Bullying, A Simple Guide To The Condition, Diagnosis, Treatment And Related Conditions

By Kenneth Kee

This book describes Bullying, Diagnosis and Treatment and Related Diseases

Bullying

“No, you don't know what it's like
When nothing feels all right
You don't know what it's like
To be like me
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you're down
To feel like you've been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one's there to save you
No, you don't know what it's like
Welcome to my life”
― Simple Plan

“But sometimes, people kick you to the ground at recess because they think the shape of your eyes is funny. They lunge at you because they see a vulnerable body.
Or a different skin color.
Or a different name. Or a girl.
They think that you won't hit back; that you'll just lower your eyes and hide.
And sometimes, to protect yourself, to make it go away, you do.
But sometimes, you find yourself standing in exactly the right position, wielding exactly the right weapon to hit back.”
― Marie Lu, Warcross

‘You should not bully others because they might not feel loved and valued.’

‘I think bullying is bad because the bully is immature since they are just hurting their own self.
They are also disrespecting the person they are bullying.
I do not think bullying is the way to get through your path.
Get through your path with kindness.’

‘Bullying can have a huge effect on people’s lives
I myself have experienced bullying and it’s the most horrible things that happened everyday!
The victims may be hurt in ways the bully might never imagine. It is important for the victims they bully to stand up for themselves and ignore him or her’

‘Bullies are not real bullies. Deep down all bullies have a kind side.
Just everyone forgets this.
Bullies just have something or someone who makes them change their way.’

The definition of bullying is the use of physical or verbal aggression that is repeated over a period and, in contrast to meanness, involves an imbalance of power.

1. Physical bullying can require hitting, kicking, pinching, pushing, or otherwise attacking others.

2. Verbal bullying suggest the use of words to harm others with name-calling, insults, making sexual or bigoted remarks, harsh teasing, taunting, imitating, or verbal threats.

3. Relational bullying directs on excluding someone from a peer group, normally through verbal threats, spread of rumors, and other types of intimidation.

4. Reactive bullying involves the bully reacting from being a former victim by picking on others.

5. Bullying can also entail assault on a person's property, when the victim has his or her personal property taken or destroyed.

'When I was a school boy in Primary school, some of my classmates were 5-8 years older than me because they were forced to go to school (Compulsory schooling) by the newly elected government of Singapore.

Of course they were unhappy going to school and take out their frustrations by bullying any one smaller than them.

So I learned to avoid them, be a loner by myself and started to strengthen my skinny and scrawny body by climbing trees and swinging from branches in the kampong (rural village) trees where I resided.

I learned to be tough, never to give way to pain even when I am injured by a bigger stronger boy, pretended that there was no pain and keep playing my sport (soccer) as though I was not hurt.

I had arm wrestling matches with some of the bigger so-called stronger boys and beat them at arm wrestling and hand gripping matches.

Words got around that I was tougher than some of the bigger boys.

They become scared of me rather me being scared of them.

Eventually they avoid me instead of me avoiding them.

That was my way of preventing bullying.'

TABLE OF CONTENT
Introduction
Chapter 1 Bullying
Chapter 2 Causes
Chapter 3 Symptoms
Chapte

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kenneth Kee
• Release date: Dec 6, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005886080

