Perfectionism
By June Hunt
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Freedom from perfectionism begins at the point of truth—God's truth. In this quick reference minibook, June Hunt unpacks key Bible verses to deepen your understanding of what it means to be made "perfect" in Christ. Experience the freedom that comes from replacing your fear of failure with the unshakable truth of God's unconditional love.
Unmask the Root Causes of Perfectionism and Find out Practical Ways to Stop the Cycle of Perfectionism (and OCD)
- Get key definitions, such as what is the difference between perfectionism disorder and a pursuit of excellence? How can I know if I am stuck in an unhealthy pattern of perfectionism?
- Find out the signs and common characteristics of a perfectionist. Discover how the drive for perfection can take its toll on you physical, mentally, and spiritually.
- Discover practical solutions rooted in the Word of God on how to find freedom from perfectionism (and help others break the cycle of perfectionism). Explains how to overcome obsessive thoughts, set-up realistic goals, manage time effectively, accept failure, understand God's unconditional love, and pursue excellence.
- Dive into relevant stories that shed light on God's perspective of perfectionism, including the familiar story of "Mary and Martha."
The Bible is filled with true stories about people who are far from perfect. Even God's greatest servants had flaws and experienced failure. But God's unmatchable grace, picked them back up time and time again, and empowered them to soar to even greater heights of service.
The challenging question is: How do you free yourself from the chains of perfectionism? According to God's Word, you gain freedom by claiming your new identity in Christ. This minibook Perfection: The Performance Trap shows you how to confidently walk in your new identity in Christ—free from the burden of performance.
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Perfectionism - June Hunt
PERFECTIONISM
The Performance Trap
For perfectionists, the pressure is always on, and the performance never stops. All of life is lived under the glare of an unforgiving spotlight. The smallest blemish, the tiniest flaw, or the slightest mistake is sure to raise an eyebrow and silence sought-after acceptance.
Perfectionists are performers, but they are also prisoners chained to the opinions of others—their self-acceptance invariably linked to cherished accolades. Overlooked crumbs on the kitchen counter leave a perfectionist humiliated before guests. A student’s self-worth plummets if a record of high-scoring As is broken by an unbearable B.
Even when compliments do come, such praise provides only a fleeting moment of pleasure because now the bar—the measure for self-worth—is simultaneously raised even higher.
Instead, God’s plan is that we aim for excellence, not perfection, to accomplish our personal best with the gifts He gives us, using the power He provides.
If you are caught in the performance trap, stop and rest in the unconditional love of Christ. Stop and rest in the unconditional acceptance of our Savior. Stop your need to perform perfectly today. Let your last curtain call be the final curtain on performing perfectly for others.
You need to know that you are called to live for an audience of one
—and only One—the Lord Jesus Christ, who loves and approves of you just as you are, crumbs on the counter and all.
Instead of living for the approval of others, you can learn to say what the apostle Paul says ...
We make it our goal to please him ...
(2 Corinthians 5:9)
DEFINITIONS
Guess who’s coming to dinner!
He’s a special guest, their personal friend—it’s Jesus Himself. So everything must be perfect. Martha has invited Jesus to share a meal in her home, and she’s all abuzz with her busy work. Only the best is suitable for the Prince of Peace.
Martha focuses on the menu. It must be fit for a king, but not just any king. After all, Jesus is the King of Kings. In addition to cooking, there’s sweeping and dusting and all the other details. Martha ponders, plans, and prepares, and now upon Jesus’ arrival, she’s completely distracted by what’s yet to be done. The Bible specifically states, Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made
(Luke 10:40).
No doubt—as endeared friends of Jesus—both Martha and her sister, Mary, often listened to Him speak to the multitudes. They heard Him say, Be perfect ... as your heavenly Father is perfect.
Did this mean He expects all of His hearers to be sinless in thought, faultless in deed, flawless in character?
To understand the heart of Christ on perfectionism, realize that you may need to rethink what perfection means in order to gain a biblical perspective.
WHAT IS Perfection?
Jesus, the Perfect Man, arrives at the home of His close friends Mary, Martha, and Lazarus, and the conversation is compelling. But notice the contrast: Martha fixates on food for the stomach, while Mary feasts on food for the soul.
Both have their focus on Jesus, but Martha frets over what goes into His mouth, while Mary focuses on what comes out of His mouth. Mary relishes every word uttered by the Wonderful Counselor. While Martha flits, Mary sits at the feet of Jesus, inspiring her spirit and soul.
The diverse behavior of the two sisters prompts a lesson from Jesus about biblical perfection. The one scurrying in the kitchen—not the one sitting at His feet—is the one who needs the lesson. After all, Jesus said ...
I tell you, do not worry about ... what you will eat or drink. ... Is not life more than food?
(Matthew 6:25)
Two Different Distinctions
THE CONTEMPORARY CONNOTATION
Perfection means being faultless, flawless, sinless, entirely without error—free from defect.¹
The Bible describes God in this way: As for God, his way is perfect: The Lord’s word is flawless ...
( 2 Samuel