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#410: How To Stop Beating Yourself Up
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36 minutes
Released:
Sep 29, 2020
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Podcast episode
Description
HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP
PODCAST #410
Pull back the curtain of your heart and let's have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
The 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up
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WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP
Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!)
Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn't taught and wasn't built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!)
Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!)
Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn't healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!)
STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING
So What Strategy
-So what, everything will work out just fine and now I get to pivot and learn
Even If, I Will Statements
-Even if this is botched and I'm behind, I will still be loved, etc.
Journaling
-21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, get yours free at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal
Becoming a Student of Life
-Growth mindset, learning in everything, trusting God with your transformation, celebrating growth, letting Jesus be my teacher and learning to surrender
HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS
1. Be a friend to yourself - slow down, be present, be nice.
2. Put a higher value on kindness
3. Remember that being mean doesn't work
4. Focus on more positive self-talk
5. Write out a daily truth or verse
6. Practice patience with yourself and others
7. Accept your challenges as opportunities
8. Get an aerial view - there's no right way to do anything, there's always a pivot
9. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox
OTHER EPISODES OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST YOU WILL LIKE
How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, Episode #345
www.trishblackwell.com/345
Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work, Episode #277
www.trishblackwell.com/277
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Released:
Sep 29, 2020
Format:
Podcast episode
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