Kenneth Kee

Medical doctor since 1972.Started Kee Clinic in 1974 at 15 Holland Dr #03-102, relocated to 36 Holland Dr #01-10 in 2009.Did my M.Sc (Health Management ) in 1991 and Ph.D (Healthcare Administration) in 1993.Dr Kenneth Kee is still working as a family doctor at the age of 74However he has reduced his consultation hours to 3 hours in the morning and 2 hours inthe afternoon.He first started writing free blogs on medical disorders seen in the clinic in 2007 on http://kennethkee.blogspot.com.His purpose in writing these simple guides was for the health education of his patients which is also his dissertation for his Ph.D (Healthcare Administration). He then wrote an autobiography account of his journey as a medical student to family doctor on his other blog http://afamilydoctorstale.blogspot.comThis autobiography account “A Family Doctor’s Tale” was combined with his early “A Simple Guide to Medical Disorders” into a new Wordpress Blog “A Family Doctor’s Tale” on http://ken-med.com.From which many free articles from the blog was taken and put together into 1000 eBooks.He apologized for typos and spelling mistakes in his earlier books.He will endeavor to improve the writing in futures.Some people have complained that the simple guides are too simple.For their information they are made simple in order to educate the patients.The later books go into more details of medical disorders.He has published 1000 eBooks on various subjects on health, 1 autobiography of his medical journey, another on the autobiography of a Cancer survivor, 2 children stories and one how to study for his nephew and grand-daughter.The purpose of these simple guides is to educate patient on health disorders and not meant as textbooks.He does not do any night duty since 2000 ever since Dr Tan had his second stroke.His clinic is now relocated to the Buona Vista Community Centre.The 2 units of his original clinic are being demolished to make way for a new Shopping Mall.He is now doing some blogging and internet surfing (bulletin boards since the 1980's) startingwith the Apple computer and going to PC.The entire PC is upgraded by himself from XT to the present Pentium duo core.The present Intel i7 CPU is out of reach at the moment because the CPU is still expensive.He is also into DIY changing his own toilet cistern and other electric appliance.His hunger for knowledge has not abated and he is a lifelong learner.The children have all grown up and there are 2 grandchildren who are even more technically advanced than the grandfather where mobile phones are concerned.This book is taken from some of the many articles in his blog (now with 740 posts) A Family Doctor’s Tale.Dr Kee is the author of:"A Family Doctor's Tale""Life Lessons Learned From The Study And Practice Of Medicine""Case Notes From A Family Doctor"

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Bullying,

A

Simple

Guide

To

The Condition,

Diagnosis,

Treatment

And

Related Conditions

By

Dr Kenneth Kee

M.B.,B.S. (Singapore)

Ph.D (Healthcare Administration)

Copyright Kenneth Kee 2020 Smashwords Edition

Published by Kenneth Kee at Smashwords.com

Dedication

This book is dedicated

To my wife Dorothy

And my children

Carolyn, Grace

And Kelvin

This book describes Bullying, Diagnosis and Treatment and Related Diseases which is seen in some of my patients in my Family Clinic.

(What You Need to Treat Bullying)

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Introduction

I have been writing medical articles for my blog: http://kennethkee.blogspot.com (A Simple Guide to Medical Disorder) for the benefit of my patients since 2007.

My purpose in writing these simple guides was for the health education of my patients.

Health Education was also my dissertation for my Ph.D (Healthcare Administration).

I then wrote an autobiography account of my journey as a medical student to family doctor on my other blog: http://afamilydoctorstale.blogspot.com.

This autobiography account A Family Doctor’s Tale was combined with my early A Simple Guide to Medical Disorders into a new Wordpress Blog A Family Doctor’s Tale on http://kenkee481.wordpress.com.

From which many free articles from the blog was taken and put together into 800 eBooks.

Some people have complained that the simple guides are too simple.

For their information they are made simple in order to educate the patients.

The later books go into more details of medical disorders.

The first chapter is always from my earlier blogs which unfortunately tends to have typos and spelling mistakes.

Since 2013, I have tried to improve my spelling and writing.

As I tried to bring the patient the latest information about a disorder or illness by reading the latest journals both online and offline, I find that I am learning more and improving on my own medical knowledge in diagnosis and treatment for my patients.

My diagnosis and treatment capability has improved tremendously from my continued education.

Just by writing all these simple guides I find that I have learned a lot from your reviews (good or bad), criticism and advice.

I am sorry for the repetitions in these simple guides as the second chapters onwards have new information as compared to my first chapter taken from my blog.

