“Get really curious about why we are the way that we are with respect and awareness. And then with a sense of embracing and honoring, ask where is it that we want to go? Who do we want to be? And if we had full agency to create that, what would that look like?”, asks co-host Clayton Olson. Today, co-host Paige Easter picks Clayton Olson’s brain on the steps to end the war within ourselves so that we can move forward in our lives and become the person we want to be. Taking examples from her own life and experiences with hypnotherapy, Paige asks Clayton to walk her through how he would coach someone in her position of wanting to be a more confident person. Clayton explains the model of logical levels, developed by Robert Dilts, to showcase the six levels of ways reality can be organized and uses it to illustrate where limiting beliefs come from.Self improvement begins with taking responsibility for yourself and your life instead of continuing to blame external factors. Many of the beliefs holding you back are actually beliefs that were created during childhood. And when you realize these are outdated, then you can start to see your present situation differently. In order to make changes at the identity level, you need to fully embrace your vision for who you want to be and the life you want to have. If you are still in a victim mindset, you will not be ready to step into your journey of self improvement. Personal development requires you to look at those beliefs from your past through a lens of curiosity rather than judgment. Stopping the war with yourself requires you to take agency for your present circumstances. Learn more about the model of logical levels, the ways childhood experiences can cause our past selves to get ‘stuck’, and how to use enhanced awareness and curiosity to propel your personal growth forward. Quotes“Having that sense of responsibility that I am the one that's creating this is a foundational platform from which to jump into the personal development work.” (4:48-4:57 | Paige)“When someone is going into a place of self-judgment, one of the tools that I love to employ is to begin to help them see how whatever pattern they are creating in their life that is currently unwanted, is actually a protective mechanism, or a pattern that was useful at one time earlier in their life.” (9:10-9:40 | Clayton) “We can absolutely at times create a change in our environment. Which creates new behaviors. Which actually will trickle all the way down to our identity if we do it enough times.” (20:25-20:34 | Clayton)Connect with Clayton:Website: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtKW9swe4-j596iCIh2_nrA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claytonrolson/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/Connect with Paige:Website: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/Lucid Shift Coaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucid_shift_coaching/Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.