Empowering You and Your Family: The Down-to-Earth Approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mums

By Helen Brougham

You can tweak your old patterns learned from others, unknowingly; many are finding there are missing information while growing up in our family environments.

This book fills in the gaps, guides you, lifts you beyond where you are right now. The gift of the Down-to-Earth Approach brings love, peace and joy to move you through what is there for you, then you can have mastery of your own freedom, clarity and connection with yourself and others.

Empowering You & Your Family is for mums. This book can also guide your teens, young parents, adult parents with teens, older parents with elderly parents and grandparents with grandchildren and it is also a wonderful gift to give.

For 21 years, author Helen Brougham has been a remedial and pregnancy massage practitioner, a NLP coach and online programs at her practice in Adelaide, South Australia.

She is often called a mum whisperer; mums will say “I could hear your voice helping me when I did not know what to do and I got through.”

What you will find and much more is:

Find out how to overcome what stops you

Tools to change your stress and children's behaviour the easy way

Know how to help your children sleep at night

Learn better ways to connect with children, partners, friends and yourself

Discover how to let Love, Peace and Joy in to every day

Learn the secrets to what triggers you to lose your cool

Get the right job, nice people and the money you want

Learn how to listen and understand what people are really saying

Find out how to stop nagging kids and get results.

Welcome, please come on in.

Empowering Yourself
Empowering your Environment
Partner and Child Behaviour
It is Not Your Problem or Your Fault
Talking to Your Children
Overloading Mind, Body and Spirit
Using Massage to Benefit You and Your Children
Muscles and Growing Pains
Mums All Over The World
What Empowerment Looks Like
What to Do to Have a Sanctuary at Home
What Your Mind is Really Saying

See you soon!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Helen Brougham
• Release date: Oct 1, 2012
• ISBN: 9780987263599

Helen Brougham

Author, Massage Practitioner, business owner, a Down To Earth Approach in Results Coaching, Mumpreneur and married 34 years, four children and live in Adelaide. Australia The Remedial massage room where thousands of clients over the last 20 years have got real change permanent, now is available in a book online We are all very excited. The book "Empowering You & Your Family has been published and is receiving great feedback! The whole family – Mum, dad, grandparents, teens can benefit from understanding themselves better; change you can believe in which in turn helps us to know and understand others around us better. For a young person on their way to becoming an adult, there are some great tips for knowing how to be with their friends and how to talk with their parents and their employer. This book does open your heart and mind to what is really important to you and your life

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Empowering

You & Your

Family

The Down-to-Earth Approach

to Love, Peace and Joy for Mums

Empowering You & Your Family: The Down-to-Earth Approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mums

Copyright © Helen Brougham 2011

www.empoweringyourfamily.com.au

Published by Helen Brougham at Smashwords

Copyright 2011 Helen Brougham

The moral right of Helen Brougham to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted in accordance with the Copyright Act 1968.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted by any means, electronic, photocopying or otherwise without prior written permission of the author.

First published in Australia 2011 by The Publishing Queen

www.thepublishingqueen.com

Any opinions expressed in this work are exclusively those of the author and are not necessarily the views held or endorsed by The Publishing Queen.

Disclaimer

All the information, techniques, skills and concepts contained within this publication are of the nature of general comment only and are not in any way recommended as individual advice. The intent is to offer a variety of information to provide a wider range of choices now and in the future, recognising that we all have widely diverse circumstances and viewpoints. Should any reader choose to make use of the information contained herein this is their decision, and the contributors (and their companies), author and publishers do not assume any responsibility whatsoever under any condition or circumstances. It is recommended that the reader obtain their own independent advice.

All families are unique and this book is not intended to substitute for the advice of your doctor or psychologist, who should be consulted on family illness and unusual behaviour.

The Down-to-Earth Approach to clearing chaos, pain and anxiety

Shifting into new realms of freedom, lifestyle, business, family, relationships with love, peace and joy

Client’s daughter’s quote:

I wish my family would talk to me the way yours does.

Dedication

To my husband Desy.

To my children Lara, Michael, Savannah and Heidi and to their husband and partners. To my three grandchildren, and to my loving grandparents Netley and Isabella Ricketts and Desy’s parents Wilf and Dot Brougham.

I dedicate this book to families being empowered, connected, being loving and loved; that parents, grandparents, children and extended family dream the dream that gets families together and have courage, persistence and commitment to the down-to-earth principles that create results in loving family relationships.

Contents

Chapter 1 Empowering Yourself

Chapter 2 Empowering Your Environment

Chapter 3 Partner and Child Behaviour

Chapter 4 It is Not Your Problem or Your Fault

Chapter 5 Talking to Your Children

Chapter 6 Overloading Mind, Body and Spirit

Chapter 7 Using Massage to Benefit You and Your Children

Chapter 8 Muscles and Growing Pains

Chapter 9 Mums All Over The World

Chapter 10 What Empowerment Looks Like

Chapter 11 What to Do to Have a Sanctuary at Home

Chapter 12 What Your Mind is Really Saying Through Actions

Thank You

About the Author

Chapter 1

Empowering Yourself

It’s most likely that you’ve come to this book looking for the answers to a question. In your heart you’re feeling numb and would love to zone out into another place. Many of you feel sad, lost, and fearful all the time. You will be sedated and run down by the world out there.

