How Great a Love: Faith, Forgiveness, and the Father
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Kyle A. Smith
Kyle A. Smith is the Director of Youth Ministry at St. John United Methodist Church in Scott Depot, West Virginia. He also regularly writes at www.HKOG.org.
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How Great a Love - Kyle A. Smith
Preface
I sat there across from the therapist and was explaining how my life had fallen apart. He had me take a test to check my mental state. Upon reviewing my answers, he told me that I was severely depressed. I had no disagreements with that assessment. I had always been a happy-go-lucky person that meandered through life with a constant smile. All of my joy seemed to have been drained from me. I knew that I was a shell of myself. Worst of all, for the first time in my life, I felt as though I was not loved.
Over the following year, God reminded me again and again that his love for me—for all of us— never dissipates based on life’s circumstances. He not only brought me through the darkest time in my life, but he also revealed to me an aspect of himself that I had overlooked for far too long: he is our loving father. My faith became renewed, and I felt his affection in ways that I had never experienced before. My hope for this book is that you will come to know that you are God’s child, and you are loved beyond anything that you can ever imagine.
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Dad
There are many ways in which someone can view God: king, creator, giver, warrior, judge, etc. The way that I most often view God is the way that Jesus introduced to us, father. Father is a loaded word. For some people, it elicits positive feelings. You think of the love, warmth, joy, and fun that your father provided. Your mind drifts off to family vacations, holiday traditions, going to sporting events, and the myriad of other memories that brings a smile to your face. For others, unfortunately, it may conjure up the negative emotions of disappointment, abandonment, hurt, or shame. Sometimes fathers are not who they should be and leave a wake of pain in their path. I am one of the lucky ones. I have a great and loving relationship with my father. That may be the foundation of why I view God the way that I do. Throughout this book, I am going to share stories from both the Bible and my life that speak to God as our father.
The concept of God as father was not a new concept in Jesus’ day. In fact, there are several passages in the Old Testament that allude to viewing God in this way. You can look to Jeremiah 31:9, where God says, For I am a father to Israel.
Malachi 2:10 speaks to this as well, Have we not all one father? Has not one God created us?
There are a few more passages, but this way of viewing God was not widely prominent before Jesus’ incarnation.
This changed when Jesus took on flesh and began his earthly ministry. We first see this in Luke 2, when Jesus was twelve years old. His family had gone to Jerusalem for the Passover feast. The feast was finished, and they were heading back home to Nazareth. It would have taken them about a week to make the trip. After the first day, Mary and Joseph looked around for little-boy Jesus, but he wasn’t there. Let’s cut his parents some slack here. They were traveling with a large group of friends and family and assumed he was in the group. After all, they would have made this journey many times. After frantically searching among the travel party, they realized that Jesus was nowhere to be found.
Panic set in. I think any parent can imagine the emotions that would come along with not knowing where your child is. Now, imagine that you’ve lost God’s son. Mary and Joseph must have been heartbroken and scared beyond comprehension, wondering what had happened to their son. Finally, they decided to check the Temple. This would have probably been the last place where they saw him. Lo and behold, there sat Jesus, not yet a man, amongst the religious teachers, amazing them with his words. It took them three days to find Jesus. This wouldn’t be the last time that Mary lost her son for three days.
Mary was hurt when she found her son. Scripture doesn’t say, but I believe we can surmise the thoughts that were going through her mind. It was probably something like, We have been searching all over for you! We didn’t know what had happened to you. We didn’t know if you were dead or alive. Here you are, just sitting here as if nothing is wrong!
Those may have been her thoughts, but what she asked was, Son, why have you treated us so?
Then Jesus said these astonishing words, Why were you looking for me? Did you not know that I must be in my father’s house?
The word ‘my’ is a gamechanger in that statement. The first recorded public event of Jesus’ life was him referring to God not only as the Father but as my father.
This was beyond the Jewish understanding of who God was. When they referred to God as father, it was much more as creator, which was the chief way that they viewed God. When Jesus referred to God as father, he was suggesting intimacy. This is not a reference to a God who is a million miles away. No, this is talking about an up-close, personal God. The concept of who God is was much different for Jesus than those with whom he was sitting.
Jesus takes this concept of God even further throughout his ministry. He explains to us over and over again that God is our father as well. This is most prominent in the book of Matthew. Eighteen different times, Jesus said either your father
or our father.
