Dear Therapist: My Wife Is Pregnant With a Child Neither of Us Wants
Our birth-control methods failed, and we can’t afford a second child financially or career-wise.
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Dear Therapist,
My wife and I recently discovered she's about six weeks pregnant. This is devastating news for both of us. We have a 17-month-old daughter and we planned on having only one child. The birth control we had been using failed. I tried to have a vasectomy nine months ago and my wife objected at the doctor's office without citing reasons. She said she would get an IUD instead, but she was unable to get the IUD, because doctors had to remove a fibroid first. She learned about the pregnancy at the
