The Manager's Guide to Mediating Conflict: Learn how to confidently mediate conflicts in the workplace
By Alison Love
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About this ebook
Experienced mediator, trainer, and business mentor Alison Love brings her insight into the nuances and subtleties of workplace conflict, to help you develop the vital communication skills that lie at the heart of good leadership. Emotional intelligence often passes unspoken in discussions about management but here Alison places it at the forefront, as a key component of management.
Built around the process of mediation, Alison shows you precisely how mediation works, while also offering you invaluable information that will be integral for any manager interested in creating a team and a workplace committed and dedicated to a shared goal. From understanding the causes of conflict in the modern workplace to sustaining the results of a successful mediation, Alison aims to give you both the knowledge and the skills to be successful at this integral component of management.
Conflict is an inevitable part of the workplace. Often it can be constructive, but it is more frequently, destructive and damaging. When it is not managed effectively it can cripple morale and productivity and lead even to stress and ill health. One of the most effective forms of conflict management is mediation, which provides a formal structure through which conflicting parties can articulate their perspectives, with the aim of reaching a resolution through this formalised discussion. Beginning with the causes of conflict in the modern workplace, this book then takes you through the entire mediation process, providing you with clear, practical steps on how to plan and conduct a mediation to how to sustain the results once the process has been completed. With tools and templates that make what may seem like a difficult process manageable, the book is an essential tool for manager’s concerned about how to deal with conflict at work.
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The Manager's Guide to Mediating Conflict - Alison Love
Table of Contents
The Manager's Guide to Mediating Conflict
Credits
About the Author
About the Reviewers
Preface
What this book covers
Who this book is for
Conventions
Reader feedback
Piracy
1. Conflict in the Workplace
Redefining conflict
The rise in workplace disputes
Good versus bad conflict
The impact of stress
How mediation differs from other conflict resolutions
Deciding to use mediation
Conflict road map
Summary
2. Mediator Skill Set
Deep listening skills
Prepare yourself
Listen for the emotion
Be empathetic
Check your understanding and demonstrate you are listening
A word about note-taking
Non-verbal communication
Practice makes perfect – an exercise in listening skills
Listening checklist
Establish trust and rapport
What is rapport?
Mirror the other person
Show that you are listening
Pay attention to your appearance and first impressions
Be confident and yourself
Try an occasional bit of disarming honesty and humor
Maintaining a sense of calmness
Creativity and identifying needs and interests
Questioning styles and techniques
Opening questions
Questions to get information/understanding
Questions to get at what is underneath/really important
Questions to explore alternatives/solutions
Questions to test agreement
Positive reframing
Maintaining neutrality and independence
Confidentiality
Do's and don'ts
Summary
3. The Mediation Process
Key principles
Stages of the mediation process
Pre-mediation discussions
The venue and room setup
Timings and the length of mediation
Meeting on the day
Opening statements of the mediator
Opening statements of the parties
Joint sessions
What to do if things get stuck
Individual sessions
Reaching an agreement
Drafting an agreement
Involve the parties fully
Apologies
To share or not to share
Reviewing agreements
Summary
4. Beyond the Mediation
How to sustain an agreement
Applying your skills day after day
Resolving a conflict with a colleague
Helping others resolve a conflict
Case studies: mediation in action
Return from sick leave
Return following grievance
Personality conflicts
Bullying and harassment
Summary
A. Agreement to Mediate
The Manager's Guide to Mediating Conflict
The Manager's Guide to Mediating Conflict
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First published: September 2014
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Credits
Author
Alison Love
Reviewers
Arslan Ali
Roy Cheng
Commissioning Editor
Richard Gall
Copy Editors
Simran Bhogal
Ameesha Green
Faisal Siddiqui
Project Coordinator
Venitha Cutinho
Proofreader
Maria Gould
Production Coordinator
Melwyn D'sa
Cover Work
Simon Cardew
About the Author
Alison Love has over 30 years of practical experience as an HR practitioner, employment lawyer, and a business leader. Prior to qualifying as a solicitor, she spent 8 years as an HR practitioner in the public, retail, and consumer finance sectors. This, combined with her skills and experience as a workplace mediator, has given Alison a unique understanding of the dynamics of workplace issues and an ability to successfully facilitate parties in identifying solutions. Having witnessed the limitations of the legal process and the benefits and power of mediation, Alison has firsthand experience of demonstrating that workplace mediation provides a better way to resolve conflict in the workplace in the vast majority of cases. Alison is passionate about sharing her knowledge and making mediation the first choice in resolving workplace disputes.
