Building Emotional Intelligence: How To Control Your Emotions

By Thi Tamara

Emotional intelligence has four key skills that align to two competencies, personal and social competence. Unlike IQ, which tends to remain fixed throughout a person's lifetime, Emotional Intelligence can be improved over time.

The key skills for building your EQ and improving your ability to manage emotions and connect with others are; Self-awareness - Self-management - Social awareness - Relationship Management.

Discover how you can manage your emotions, and positively influence yourself and others.

• Language: English
• Publisher: 1kkbooks
• Release date: Dec 12, 2017

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WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 

So just what is emotional intelligence? With the risk of over simplifying, emotional intelligence is the dimension of intelligence responsible for our ability to manage ourselves and our relationships with others. Including our skills that drive our internal world as well as our response to the external world.

The original theory of emotional intelligence was developed by two United States psychologists; Peter Salobi and John Mayer in 1990 who defined this as;

a learned ability to perceive understand and express our feelings accurately and to control our emotions so that they work for us not against us

There are five components of emotional intelligence.

They include: -

a well-honed timing or emotional expression and emotional control.

Empathy for others.

Social expertise, that allows us to develop strong working relationships.

Personal influence, that helps us advance our purpose with others and

An integrity, that aligns us with our life's purpose.

In other words, no matter whose definition you use;

EI is about: -

knowing how you and others feel and what to do about it.

Knowing what feels good and what feels bad and how to get from bad to good.

Processing emotional awareness, sensitivity and the