I also find repetition definitely help me and maybe some readers to remember the facts in the books more easily.

I apologize if these repetitions are irritating to some readers.

Chapter 1

Bullying

"No, you don't know what it's like

When nothing feels all right

You don't know what it's like

To be like me

To be hurt

To feel lost

To be left out in the dark

To be kicked when you're down

To feel like you've been pushed around

To be on the edge of breaking down

And no one's there to save you

No, you don't know what it's like

Welcome to my life"

― Simple Plan

"But sometimes, people kick you to the ground at recess because they think the shape of your eyes is funny. They lunge at you because they see a vulnerable body.

Or a different skin color.

Or a different name. Or a girl.

They think that you won't hit back; that you'll just lower your eyes and hide.

And sometimes, to protect yourself, to make it go away, you do.

But sometimes, you find yourself standing in exactly the right position, wielding exactly the right weapon to hit back."

― Marie Lu, Warcross

‘You should not bully others because they might not feel loved and valued.’

‘I think bullying is bad because the bully is immature since they are just hurting their own self.

They are also disrespecting the person they are bullying.

I do not think bullying is the way to get through your path.

Get through your path with kindness.’

‘Bullying can have a huge effect on people’s lives

I myself have experienced bullying and it’s the most horrible things that happened everyday!

The victims may be hurt in ways the bully might never imagine. It is important for the victims they bully to stand up for themselves and ignore him or her’

‘Bullies are not real bullies. Deep down all bullies have a kind side.

Just everyone forgets this.

Bullies just have something or someone who makes them change their way.’

What is bullying?

The definition of bullying is the use of physical or verbal aggression that is repeated over a period and, in contrast to meanness, involves an imbalance of power.

When I was a school boy in Primary school, some of my classmates were 5-8 years older than me because they were forced to go to school (Compulsory schooling) by the newly elected government of Singapore.

Of course they were unhappy going to school and take out their frustrations by bullying any one smaller than them.

So I learned to avoid them, be a loner by myself and started to strengthen my skinny and scrawny body by climbing trees and swinging from branches in the kampong (rural village) trees where I resided.

I learned to be tough, never to give way to pain even when I am injured by a bigger stronger boy, pretended that there was no pain and keep playing my sport (soccer) as though I was not hurt.

I had arm wrestling matches with some of the bigger so-called stronger boys and beat them at arm wrestling and hand gripping matches.

Words got around that I was tougher than some of the bigger boys.

They become scared of me rather me being scared of them.

Eventually they avoid me instead of me avoiding them.

That was my way of preventing bullying.

28 percent of young people from grades 6 through 12 have been the victim of bullying.

Teachers often underestimate how much bullying is happening at their schools.

Parents are conscious their child is being bullied only about 50% of the time.

In contrast to popular belief, the bullies (who have never been bullied themselves) often have been discovered to have very high self-esteem and to be social climbers.

Bystanders of bullying are likely to surrender to what they think is peer pressure to support bullying behavior and the fear of becoming the victim.

Bullying can have significantly harmful outcomes, for both the bully and the victim.

There are a number of ways that victims and bystanders of bullying, and parents, school, and work personnel can use to dampen bullying at school or in the workplace.

How can someone differentiate bullying from hazing or meanness?

While hazing also involves aggression over a period, bullying moves out the victim from a group while hazing is part of initiation of the victim into a group.

In contrast, hazing is a way of initiation of the victim into a group, and meanness does not entail an imbalance of power.

Also, meanness entails hurtful behaviors between people who are equals, in social standing and otherwise.

Teenagers and Bullying

Bullying is one of the biggest tests that teens are facing.

Unhappily, many teens are enforced to handle bullying while their parents and teachers are not conscious on the specific nature and severity of the crisis in their school.

The established definition by the U.S. Department of Education and by many doctors is:

1. Unwanted physical or verbal aggression directed at a specific person, repeatedly over a period,

2. Involves an