Conflict Management
By Baden Eunson
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About this ebook
In this book you will find many options for managing conflict, including:
- planning
- goal setting
- compromise
- mediation
Expert communicator Baden Eunson also takes an in-depth look at negotiation skills. He offers a visual and fresh approach to the work of strategies and tactics, negotiation styles, the importance of listening and questioning skills, the reasons why the location of negotiation can affect its outcome, and why the phrase 'win-win' is not a cliché but a technique for success.
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Conflict Management - Baden Eunson
Preface
Why bother with communication? Sure, communication is a ‘soft skill’ that everyone talks about, but is communication that important when you need to be upgrading your skills and knowledge as you are developing your career?
Well, actually, it is. All varieties of communication are among the best business tools you can have in your career toolkit. A 2006 survey by Graduate Careers Australia, Graduate Outlook 2006, found that when employers were looking for graduates to hire, the technical competence of the graduates in their chosen field ran a poor second to the communication skills the employers were primarily looking for, as shown in figure 1 (overleaf).
Figure 1: 2006 survey by Graduate Careers Australia — factors favoured most by graduate employers
fpreff001Even if you don’t have a degree, or are already in your first or second career, time and again, those with good or great communication skills seem to have an advantage over those who don’t.
Can such skills be learnt? Of course they can. The book you hold in your hands is part of the Business Tools series, a series that will help you use aspects of communication as tools — to assist your career advancement and possibly your own personal development.
Soft skills, such as communication — in contrast to hard skills, such as number crunching and physical labour — are also known as generic, employability or transferable skills. That means that:
while the technical knowledge you currently have may well be obsolete in five years’ time, the soft skills will still be relevant in twenty or thirty years’ time
the transferable nature of soft skills will help you progress within your organisation out of your current area of specialisation. They can even help you move on to other organisations when the time is right for such moves.
Conflict Management is all about soft skills for hard situations. I begin by looking at some models of conflict, such as the conflict spiral, and consider ways to get off the spiral or stop it from even beginning. Along the way, I will tackle the difficult questions, such as ‘Can conflict be a solution as well as a problem?’ and ‘Might you need to increase conflict in some circumstances rather than reduce or eliminate it?’
Using the general concept of conflict management as a context, I then zoom in on a subset of conflict — negotiation. Here you will find a strange and fascinating world of strategies and tactics, concessions, fallback positions, plan Bs, positions and interests, territory, power and so much more.
I hope you find this book easy to read, and a useful tool and resource in your career as a communicator.
Baden Eunson
Melbourne
March 2007
Introduction
As the title suggests, Conflict Management explores the best ways to manage conflict situations in the workplace and shows that while conflict can be a very destructive force, it can also prove to be a creative and positive one if managed correctly.
In chapters 1, 2 and 3 the multiple causes of conflict, numerous ways of approaching conflicts and different styles of reacting to or managing conflict are explored. It’s useful sometimes to understand conflict as a spiral, or ladder of escalation, with distinct phases. I will pay particular attention to conflict in organisations, where incidents involving conflict can be understood in terms of a number of underlying dynamics and recurring patterns.
There are a number of conflict management solutions, such as interpersonal skills, gender and cultural dynamics, group dynamics, contact and communication, superordinate goals, tit for tat, de-escalation thresholds, apology, forgiveness, praise, sacrifice, creation of new resources, decoupling and buffering, formal authority, planning, appropriate scale, stalemates, compromise and mediation.
These are explored in chapters 4 and 5. I also consider the perhaps unusual idea that sometimes conflict needs to be created to resolve certain situations.
I then turn my attention to a particular type of conflict resolution — negotiation. In chapter 6, I introduce BATNAs (best alternatives to a negotiated agreement), WATNAs (worst alternatives to a negotiated agreement) and Plan Bs. And I explain why the saying ‘win–win outcome’ is not just a cliché. The importance of researching TOS (the other side in the negotiation), as well as clearly identifying your goals, bottom lines and the concessions you are willing to make are also discussed.
In chapters 7 and 8, I explore the differences between positions and interests, the role of territory and time, and of publics or stakeholders in negotiation. I also look at the nature of power in negotiations and how packaging techniques can offer greater flexibility when discussing outcomes, before moving on to negotiation styles in chapter 9.
Finally, in chapter 10, I consider the tools negotiators can use during the negotiation process, which include non-verbal communication, listening, questioning and persuading skills, signalling, strategies and tactics, cultural and gender sensitivity, and different channels of communication. I then consider planning for negotiation, finally arriving at the conclusion that life is a series of negotiations and few of them actually ever finish — and sometimes we are very grateful for that.
Chapter 1
Conflict — the Basics
Conflict strikes most people as being unpleasant and stressful, and it often is. But does conflict have its uses? That is, can conflict be a solution as well as a problem (and perhaps even both at the same time)? Related to this is the apparently trivial matter of whether those involved in conflict want to ‘resolve’ it or ‘manage’ it. To clarify this further, it will help to consider what styles of conflict there may be in the world, and how you can use these to better understand and manage conflict.
Is Conflict Always a Bad Thing?
Why can’t people just get along? Why is there conflict in the world? We see conflict in the kindergarten, in marriages, in friendships, in the workplace, in courtrooms and between nations — the phenomenon seems universal. We usually think of conflict as a negative, stressful experience, leading to verbal violence and, all too often, to physical violence. Conflict, as we all know from bitter experience, can be nasty.
Conflict can lead to:
negative emotions
blocked communication
increased negative stereotyping of those we are in conflict with
reduced coordination between people who have to work and live together
a shift towards autocratic leadership when discussion-based decision making breaks down
reduced ability to view other perspectives and a breakdown in empathy and vision.
Conflict is the gadfly of thought. It stirs us to observation and memory. It instigates to invention. It shocks us out of sheeplike passivity, and sets us at noting and contriving … conflict is a sine qua non of reflection and ingenuity.
John Dewey
Surprisingly enough, however, conflict can sometimes produce positive payoffs — for example:
Pressures and frustrations are released. When unexpressed conflicts are finally expressed, combatants sometimes experience a sense of relief, and can calm down and consider the situation with less heat and more light — for example, ‘I was just letting off steam’, ‘At least I got it out of my system’.
New perspectives and information can be gathered about the other side. Combatants can become aware of each other’s point of view, and may see some merit in the opposing views. Empathy increases, and better decisions can be made.
New perspectives can be gained about our side. We may not even be aware of our own views until a conflict situation forces the expression of those views. Also, we may become aware of weaknesses and inconsistencies in our own views. Conflict energises us to do and think new things.
Better decision making and problem solving can take place. New information and perspectives are created as a result of the conflict. These allow us to see things more clearly and take appropriate action.
Cohesiveness can increase. Groups, teams, couples and organisations may find that members are closer after the stress of conflict (and the release that comes with a successful resolution of that conflict) than they were before — the bonds between them are stronger, not weaker.
Complacency can be challenged. Lack of, or suppression of, conflict in some situations may mean that various unhealthy things are happening — there may be opposition to new ideas, as well as paralysing timidity and myopic denial of unresolved tensions. Conflict may challenge all of these.
Change can take place. Conflict is often the engine of change. Charles Darwin argued that conflict between organisms produced the survival of the fittest, so that evolution was dependent on conflict. Karl Marx argued that human progress depended on conflicts between social classes. George Bernard Shaw put it another way: ‘The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends