Woman to Woman: Straight to the Point

By Dr. Cierrah S Perrin and Joy C Stewart

Women are a strong, powerful force of nature. We can do it all, and more. But sometimes, life throws a curveball in our way and we need to take a step back to regroup, rethink, and reassess our situation.

We carry the weight of all the items on our never-ending to-do lists. We meet challenges head-on. Oftentimes, though, we forget to refil

• Language: English
• Publisher: Perrin Professional Group
• Release date: Dec 30, 2017
• ISBN: 9780999647738

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Day 1

Start Somewhere

Every 24 hours, we have an opportunity to get our sh*t together. Don’t depend on the 365th day of every year to change your life. Each day requires discipline. Change is not instantaneous. It demands constant attention. If you are uncomfortable with yourself, your energy will die, and it will become visible to others. To prevent this from occurring, you must do something that makes you feel good and kill the negativity from your perception of yourself. Some days, you just have to create your own sunshine.

We have become so used to seeing the result of people winning materialistically, we have no idea that winning spiritually precedes it. Self- love isn’t just bubble baths and face masks, it’s owning up to your sh*t and accepting your flaws, encouraging yourself to do better. How many times have you looked in the mirror and did not like who you saw? Do not be surprised, many women have felt this way, at some point in their lives -- and whether it is the pressure of career, motherhood, being a wife, being single, or just life that is wearing you down, it is important that you do a self-checkup. When you feel this way, you must remind yourself that self-love is under constant construction.

It is essential that you know you are beautiful just the way you are irrespective of the standard the society classified as beautiful. It is important that you rediscover your unique beauty because that is the only way you can stand out. Instead of allowing life to get you down, do something that makes you feel good to shift that energy. Each time you look at the mirror, find beauty from within. So, when you wake up on a morning and nothing seem to be going right and you just aren’t feeling yourself, instead of getting depressed about it, reflect on the ingredients that make you uniquely special, i.e. all the good qualities you possess. Remind yourself, check yourself.

Constantly remind yourself of how far you’ve come, instead of focusing on how further you have to go. Always find a release in the days of self-doubt, whether it is yoga, singing your favorite song, dancing to the beat of your favorite song, meditation, etc. Many times, we fall victim to superficial beauty. Seeing women with long hair in magazines and makeup crew that beautify them each day is ideal, but not realistic. It is not my intention to degrade the celebrities or models that have this luxury, but to make women realize that intrinsic beauty sustains the body, spirit and soul. Extrinsic perception of beauty is a temporary gratification of the mind. Which would you rather have?

Woman to Woman: There was a time in my life when I thought that I had to reduce who I was for others to be comfortable in my presence. By doing this, I took something away from myself that made me feel incomplete and less beautiful. See, I had to learn that everyone is not going to embrace me. Just because you have a lot of people in the audience does not mean they are fans. Some are critics, while others are spectators, waiting for you to break down. I learned that true beauty comes from within. Self-love cannot be measured according to the fallacies of life. Feeling good in my skin supersedes any amount of satisfaction that I am yet to reach. It is important that every woman recognizes the importance of inner-beauty before diverting love to anyone else.

Day 2

If You Correct The Cause, The Condition Will Go Away.

People can be so invested in you but aren’t investing in you. Good relationships just don’t happen. They demand effort, prayer, love, patience, and two people willing to get through hard times. There is only one thing more precious than our time and that is who we spend it with. You change for two reasons: either you learn enough that you want to, or you have been hurt enough that you have no other choice. At some point in your life, you are going to have to demand what you deserve and be willing to walk away if what you require can’t be provided. Dig deep and become in tune with yourself. Some won’t know how to deal with it because the deeper you become, the more truth you reveal. And the truth scares the hell out of some people. Don’t try to change anyone, just simply change how you deal with them.

Take inventory and see whose expiration date has passed. Cut the poison out of your life. No matter what or whom it may be. It is very imperative to make sure that there is no dead weight weighing you down. Often, we are afraid to take inventory in our lives to see who no longer serves a purpose. The very person beside you that appears to be helping you row the boat could be secretly causing it to sink. There comes the point in your life when you must re-evaluate priorities and take accountability. This means that you must go down the list of the people in your life to see if he or she is a hindrance to your personal growth. I believe there are certain seasons that particular people are supposed to be in one's life. However, I too have made the mistake of having lifetime expectations for people with seasonal roles. After realizing that this mistake was hurting me, I came to the point that I realized who was significant; realizing who was a blessing and who was simply a life lesson. The process wasn't easy. It's hard to disassociate yourself from people who are familiar, but it is very critical for your