Rage to Freedom: Surviving Domestic Violence as an Overseas Filipino Worker

By Iniga

Is there life after one leaves an abusive marriage? Yes. There is also hope. Here is one story of how a working mother in a foreign land faced the pains, heartaches, problems, and emotional turmoil that go with an abusive marriage and how she worked her way towards freedom and towards becoming a whole person again.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Partridge Publishing Singapore
• Release date: May 29, 2018
• ISBN: 9781482854145

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Copyright © 2015 by Iniga.

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Gratitude for the encouraging feedback on the first drafts, Aurelio Rico Lopez III.

Contents

Introduction

Why I Stayed

The Details are Fuzzy

The Depression

The Kids

A Daughter’s Pain

The Vulnerability

What Helps? (…once you are out.)

My Hope

Introduction

Why am I writing this, you might ask.

For starters, let’s talk about what this book isn’t about.

This is not meant for me to gain fame, or to exact vengeance at my ex- husband (for that would only mean I consciously hurt my kids in the process.) This is not to say ‘I am right and he was wrong’. It takes two to tango, so I’m sure I have contributed (albeit unknowingly) to the demise of my marriage.

What this book is about, lies at my desire to save other marriages from a similar fate. I believe domestic violence does not always have to end in divorce or separation. But for marriages (and ultimately, families) to thrive beyond spousal abuse and domestic violence, we must first STOP putting too much responsibility on the abused to get out of it