" ‘Look, I am about to die,’ Esau said. ‘What good is the birthright to me?’ . . .
So he swore an oath to him,
selling his birthright to Jacob. . . .
He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright."
(Genesis 25:32−34)
Ultimately, envy ruins relationships. So what exactly is envy?
Envy is feeling resentful about the advantages, possessions, or successes of others, with a desire to possess what they have or to deprive others of what they have.¹
Envy is feeling distress over