Trust the Circle: Understanding God's Design for Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
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What if sex, gender, and sexuality were designed to tell a much greater story than we could ever imagine? What if we had a part to play in that story? With gentle compassion and steadfast truth, Ryan Andrew Smith explores what the Bible says about sex, gender, marriage, and sexuality in a way that will appeal to Christians and non-Christians alike. A great resource for individuals, groups, and churches, Trust the Circle also presents ways that Christians can engage our sexually evolving culture with grace, love, and truth. Regardless of your views regarding sex and sexuality, you will find this resource helpful in understanding what the Bible says about these important and timely topics.
Ryan Andrew Smith
Dr. Ryan Andrew Smith serves as the Lead Pastor of Arrow Heights Baptist Church in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. He has a Doctorate degree in Apologetics from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, a Masters of Divinity degree with Languages from Gateway Seminary, and a Masters of Theological Studies degree from Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Ryan is also the author of Not That God: Trading the Believable Lie for the Unbelievable Truth.
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Trust the Circle - Ryan Andrew Smith
Also by Ryan Andrew Smith
Not That God:
Trading the Believable Lie for the Unbelievable Truth
Do you ever have trouble reconciling the goodness of God with the waiting, doubt, tension, and tragedy you see in the world? Does the voice of doubt ever whisper, What on earth is God doing?
Gospel-centered and biblically saturated, Not That God discusses weighty themes in an honest, approachable, and conversational way. Through the lens of John 11 (The Death of Lazarus), Ryan helps us see how God is glorified even in the most unexpected of circumstances.
If you have ever had a question about God, wrestled with an aspect of His sovereignty, or simply think you already know all there is to know about God, you may be greatly helped by this book.
TRUST THE CIRCLE
Understanding God’s Design for
Sex, Gender, and Sexuality
RYAN ANDREW SMITH
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To my amazing wife, Allison, and our
wonderful children, Kelen and London.
You are continual signs of God’s love, grace, and mercy to me.
To my mom and dad.
Thank you for your continual encouragement and support.
To my beloved church family.
Thank you for walking the road of trusting
Jesus Christ together with me.
To all those struggling to understand their
place in God’s story of sex and sexuality.
My prayers are with you as you read this book.
May God illuminate His path for you.
Ultimately, to God my Father, Creator,
Sustainer, Savior, and Friend.
May this be used in Your hands for Your
glory among Your people.
It would seem that our Lord finds our
desires not too strong, but too weak.
We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink
and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like
an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies
in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the
offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.¹
—C. S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory
¹ C. S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory: And Other Addresses, (New York: Macmillan, 1949), 26.
CONTENTS
Part 1: Introduction
Part 2: The Right Goal
Part 3: What Is Biblical Gender?
Part 4: What Is Biblical Marriage?
Part 5: What Is Biblical Sex?
Part 6: What Isn’t Biblical Sexuality?
Part 7: God’s Call To Biblical Sexuality
Part 8: Lovingly Engaging Our Friends And Neighbors With Truth
Part 9: Sex And The Local Church
Part 10: Conclusion
Afterword
PART 1
INTRODUCTION
What Is This Book?
This is a book about sex.
This is also a book about gender, marriage, sexuality, and a host of other things.
More than any of those things, however, this is a book about God.
The truth is either there is a God or there isn’t. This God has either created us, our world, and everything in it or He hasn’t. If He has created, either He is personal and involved with His creation or He isn’t. If He is personal with us, it would only make sense that He communicates with us. But is there a God, has He created, is He personal, and has He spoken to us?
The Bible and the person of Jesus answer all those questions with a resounding yes! God is there. He has created. Not only is He personal, but also He has spoken with us and given Himself to us that we might understand His creation, His character, His provision, His goodness, His glory, and what it means to follow a perfect God in a broken world.
If God has spoken to us, it means He cares about us. It means that in a world where we often seem confused and are looking for what is true, God knows the path that is true, and He wants us to follow Him on it for our good. It also means there are dangers to be avoided outside of God’s path that we may not perceive, understand, or even consider dangerous.
I don’t know why you’re reading this book, but I want you to know why I wrote it. I didn’t write it because I wanted to write a book about sex. You’re probably not reading this because you wanted to read a book about sex either. I wrote this book because I believe God is real, and I love Jesus. I trust Him. As I’ve tried to trust and follow Jesus in my life, I have often failed. I have also seen the natural consequences of that failure and don’t want to repeat those mistakes, though I often do.
While veering from God’s good and expressed path, we might feel good, excited, even right.
Something within us cries out for the adventure of forging our own path, writing our own story, and making our own destiny. When we walk away from God or deny His very existence, it can easily seem like we are on the edge of something new—something exciting—a path that leads away from what is known. To be honest, the path away from God is not new and exciting; it’s actually very old, well-worn, tried, and has been found lacking.
In today’s culture, the path away from God is the well-lit path, and it may seem that everyone is on it. It’s the inviting path, and there are many who encourage you to walk it. But is it the right path? Is it true? Does it actually lead to flourishing, joy, peace, and ultimate love? Is it good?
I’m writing this book to call from a different path. In fact, while the path I’m calling you to may not be well lit in today’s society, it is well worn by the feet of those who have trusted and followed it in all of life for the rest of life. It’s a path as old as time yet more relevant today than you can imagine. The voices that call to it may be quieter, but I want you to listen for them. They celebrate and agree with the voice of Jesus in the book of John when He says, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to