Excuse Me! I’M Single Not Desperate: A Christian Girl’S Quest to Finding Mr. Right

By Fatima Andrews

Excuse Me! Im Single Not Desperate is a book exclusively for any Christian girl who trusts God for a partner to get out of a potentially toxic relationship and to facilitate them to rediscover Gods best for their lives. Finding the right partner can be a daunting experience without the aid of our daddy, God.

This book will assist you to determine what you actually need and never become too desperate but to wait on Gods perfect timing.

This book will help you learn about:
The dangers of cohabitation;
If Im all that . . . why am I still single?
The friends-with-benefits syndrome;
Recognizing guys with destructive personalities;
How do we deal with breakups?
How to let go of the past;
Getting out of an abusive relationship;
And how to pray for your ideal partner and much more.

Open up your mind and heart and discover the love of God through your pursuit of ultimate fulfillment in your future relationship. Remember to wait patiently for God to act on your behalf so that you can only experience the abundance of Gods blessings.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Aug 1, 2016
• ISBN: 9781524661342

Fatima Andrews

Fatima Ronel Andrews is a professional educator, businesswoman, and copastor. She is married to Rev. Dr. Ambrose F. Andrews, senior pastor of God is Able Ministries in Geluksdal, Brakpan, South Africa. She is a loving mom of three: Lu-Thaila, Ambrose Jr., and Skylar. She also coauthored a book together with her husband titles The Fight is On, based on spiritual warfare. She is also the co-owner and executive head of a private Christian academy for early childhood development.

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Dedications

My late grandmother, Alice; who believed that

every girl can find her prince in the most unlikely places

To my beautiful and talented daughters; Lu-Thaila and Skylar who have taught me valuable lessons in raising godly girls

Acknowledgements

I would like to thank

My heavenly father… for loving me unconditionally and grant me the ability to act on the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

My hubby and children… for supporting and encouraging me to follow my aspirations, dreams and never give up. But to keep on dreaming. Your love and support keeps me going on.

My family (Solomon- family) for raising me into the strong and independent woman that I am today.

My mother-in-law… Rose Andrews for your acceptance and caring love towards me and for giving birth and raising a loving, strong and spiritually gifted son destined just for me. I love you always.

Contents

Dedications

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Chapter 1: What is true love? … The love factor

Chapter 2: Cohabitation… My nest… your nest… our nest.

Chapter 3: The one-sided relationship… I don’t love you back

Chapter 4: The road to finding Mr. right

… Singleness is a blessing

Chapter 5: Prince Uncharming… angel with a personality

of a demon

Chapter 6: How to break up… without being the wicked witch from the west.

Chapter 7: If I am so all that, why am I still single?… undateable perfection

Chapter 8: The waiting game… to wait or not to wait

Chapter 9: Why girls are so attracted to the bad boy image?… Falling for the bad boy

Chapter 10: Dating for the first time.… Help I’m clueless

Chapter 11: What makes guys tick faster than a digital clock?

Chapter 12: When the unsuitable asked you out.…

the adork- able nerd

Chapter 13: A prisoner in an abusive relationship… when love hurts for real

Chapter 14: Burned and Bruised… letting go is the hardest thing to do

Chapter 15: Friends… with benefits… intimacy with a price

Chapter 16: Before I say I do defining my checklist… for Mr. Right…

Chapter 17: Praying for your partner/soulmate:

Bibliography:

Introduction

Have you ever wondered why God fashioned you the way you are right now? You asked yourself why did God make you You and so different? You appear in the mirror and you view yourself as average and nothing special. Be better if you were more beautiful, have nice hair, a thin body, etc. You often wondered would your life be gentler. I’ve asked myself millions of times the same inquiry as a budding teen on the verge of maturity.

I felt so awkward and just strange. It was though I couldn’t obtain a hold on my psyche, I couldn’t figure out what I want out of life or where I’m I heading to.

God called me into a deep relationship with him early in my lifespan, but I didn’t understand half the spiritual ways of God. I grew up with my loving grandma since I’ve been in nappies. She was the old time religious people. She served in a denominational church and later on she become born-again at a tent crusade she was sold-out for Jesus. She loved me so much and make it her life’s mission to teach me the ways of God. Never underestimate the prayer of a faithful mother.

I become born-again during a student home cell meeting in my second year of college. I however hold a vivid memory of my conversion. I remember I cried so much when I experience the power of Jesus love. It was on 24 February 1992. Since then I wanted to live for God in all purity.

It was a time where our peers started to seriously date some even had casual sexual hookups with their boyfriends or random boys they have gathered in clubs and parties. I resolved that in order to become what God desires me to become, I need to remain pure and focus.

During an evening of meditation in my room the Spirit of God drops an idea into my spirit. I reflected more often close about my future and during that night I’ve taken off to form an idea of penning a book for young Christian girls on dating and making a checklist for their desired mate.

This script is not a dating bible, merely a scout to find your own Mr. right. It is a battle of its own.

I’ve been asked out at the College but deep inside of me was a spirit of unease and hesitance and I couldn’t just take anyone offer in being their girlfriend, because I wasn’t spiritually ready. Trust me, I wanted to date, but because of the checklist God would say no when I wanted to enter a relationship. In the process I knew hearts would be broken by rejecting genuine interested guys. Only I couldn’t risk making a move without God’s blessing. Everything began to become uncomfortable when everyone around me started to enter relationships and my parents sometimes wonder if something was actually wrong with me. Because I would just reject advances at family gatherings, weddings etc. They didn’t realize what it was to wait on God’s perfect and divine appointment. I knew what I want from God, I knew what I need. I didn’t know how to get the things I want though because I was still a baby Christian who didn’t recognize how to declare and decree or using my faith muscles to draw in whatever you confessed, let alone how to train for the spiritual conflict that was about to unfold. As time got by during my college years the pressure was mounting up. My close friend was in serious relationships that would eventually lead to some kind of commitment like engagement or marriage.

I simply couldn’t understand why I was so afraid for relationships. The fear of making a wrong choice that will precede into an unsatisfactory commitment. It went like a depressing game that has no conclusion. In one instance. I had a cute best friend whom I totally adored, he loved to get me on dates and I even open myself up just to slack up and enjoy the company of a boy. I’ve even considered strongly just letting myself date him. We were compatible and we just generally loved each others companionship. I prayed and ask God’s permission, but surely it was again a big No why God? He possessed all the qualities that I like, but God brought me backwards to my checklist and he hadn’t yet met the first essential must –have. His level of faith. He wasn’t really born-again. He was nice, didn’t smoke or love excessive partying and all that. But in the eyes of God he wasn’t the best choice for me. Years of frustration follow. It really became hard to just follow God’s direction. Sisters sometimes waiting on God can take a toll on your patience. You feel alone, pressed down, frustrated and truly fed-up. But is it worth it. God was there for me in the midst of my tears of frustration, hopes and aspirations. When I felt all alone and I couldn’t trace God, He was still there at my bedside to minister to me.

I was too proud to chase boys or use my charms to get them closer, I kept them at arms distance. In my (senior) fourth year one anointed man of God, A respected prophet prophesied over my life; he laid his hands on me and got a vision from God and declare that God has someone specially designed for me. I was destined to marry a pastor. I wasn’t really interested in that sort of a thing because as a young Christian it didn’t make sense because I didn’t ask God on my checklist for a pastor. I just shelved the prophesy. Let me tell you one thing. If you are considering to become a professional you want to marry a