Come and sit with me, lean into the cushions, create a dome around yourself in a beautiful colour of blue. It is safe here: negativity bounces off your blue shield of protection.

The Blue Shield of Protection

You may ask what the blue shield of protection is. Just sit and be with me and you will feel a sense of being connected with me at a very peaceful level. When you spend time knowing yourself first, then you can get where others are at.

There are many that will give you their version and all the negative stuff. What you want can only be in one place. This place you seek, you will find is already in you. You are waiting and yearning to open your wings and be all that you can be. You are there, but because of your surroundings, there is no room to move yet and how it will look to you is all negativity, disempowerment and frustration that keeps you locked in the now moment. Look outside, right through the curtain out further from yourself.

You have dreams deep inside that are waiting to be given space to excel. See where the dream is, hold it in your heart and keep following ways to get there. Believe that you will be shown the way and people will come to show you the lesson for you to move through. By the time you get to the dream you will be ready to step straight in and be so comfortable, like home.

When Can You Use the Blue Shield?

You can use your blue shield around your car when you are driving; ask for the car space outside the main door, say Green lights please, and expect with love green lights when driving everywhere, wave to the person that lets you in as a way of saying thank you for their generosity.

You can use the blue shield with your children to connect their energy to you during stressful times. For example, you can use it during exams to prevent other students’ stress affecting them. Send love to the doctors that are using their amazing skills to do surgery on your family member.

These are powerful and loving ways to empower yourself and empower your children. Teaching your children these techniques brings confidence and a sense of empowerment to them.

One thing I want to share with you is that all mums feel separate for all the same reasons and there are so many ways that mums get low. I’m here to be with you and give you courage. Even when you are not here with me you will hear me in your mind whispering, It is ok, just keep going, be in your open heart. This is where love connection and fun lives and this is the place to stay.

Words come out with love. Actions are used with love and shared with love. This is very powerful to have the life you want at home, at work, in social situations and with your children.

Where Are You Right Now?

Let’s have a look at where you are right now in your life. In order to know where you are: stop, sit down, close your eyes, sit in the moment and feel where you are up to right now. Look back over your life, see the lesson you have done more than once, the same type of people that keep popping up. This is a hint: these are the signposts that need more practice, and more practice you will get. Some are about just letting go, look for where your dream is up to and look forward to what is coming in the future. Check out how bright your special light is.

Now go back to when your life was so wonderful or normal, when you were so connected to yourself and to the world around you. Many go back to early childhood or as recent as something only a few days ago.

It is an experience that hurt you; a disempowerment, an accident in the car or with your child. When that time did not go how you thought it would; the experience you went through was different — the first time everything was great and then something happened.

Is This Memory In The Dark Behind the Door?

How do you know if what happened is dark in your memory and you can’t remember? A door that as children we put up to lock the story in that moment in time. Then you work out how to survive, how to behave and what not to do again because it did not work that time, I have to do it differently next time to be better and it’s OK. Maybe someone yelled at you or looked at you and you felt uncomfortable.

I can tell you one of my stories of what happened to me. I am very clear how it went and does not affect me anymore. This will give you an idea what yours was — each person’s story is unique. Even if you ask other people that were there at the time, they will have their own version of that time.

My Story

I’ll tell you about a major time in my life in order for you to find a time in your life.

I was six years old. At school both classes of grade one were playing down between the two big football ovals. It was full of thick trees and I was in the large group of children that were playing and I remember having a lovely time with all the other kids.

This day I was late going back down to the cubby house, as I had stayed behind at lunch time to help the teacher. I ran down to the cubby house but when I got to the door this girl would not let me go in and I stopped. The girl said out loud, I don’t like you. In that moment I looked around at all the other kids faces and I thought they agreed with her. They did not smile or say anything to me or come and help me, I decided that since she did not like me and all my other friends said nothing to support me in that moment, I said to myself, Well, I don’t like you either.

I dropped my head and disappeared into the background never to be seen again, I stopped playing, I hid in the toilets and in the library but the children would always find me; everyday, all day they would not leave me alone.

I got my reader and would read aloud while walking with the teacher on yard duty to feel safe instead of all those kids hurting me. Unconsciously I stopped playing that day and that story has become bigger and better over the years. I started looking for evidence; those situations where I would be right about people not liking me, to the point that if you did not smile or talk to me it was more evidence I was right.

As part of the story, helping the teacher made me late back down to the cubby house, so as an adult if I was going to be late going anywhere I would become angry and anxious, and had no idea why