The Marriage Intern

By Shaune Scott

The Marriage Intern, a unique story that is practical and should make sense, even to the non-believer. God created marriage and most importantly, God created you. The Marriage intern is packed with questions that are thought provoking, it heightens the psychological, emotional, and social processes to help you soul search and fact find.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WBDC LLC
• Release date: Oct 14, 2014
• ISBN: 9780692313138

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Copyright © 2014 by Shaune Scott

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Published in the United States by WBDC Publishing.

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I would like to dedicate this book to the people who earnestly seek to have a successful relationship God’s way.

THE

MARRIAGE

INTERN

Contents

Acknowledgements

Introduction

The Beginning

Awakening

Catharsis

Revelation

Inspection

Silence

The Interview

Authority

Rarity

Orientation

The Contest

Penetration

Transition

Rebirth

The Workbook

WORKBOOK

The Difference between a Job and Career

& The Importance of Interning

Lesson One - pg. 107

What is marriage and reasons for it?

Lesson Two - pg. 114

Views of marriage

The Biblical view of God’s word

Lesson Three - pg. 120

My personal story and former philosophy

Lesson Four - pg. 123

Learning about marriage through divorce

Do you remember your vows?

Lesson Five - pg. 127

Emotional Development

Lesson Six - pg. 132

What information are you using?

Lesson Seven - pg. 136

Fact finding

Getting to know your core

Lesson Eight - pg. 141

The benefit of others teaching us about ourselves

Acknowledgements

I want to first give thanks to my Heavenly Father for giving me the vision for this book. Second, to my lovely Wife for supporting me in my endeavors, and for being a true helpmeet. Third, to my awesome Daughter, for inspiring me to push through. I would also like to thank: Bishop Gerald Long, may he rest in peace, and his first lady, Roni Long, for their prophetic words that have come to pass in my life; Bishop Dale C. Bronner, for being a Spiritual Father igniting purpose in my life, and Anita Wilder, for being a Spiritual Mother; Kemet Hetep, for being a lifelong Big Brother; and my high school football coach, Rodney Parker, for his timely spiritual encouragement.

My gratitude also goes out to my editors, Meredith Tennant, for helping me organize my first book, and Kelly Suellentrop, for final touches; Professor Tommie Frison, for assisting me with his candor and scholarly insight; Angela Crayton, for providing her graphic touch; and Samuel Huddleston, my accountability partner. A special thanks to all the couples who participated in the creation of the workbook.

Last, but not least, I want to thank my parents, Esther Williams and Everett Scott, for bringing me into this world.

Introduction

The inspiration behind this book motivated me to illustrate how we shuffle through life with no sense of direction, making decisions based on feelings without carefully considering logic. Have you ever thought about how our personal relationships can be directly correlated to a job or career? When making decisions, what is the foundation of our choices? Are they short term or long term?

In any relationship, you should be clear about who you are and the role you play. In order to know your role, you must first understand who God created you to be. How you operate in your earthly relationships is a direct reflection and indicator of your relationship with God. As a result, we cannot fulfill our desired roles as men and women if we are lacking knowledge in Christ. We run into confusion, dominance, misdirection, and turmoil because we have no clue of our spiritual, physical, and psychological identities.

As a starting off point, ask yourself these preliminary questions at your leisure. Do you have the heart and transparency to admit the truth? Will you have the courage and tenacity to seek God in all you do? How hard will you train to build your relationship muscle?

This book will make you evaluate or reevaluate yourself. It will test you in ways you would never imagine. Will you continue to be comfortable...or reposition yourself? Get lost in the pages of The Marriage Intern, a physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual assessment of you and your life.

Follow the story of Michelle as she takes you on a journey of discovering who she is. This book will intrigue you as you witness Michelle travel through these profound stages of introspection. Watch how her life unfolds as she becomes molded by her experiences, and don’t be surprised if you find a glimpse of yourself in every flip of the page.

The Beginning

Michelle never seemed to have luck in landing the perfect job. She didn’t know any of the right people, and nothing ever fell into her lap. She had to look the old-fashioned way: door-knocking, looking in the newspaper, cold-calling. She would find a decent job and stay with it for a few months, but it inevitably was not the right fit. In the interim, she would pick up temporary odd jobs along the way to sustain herself. She was good at secretarial work, assisting, and organizing, but she did not like it; it felt menial to her. She did those jobs just to survive, and she possessed no college degree, so it was tough.