This is a big deal. With these words, Jesus is informing us that we are invited into that same, intimate relationship with the Father that he has. He is telling us to shift our image of God from the white-bearded deity in the sky to one who deeply cares for and loves us. This was a radical and revolutionary statement in ancient Israel because that’s not how they viewed God. Sadly, it is still a radical and revolutionary statement today.
How we view God has not changed much over the past few thousand years. The Jews viewed God as one who would bless them if they did well and punish them if they failed. This is seen in the encounter in John 9. Jesus and his disciples were walking down the road when they saw a man who was born blind. One of the disciples asked Jesus, Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?
That was the prevailing mindset at the time. Because this man had a disability, God must have been punishing either him or his parents. (Much, much more on John 9 to come in chapter 7 of this book.) God was the eternal judge, holding the cosmic scales of right and wrong in his hands. As long as you were doing well, your life would go well. The minute that you faltered, God was out to get you. The thing that this god most cared about was people following the rules. There were hundreds and hundreds of rules, most of which were man-made.
We have yet to shake that image of God. This is the basis for the heretical prosperity gospel that is very prevalent in our world today. You are promised health and wealth as long as you uphold your end of the deal. This god operates much like interest on your savings account. The more you put in, the more you will get. But rest assured, the prosperity gospel preachers haven’t cornered the market on this notion of God. On the other end, there are the legalists. Really though, they’re two sides of the same coin. Legalists see God as the almighty judge who is ready to strike down all the heathens who can’t follow the rules. They believe that the most important aspect of the relationship that you can have with God is to fear him. Not fear in the biblical sense which means to revere and be in awe of God. This fear is synonymous with going to the principal’s office after getting in trouble at school. God exists to keep you in line. If you get out of line, then he’s going to drop the hammer on you. The only sort of love that is involved here is tough love. Both of these postulations of the character of God are travesties. They do not line up with the God that we see in the Bible. They create a god who wants more and more from us, whether that be to give more or to be more. With this being the only god that many hear about, it’s no wonder why so many have left the faith or have no interest in it. There can be no real relationship with these gods. We will work ourselves to death trying to please them and always coming up short. These polluted images of God do not suggest, as Jesus does, that he is a loving father.
In the first of his three letters, John had this to say at the beginning of chapter 3 (via the Holman Christian Standard Bible), Look at how great a love the Father has given us that we should be called God’s children. And we are!
You will be hard-pressed to find a more beautifully written verse in scripture. We are God’s children, and he is our father. How amazing is that! The Bible does not speak about a distant god, but a god who is near to us. The same God who created all that there is in this world and beyond, who put the stars in their place, and set our solar system to revolve around the sun, is the God who most desires to be in a deep, meaningful relationship with you. Why? Because we are his children, and he is a perfect and loving father. That is all that there is to it. It doesn’t make sense to us. We will never understand why perfection is so infatuated with imperfection. We will never understand why God so loved the world
when much of the world is hard to love (John 3:16). We will never understand why God chooses us to be his children while we often choose other gods. These are the mysteries of faith, but it is who he is.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t think, when talking to him, that I have ever called my earthly father father.
I have always called him dad. Father just sounds too formal to me. Dad suggests a closer relationship. In fact, the first word that most children learn is dada.
Brennan Manning, who you will hear from throughout this book, explains it like this in The Furious Longing of God:
American child psychologists tell us that the average American baby begins to speak between the ages of fourteen and eighteen months. Regardless of the sex of the child, the first word normally spoken at that age is da—da, da, daddy. A little Jewish child speaking Aramaic in first-century Palestine at the same age level would begin to say ab—ab, ab, Abba
. . .
Jesus is saying that we may address the infinite, transcendent, almighty God with intimacy, familiarity, and unshaken trust that a sixteen-month-old baby has sitting on his father’s lap – da, da, daddy.¹
God is not just our father, but he is our Abba. He is our dad. Our relationship is not built on formality and unfamiliarity. No, it is built on closeness. This is how God differs from all other deities throughout all other religions. Every single other god that has been created since the beginning of time is an impersonal god who stays separated from the people. The relationship between false gods and devotees is simple, work to achieve approval.
Sadly, this is a common trait amongst earthly fathers as well. I have been involved with sports all of my life, namely football. I have been both a player and a coach. Far too often, I would see dads only tell their children that they were proud of them if they played well. I have seen