Alison currently runs her own business (Alison Love Limited) which provides workplace mediation and dispute resolution services, including mediation, associated training, and executive coaching.
Alison lives in Wales with her husband, two sons, and Jaffa the dog, where she can often be found walking Jaffa or pursuing her interest in photography. Alison also enjoys travelling, live music, and the occasional mad cycling challenge.
My thanks go to the team at Impackt who have guided me through the process of writing this guide. Thanks also go to my family; to my husband, Steve, who has (as usual) shown a great deal of patience and support and my sons, Daniel and Alex, for providing cooked meals for themselves and for me (from time to time).
About the Reviewers
Arslan Ali has more than 14 years of experience related to the IT industry and training institutions with exclusive experience of 5 years in teaching various disciplines and projects in an IT institution. He has worked in various roles in software engineering, software testing, training, and quality assurance. The major focus of his expertise lies in coordination, implementation, and testing of ERPs and customized applications. He is also a trainer for context-driven testing for various companies and individuals.
Arslan is currently working at Sidat Hyder Morshed Associates as a senior consultant in Information Solutions, but besides that he is also an active founding member of TestersTestified (www.testerstestified.com) (@testtified), Outtabox! (www.outtabox.co) (@OuttaBoxPk), and OISOL – Open Integrated Solutions (www.oisol.com) as a training consultant for software testing and context-driven testing workshops.
You can follow him on Twitter, @arslan0644, and on LinkedIn at pk.linkedin.com/in/thegoodchanges/.
I would like to thank Impackt publishing for this opportunity and my father for his reading habits which he successfully passed on to me!
Roy Cheng is an Adjunct Lecturer (The University of Hong Kong, School of Professional And Continuing Education (HKU SPACE)), Founder and Director of Hong Kong Institute of Mediation Limited, Director of ISE Consultants Limited, and a certified trainer of the Mediation Training Institute of the U.S.A. (MTI). He is currently a mediation practitioner, mediator accreditation assessor, and a mediation program trainer. Prior to commencing his dispute resolution practice, he had extensive commercial experiences in a wide range of industries. In 2004, he was invited by the Hong Kong Home Affairs Department and successfully mediated the Albert House Case and in 2006, he was invited by Hong Kong Housing Authority and successfully mediated the Dickson Construction subcontractor disputes. He has also written a book a book in Chinese about interest-based negotiation approach which is commonly used in mediation: 調解:談判突破困局
(the English title is Getting to Harmony
). First published in March 2009, the book is now in its fifth edition.
Preface
With over 30 years of experience as an HR practitioner and employment lawyer, I have witnessed and advised on more workplace disputes than I care to remember. I began to see the same patterns recurring and the outcomes being less than positive for the organizations or the individuals concerned. Disputes would generally involve considerable expense and management time and often end in a painful exit of an employee who was once highly regarded.
I began to think that there must be a better way; to me, traditional grievances or disciplinary processes were causing considerable harm to individuals and businesses, and the current mechanisms used to resolve disputes were not fit for purpose. These processes were becoming more and more legalistic and adversarial, concerned with imposing a decision by a third-party rather than bringing those concerned together and resolving matters directly between them. When I started to look into mediation, I began to understand how mediation offers something very different from the more traditional processes; I had what I would describe as a light bulb
moment. I soon realized that mediation is an empowering alternative that in