Catering to Their Ego

By E. A. Hargrave

I promise, to be true to you today and tomorrow....
Do you remember the day you met your special someone? I do, I'm sure you do too. There's no place you'd have rather been than in their heart and dreams. You cherished every moment with them. They seemed to be presented to you as a beautifully packaged gift full of humor, talent, intelligence, elegance, and love. Trust is built over the smallest of moments and as time passes, couples become complacent, stagnant, comfortable... We forget to Cater to their Ego. Distrust is created when secrets shared are no longer safe, when bonding moments are overlooked. Please don't wait until it's too late. Relationships take time and work to keep the spark alive continuously, it's essential to know how to show your love in the right way. Uncover the secrets to a more sincere and loving relationship. Buy now before it's too late.

• Language: English
• Publisher: E. A. Hargrave
• Release date: Jan 1, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463994931

E. A. Hargrave

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CATERING

TO

THEIR EGO

E. A. HARGRAVE

Copyright © 2018 by E. A. Hargrave

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written permission from the author.

Dedication

To Allie,

Remember when we first met, every time I saw you my heart skipped a beat. Remember our first kiss goodnight, the hug we shared that cold winters night. Remember when you looked at me and saw the one you love and need. Remember when you reached for me and knew that we were meant to be. I want to see you live your dreams, achieve greatness and be happy.

Chapter 1

We live in an age where people are connected in more ways than we could have ever imagined.

Why does true love still elude so many people?

Books have been written about love, so-called gurus and experts write about forever love.

Why are so many books written about how men and women are different?

I couldn’t disagree more; books like Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray, try and point out the gender differences.

Many of these books and authors try to point out how men and women value things differently in relationships; I am not talking about the story written within the pages of their work, I am talking more about the overall message. Men and women are different. Very different, but when it comes to love and romance, they are the same.

This might be a shock to some of you reading this; many might not even believe it, why would you? This notion goes against everything you have been taught. Our parents teach us that men and women are different as we grow up, as we start dating, the media teaches us this as well.

With the many ways of communicating love from various sources, the main message we read is to tolerate behavior or leave and we millennials are living in an instant world now.

Instant information, instant dating, instant gratification, this lifestyle has created unhealthy dating and marriage/relationships. Millennials and younger generations will grow up with the idea of free love and open relationships, creating more sexual confusion.

This book is a sneak peek behind the curtain of what both men and women want from a loving relationship; and how to have a meaningful long lasting and loving relationship. Learn to love each other in the way the individual needs is how to keep a lasting, loving relationship.

There are millions of couples out there that may be in one-sided relationships, these couples probably don’t even know it, or know what’s missing. They are devoted to their relationship, they are just not connecting with the other person.

I have seen and experienced for myself when you can date someone for years, and one day they tell you they are un-happy.

Have you ever had that talk with that someone?

Most of the information that you find online (millennials favorite place to look for advice) is going to tell you the wrong information, most couple counselors may also lead you astray.

How do I know they will lead you astray?

I was in a marriage that was ending, at the time I was also in school to get my master’s degree in psychology I wanted to be a couple’s therapist.

In school, we learn about self-love, after all, how can you love someone if you don't love yourself, everyone has heard that saying, and everyone has told or has been told by someone that they just need to work on themselves.

Have you ever experienced losing who you were in a relationship? At some point in all relationships, someone in the relationship will feel that they have lost themselves.

Why?

When we meet someone, we choose to act on things, not reading books like we once did, we don’t go out and paintball, or go fishing or hunting.

Why do we accept this, when we enjoy doing them you might ask?

Self-compromise. We believe that the person we are with, loves us and we love them, the drunk love feeling makes us feel significant, which is one of the basic human needs.

The honeymoon phase is what most will call the first few months can last up to about two years, after which the love drunk feelings start to slip away but you should be asking yourself, why do we get all wrapped up in early love and then over time start to feel less loved?

I'm not saying that we don't love that special person, but we feel less loved by them. Most people will say, and many will agree, that people act differently at the beginning of the relationship.

Why does that stop?

Studies show that millennials have the shortest relationships and the most sexual partners. I believe that this has to do with the instant-world we all live in, for some reason when it comes down to love, many find that it’s a fleeting feeling and you should only stay with someone until that feeling goes away.

Once that feeling is gone you find your self-searching for the next fix. Think about it, I have watched a person check what I call the insta's, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, and so on.

I watched this person do a loop every 15-20 minutes, they would start with Facebook and cycle through all of them one by one, 15 minutes later, rinse and repeat. I watched this without them knowing, for 3 days, in most cases they were right next to me.

The insta's of the world falsely give the user some of the basic human needs, they create certainty that people are listening, creating a variety of opinions and false experiences, they give you a false sense of significance, and falsely provide you with love and connection.

One of the most significant problems in my relationship is technology, and I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling that way.

Chapter 2

You wake up and reach for your phone to turn off the alarm, your first instinct is to check Facebook, you loop through the fake world online before you even interact with the world.

Does this sound familiar?

Technology is ruining relationships.

Could you imagine a world in which social media was not such a prominent part of our lives?

For some that thought causes anxiety, for many others that thought sounds like a dream. It's not just my opinion that supports this claim. Studies show that social media puts a severe strain onto relationships, nowadays it seems like people are more concerned with the likes they are getting from social media and less concerned with fixing their current relationship problems.

Studies have shown that younger and younger generations show a disturbing addiction to cell phones and social media, many even profess they can live without their cell phones. I admit, they make life easier, but most people don't use their device as a tool, they sit there while checking all the insta's in a continuous cycle.

We have become so accustomed to texting, Tweeting, Snapchatting, Facebooking,