Why Are You Hurting Me?: Understand Why People Hurt People

By Shirley Young

Have you ever wondered why someone you love would hurt you?
Are you in pain and want to stop the hurt?

Are you hurting others and want to stop?

What are the signs of a hurting person?

This book answers these questions and walks
you through some simple steps to healing the hurt.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jul 29, 2011
• ISBN: 9781465340191

Shirley Young

I was born in a small town in Indiana. My parents had five children and I was the youngest of all my siblings. I’ve always had a love of drawing and art since I was a young child. Some of my best memories are of growing up at our home out in the country, and five acres that had a pond where I used to fish a lot. I grew up learning how to work in the garden at a very young age as well. My summers were spent on our old front porch swing talking with my dad. I remember in the fall, canning fruits and vegetables from our garden and fruit trees. The old home has since been knocked down, but I will always have my memories. I also got my love of animals and music from my father.

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Copyright © 2011 by Shirley Young.

Library of Congress Control Number:       2011912844

ISBN:         Hardcover                               978-1-4653-4018-4

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                   Ebook                                      978-1-4653-4019-1

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Contents

Introduction

First Concern

Chapter 1.   Transference of Pain

Hurt Person Number

Hurt Person Number

Hurt Person Number

Hurt Person Number

What Do They Get Out of It?

Chapter 2.   Everyone Has Been Hurt

Chapter 3.   Patterns

Chapter 4.   Healing

Steps to Healing

The Way Out

Chapter 5.   Healthy Relationship

Marriage

Widow or Divorced

Communication

Set Standards

Learn from the Past

Stop the Cycle

Do the Work

Conclusion

Relationship with the Creator

Introduction

It is impossible to think of anyone who has not been hurt sometime in life, but the question becomes, what will we do with that pain? The purpose of this book is to help us understand why people hurt people. Then we move on to show how to heal and get help if necessary. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; on the contrary, it takes a lot of courage and strength to say to another person, I need help. You may be the person that is being hurt or the person doing the hurting. Either way, you are going to need to talk to someone; keeping it inside is the worst thing you could do for yourself and those you love. We all have heard the saying Hurting people hurt others. Sometimes it is a child who gets hurt because they are the closest one to that hurting person. For the sake of the next generation, let us take a look at