My Queen: the Beauty in You: Embracing Her Beauty and Understanding Her Treasures
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From Eve to Sarah to Estherand from mothers to wives to sistersGod has given women their own unique roles to play. But how do we learn to see the beauty in ourselves the way God does, and what does it mean to honor the women we love? My Queen: The Beauty in You uses the stories of women in the Bible to illuminate the lives of todays women in fresh new ways. It also shows us that those who cultivate a culture of valuing women help create peace in their homes, their communities, and the world as a whole.
My Queen speaks to every woman, young or old, married or single, widowed or divorced. Even those who have been abused or abandoned will learn that God often uses the worst circumstances to bring out a womans best qualities, empowering her to define herself rather than letting events define her. No matter where you are in your life, your uniqueness as a woman deserves to be celebrated!
But My Queen is not just for women. Men will gain insight into the female psyche and learn what listening to and incorporating womens wisdom can contribute to their own lives. Author Chienyem U. Uchime Opara even uses intriguing plant metaphors to help womenand those who love themunderstand and nurture themselves. Poems, along with space to add your own photos and notes, can further aid you on your journey. Discover the woman God intended you to be; learn how to honor the women you love.
Chienyem U. Uchime Opara
Chienyem U. Uchime Opara earned a bachelor’s degree in biology with a minor in psychology. She is a teacher; she has one daughter and enjoys writing songs and poems, and singing. This is her first book.
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My Queen - Chienyem U. Uchime Opara
Copyright © 2017 Chienyem U. Uchime Opara.
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The summary of the story of Cinderella in this book is based on the version written by Charles Perrault in 1697.
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Contents
Preface
Introduction
PART ONE
TO MEN AND WOMEN
Chapter 1: The Creation of a Woman
Genesis
Time Factor
The Serpent
The Virgin Birth of Christ
The Restoration of Humankind
Chapter 2: The Nature of a Woman
General Qualities of Women
Representations of a Woman
How God Worked With Some Women
Chapter 3: Womanhood
The Flower
The Threefold Symbol
Why Plants?
The Summarization of the Threefold Symbol
Chapter 4: Her Splendor
Chapter 5: Grasping Her Beauty
The Key
Blissfully Ever After
New You
PART TWO
TO WOMEN
Chapter 6: Your Throne
You’re a Queen
Your Duties
The Young Queens
Chapter 7: The Troubled
The Abused and the Rejected
Widows
The Cinderella in a Woman
Women Without Source, But…
The Prayer of a Woman
Chapter 8: Maintain Your Beauty
Maintaining Your Physical Beauty
Your Authority
How You Lay Down Your Authority
How to Refill and Keep Radiating
How to Develop Psychological Immunity
Hold Your Authority
Your Threefold Symbol
PART THREE
TO FAMILIES
Chapter 9: Appreciate Her
Gratitude
Conclusion
Endnotes
Bibliography
Glimpse
This book is
dedicated to my daughter, Lily-Darling, for her understanding and encouragement. Let glory and honor be to God who chose me and enrolled me in his school where I learn through my observations, questions, relationships, and experiences. I wish grace in your lives, as you and I are determined to show kindness.
Preface
A man walking on a rocky path came across a shiny metal and stopped. He picked up the metal, looked at it, and began tossing it between his hands. When he got tired of playing with the metal, he dropped it on the path and continued on his journey.
Another man walking down the same path came across the same shiny metal. The luster of the metal caught his eye and he stopped. He picked up the metal and started to examine it. He decided to take the shiny metal home to research it. On discovery that the metal was gold, he went back to the same path and found more gold. He took the gold home and kept the pieces clean and secure. When hardship struck, the gold he saved helped him to survive.
Information makes a difference. Information increases awareness. It equips the mind and helps someone to make better choices. An informed person is knowledgeable and empowered. Understanding and accepting the worth of what you possess determines how you handle it and the level of protection you give to it. The way you see yourself and others affects how you value yourself and others.
The Scripture says, My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge
(Hos. 4:6 KJV). Today’s societies are filled with tons of abused and sexually violated girls and women, gender discrimination, broken families, and hurting women. The manner in which women are regarded in many societies and how women see themselves and present themselves could be linked to how people view the female gender, which depends on how knowledgeable people are about feminine qualities.
Through my observations and questions, I have found that people who mistreat girls or women do not have either the true knowledge or enough knowledge of the worth of the female gender. Some individuals see women as property; some see them as entertainment; and some see them as objects for services and satisfaction. Sadly, some women do not delight in their feminine identity and regret their natural identity as women. And some women do not uphold themselves in honor but disrespect themselves and present themselves as items for trade. Lack of self-acceptance leads to a lack of self-love and low self-esteem.
Also, I have found that some people do understand the worth of women but scorn the female gender because they are struggling to acknowledge women’s outstanding qualities and value. Often, such struggles cause individuals to develop contempt for the female gender and eventually be abusive to women.
A man once asked a woman, Why should you be recognized? Are you a queen?
