Healing Journey

By Dolly Little

For the first five decades of her life, Dolly

wore her inferiority complex like a second

skin. It was so much a part of her that she

didn't even

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookTrail Publishing
• Release date: Feb 8, 2021
• ISBN: 9781637670156

Dolly Little

For the first five decades of her life, Dolly wore her inferiority complex like a second skin. It was so much a part of her that she didn't even know it was there. Possibly nobody else did either. At the age of four she was told, by her birth Mother, 'big girls don't cry'. So from that time on she didn't!! Except when she absolutely couldn't help it and then she would go away on her own so that she wouldn't be a nuisance or make anyone cross with her. It was the age when children were seen but not heard. Just before her eighth birthday her Father left without saying 'Goodbye' and this resulted in her Mother having to put Dolly and her little sister into foster care. There were three homes, the first was only temporary whilst a permanent one was found. The second was not a happy experience for Dolly but the third was just magic. She felt so lucky to be a part of Mum's family. In decade number six there were many changes in Dolly's life, she walked away from a thirty year marriage and set up home on her own, not an easy thing to do. Many new friends came into her life and between them they managed to teach her how to value herself. It took a lot of patience and persistence but gradually the healing took hold and is still continuing today. By helping others she found that she was helping herself too, magic.

Book preview

Little Brother

There have been special people in the past

I’m sure it’s true.

But for me, the eternal die was cast

When God made you.

Thank you for touching my heart with love

Awakening joy within me.

It surrounds my waking and sleeping from above

Gently setting me free.

So many tears of release have been shed

Puzzled by deep emotions

I try to follow where I am being led

By exciting new notions.

Earthly time together will be short, I know

But love never dies.

So when it is time for you to go

Gently break the ties.

I know in my heart that you will

Only be a thought away

You have often told me so, but still

Roll on Reunion Day.

Precious Time

Time is precious; do not waste it on looking back with regret or forward with indifference because you think that you do not deserve anything better. Live for now, begin again today, make a fresh start.

All the unhappiness and wrong turnings taken are behind you. They cannot be changed, but you can. Today is a special day, as special as you can make it or want it to be.

You deserve all the good things in life, as much as anyone else, but it has to start in your heart. Like a little seed, let love grow, soon it will get stronger and so will you.

The first step is the hardest, but once taken, there is no turning back. What you give to others will be returned tenfold if only you try it. Start with a smile; if you do not get one back, never mind.

Keep trying; do not give up.

After a while, you will look at things in a different light. Colours will be brighter, the songs of birds will sound more joyful. It may not be plain sailing all the way, but it will really be worth the effort.

Peace

What a precious gift is peace. She can come and go in the twinkling of an eye. If you give her the chance, she will surround you with a glow of warmth and gentleness.

But just the slightest discordant sound or interruption, and she disappears like a shy child behind her mother’s skirt when visitors arrive.

Then you have to coax her back bit by bit. Have you noticed how much easier it is for her to be with you during meditation?

Why not sit down in a comfy chair and close your eyes. Picture a little room that has not seen the light of day for years.

Mentally open the door and walk in, draw back the curtains, and let in the sunlight and the sound of sweet bird songs.

How about a spring clean? Get rid of the cobwebs, change the covers on the chairs, shake the rugs, and in the future, when every day interruptions get in the way, there will be no need for panic.

You will know that she will never be far away. Just in her little haven that you have made especially for her, and you can join her anytime, anywhere, any day. Just close your eyes.

As you and she grow stronger together, the separations will

become less, and the confidence you share will be a source of great joy to you and everyone who loves you.

Joy

Joy is waking up in the morning knowing that you haven’t got to jump out of bed quickly and rush to work. To be able to lie there for a few blissful minutes, wriggle your toes and snuggle the duvet under your chin and grin.

Joy is opening one eye and discovering that the sky is blue and the birds are singing their little socks off. It seems as if they are doing it just for you. What a way to start the day.

Joy is finally doing something you have put off for ages, and when it is done, you feel as if a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You feel as if you could fly up to the sky.

Joy is seeing your children fully grown up, healthy, and happy making their own way in the world, with families and pets and great expectations. Send a prayer that their wishes do come true.

Joy is looking forward to each new day with anticipation, just knowing that something great will happen, even though you might be passed the first flush of youth. The young do not have the monopoly on schemes and dreams.

Joy is a feeling in your heart. It makes you smile, chuckle even, seemingly without reason. It’s that good to be alive, feeling that comes when everything in the world is right with you. You cannot measure it but do, please cherish it.

Choices

When you were young, maybe you didn’t realise that you could make a choice. You were told what to do, what was right, and what was wrong. The difference between good and bad. If you were lucky, you were given values and standards to live by.

But those values and standards belonged to those who, in good faith, passed them on. To become yours, you had to choose which felt right for you personally. This could sometimes take ages.

Teenage years is a time when many reject what has been taught, out of hand, with no better reason than, they want to be themselves and nothing like their parents, guardians, or whoever is in authority over them.

Then you fall in love, and you will do anything to make your new partner happy. The sun shines out of you know where, and maybe you get a bit blinded because you are seeing everything through rose-tinted glasses.

The next development is the arrival of offspring, and suddenly, the boot is on the other foot. You are the teacher and the setter of standards and values. Have they changed at all since you were little? If so, is it for the better or not?

Perhaps over the years, they were slowly whittled away. This is nobody’s fault but your own, you allowed it to happen. It takes strength of character to stand up for what you believe in when those around you are decrying it as old-fashioned.

The longer you allow this state of affairs to exist, the harder it is to break free and become the real you. You must be true to your own heart and mind, and learn to accept the next person’s truth whilst acknowledging it as theirs, not yours.

There are two sides to everything, a positive and a negative. What is one person’s positive is another person’s negative. Try looking at