As parents, what's our role when our middle schooler has negative emotions? Should we help them problem solve to relieve the cause? Or should we help them work to get past what they're feeling and focus on the good? It's natural for us parents to want to make our kids' bad feelings go away, but many times what we should be doing is teaching our kids how to process the emotion they're in. In this episode, Tara O'Brien, ADHD expert, and former middle school teacher and principal, explains the importance of allowing our kids to feel the emotions they're in as well as help them understand what our emotions are trying to tell us.  About the GuestTara O'Brien is an interpersonal relationship coach, teacher, and ADHD expert, and has 14 years as a middle school teacher and principal. Tara teaches moms how to quickly shift the dynamics in their homes and in their relationships without adding more to their already full plate. By eliminating the fear, doubt, overwhelm, and frustration inherent in raising children, Tara's clients achieve a state of peace and calm while reconnecting with the deep joy and love they have for their children. Through her coaching program, Tara's clients develop a deep connection with themselves and their children, become unshakably confident to handle whatever life throws at them, and have a powerfully calm presence for their families. Learn more about Tara's work at www.dramafreeadhd.com.Connect with Tara on Instagram.Connect with Raising Middle School Girls:Thank you for listening to the Raising Middle School Girls podcast. If you enjoyed this episode and want to hear more conversations with experts designed to help you support your middle school girl, please subscribe. You can also sign up for the Raising Middle School Girls newsletter to receive tips and resources, upcoming events, and new podcast episodes, all designed to support you and your child.  And we want to hear from you! Let's connect on Instagram and send a DM to @RaisingMiddleSchoolGirls if you have a question you'd like answered on the podcast or have feedback on an episode. We're in this together, parents!