Obviously, many men do not understand or have not accepted that their wives, daughters, and other girls and women are natural queens. And many women do not know or believe that they are queens who should honor themselves and who deserve to be esteemed.
It is common to hear people address their daughters or young girls as princesses and chant the phrase women first.
I suppose the questions would be these: Does the word princess
truly make sense to people, or are they just using it as a pet name? Does the world truly understand the meaning and the position of a woman? Is the phrase women first
genuine, or is it just a fancy coat of deception? Should the female gender continue to be exploited due to the canker of ignorance and the immoral act of hypocrisy?
My Queen: The Beauty in You shines light on who a woman is. It uses biblical events and stories, nature, poetry, and short stories to explain the origin, qualities, and importance of women. The activities in the book are designed to make womanhood more tangible and less abstract to people, especially women. My desire for every man who reads this book is to truly understand the beauty in a woman, develop a better perception of women, and become determined to relate to his wife, daughters, and other girls and women meaningfully and with regard. My desire for every woman who reads this book is to discover herself, her worth, and her identity as a natural queen called for a purpose, and to master how to uphold her beauty.
It is worthwhile to take a moment to appreciate the people who have an impact on your life. That is, the people who have influenced you or have been or are currently there for you. With this in mind, this book ends with gratitude to female children and adults who have touched or do touch many lives in positive ways and, above all, gratitude to God, who fashions families.
Gratitude:
To a daughter who is loyal
To a sister who is true
To a wife who is loving
To a mother who nurtures
To a niece who is lovely
To an aunt who is kind
To a grandma who cares
To God for families
Introduction
B efore you read further, I would like you to stop and think. Take a moment and reflect on how you value women or how you value yourself as a woman. If you are a woman, on the next page, attach your favorite picture of yourself and write sincerely about how you regard yourself. If you are a man, attach your favorite picture of your wife, daughter, sister, niece, mother, aunt, or grandmother and express how you view her as a woman. You may choose to do either of the above, but I encourage both picture attachment and written expression.
45410.pngWhat are your thoughts about yourself? What are your thoughts about your female relative? Despite your thoughts, acknowledge that every living body needs to be governed by the person who possesses it to maintain its position, contents, orderliness, and existence. We obtain the ultimate purpose of our creator when we understand the beauty in us and in others and master how to manage our lives and talents. Imagine how beautiful it would be if every person understood the qualities of a woman and every woman was appreciated as a female. To be able to value yourself and others, it is necessary that you discover your identity, worth, and purpose. Life becomes fulfilling when a person understands his or her foundation, abilities, and purpose and determines to see the beauty in others.
It is necessary for men to understand that women are generous and supportive when they are happy and feel safe. It is important that each man takes the time to understand and appreciate women, especially the wife God has given him. A man’s wife is often his foundation for success. A man can achieve most of his plans with his wife beside him. This is because, when in danger, an assured and happy woman becomes a fierce lioness who jealously protects her territory against predators. A married man who wants to be successful should endeavor to be kind and at peace with his wife. He should, by both words and actions, strive to reassure her of the security in their relationship and his love for her because he who finds a wife [whom he loves and cherishes] . . . obtains favour from the Lord [her creator]
(Prov. 18:22 RSV).
It is also essential for each woman to discover the beauty in herself and humbly uphold her worth. If both sexes come to acknowledge the natural qualities and responsibilities of women, it will help alleviate several psychological struggles and conflicts, such as contempt, self-hate, an inferiority complex, low self-esteem, and power struggles, which usually lead to abuse and violation of the self or others.
Every woman is a queen to herself and the people around her. Being a queen is a position and a duty God bestows on every female when she is conceived. Every woman deserves to be admired, cherished, and honored, regardless of her age, status, or condition. A woman is the only who can dethrone herself. Therefore, though challenges are part of life, it is very important that a woman masters how to flourish and how to continue to blossom despite the scorching heat of the sun or the killing cold of frost.
God has called every woman to be submissive. However, do not be timid; be self-assured and respectful. Though you are not a queen nominated by the people’s vote, but a naturally positioned queen, remember that men highly desire recognition and respect. Most of the time, when a man feels recognized and respected by his wife, he tends to show love in a tangible manner. Genuine love from a respectful wife often satiates the desires and infatuations of her husband, especially if he is a godly man. The sense of being gratified helps her husband combat greed and the urge to covet. It is important that each person carries out his or her duties without arrogance but with true love for others. After all, the stability of the human race depends equally on both men and women.
Furthermore, widows and women who have been abused or rejected should understand the power of beauty and regeneration they possess. Often, negative events, if used constructively, bring out the best in people. Though you are afflicted, you will never be moved, for your future does not depend on flesh that dies or on daily events that pass away. Rather, your future depends on your creator’s testimony about you and how you handle his declarations concerning your life. Believe the report of the Lord and do not fear. You do not need to be perfect to occupy your post as a queen. In the Scripture, when women who experienced ugly events realized the natural beauty and authority conferred on them by God, they turned out to be priceless vessels in the hands of the Lord.
Therefore, do not let events define who you are; let who you are define your events. In other words, live beyond your circumstances