After months of not finding any permanent work, Michelle went to the library to read the classified ads in the newspaper in hopes of finding more job opportunities, and to fill out the additional applications she received from previous inquiries.

Hey, Michelle!

She spun around to see a guy with a clean trimmed beard smiling at her. She had no idea who he was.

Remember me? In high school you treated me like dog crap.

That jogged her memory.

Timothy, how are you? She was excited to see him. I’m sorry I was rude. I had a lot going on back then. I didn’t really mean it, even though you were a nerd. She gave him a teasing look.

Timothy came back with, Yeah, nerd paid off.

Looking him up and down, Michelle replied, It sure did. What’s going on? How are you?

I’m great; I’m almost married.

Almost? What does that mean?

Timothy explained, I’m engaged. She’s great, and I thank God for sending her my way.

So are you still living here in Warren? asked Michelle

No, I live in New York, but I’ve been fortunate enough to visit my mother here and recruit for business as well.

Good for you, replied Michelle. I’m actually looking for work. Unfortunately, I still live here with my boyfriend off and on. I plan to move to Cleveland when I get some things in order.

Timothy asked, So what is off and on?

Michelle explained, That’s none of your business. But you’re a nerd, so figure it out!

Timothy replied, I see you haven’t changed a bit.

Michelle laughed. All jokes aside, Timothy, Deran lives with me from time to time. That’s all.

Yeah, I understand how that is. What’s your number? Maybe we can keep in touch.

Michelle was shocked. My number? Why? You’re engaged.

Yes, I know that. But you said you’re looking for work, right?

No, I didn’t. I said I had to get some things in order.

Oh, okay. Well hey, no problem. You have a good day and nice seeing you again.

Whoa, he thought as he walked away. Am I crazy? I could have sworn she said she was looking for work.

Crazy, thought Michelle, walking in the opposite direction. I don’t know why men try to have their cake and eat it, too. I could have sworn I told him I live with my boyfriend. I’m not giving him my number.

Michelle continued searching for employment. She was tired of being broke and feeling empty. She really wanted to utilize her artistic abilities and strongly desired something in graphic design. All of her friends were in their desired jobs or careers, and she felt inadequate. She had something to prove deep down inside, but her actions spoke otherwise. The thought of a graphic design career would require some time, knowledge, commitment, and endurance.

Michelle came from a broken home. Her father, whom she loved, left home when she was eleven. Her mother constantly slandered his name, telling Michelle how she should never, ever trust a man. Michelle had experienced so much heartache and pain growing up.

One day she sat down, physically and mentally debilitated, and thought about all her past troubles with jobs and relationships, ones that she lost, and ones that she quit. She started to question herself and found that she wanted to put herself to the test by overcoming the way she was raised, which had caused her unhealthy thinking and poor relationship skills. She realized that her skewed thinking and immaturity had caused missed opportunities and failures. She wondered if burnout from starting work at a young age and missing out on her adolescent years contributed to her lack of certain relational skills. Michelle thought about her personal and professional decisions, which were impaired by her false perception of self, a true product of her past. Although she continued to use the same operating system since childhood, she never changed her thinking because she thought her thinking was normal.

Michelle was unwise for quite some time. Like most of us, she wanted to run her own program. In this life we think we can do what we want to do and live freely from purpose, when in reality our lives are not our own. We are all children of God bought with a price. There is also a price you pay for not living the life that God would have you to live. Everyone has a purpose, even the wicked for punishment (Proverbs 16:4).

No one had ever challenged Michelle to correct her unhealthy thinking, which perpetuated her dysfunction. Michelle thought the world owed her something; she walked around with a sense of entitlement. Like many, she could never seem to let things go, staying bound by her emotional pain. She grew up and took her pain everywhere, because she did not have the boldness to confront the past that was wreaking havoc on her current behavior.

Consequently, Michelle had no problem with acquiring entry level paying jobs; she just could not sustain them. She would quit before allowing herself to learn the lesson, or connect with the person she needed to meet who could possibly add to her character. She did not capitalize