Settle Me: A Divorce Recovery Devotional for Women

By Tawni Martin

Settle Me is specifically written for Christian women who have gone through or are going through a separation or divorce. However, the content could benefit anyone (even men) for the heart of the message encourages people to be their best selves-- the self God created each of His children to be. Some topics covered include identity, insecurity, mourning, loneliness, setting boundaries, and dealing with the holidays.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Covenant Books, Inc.
• Release date: Apr 3, 2025
• ISBN: 9798894858425

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Settle Me

A Divorce Recovery Devotional for Women

Tawni Martin

ISBN 979-8-89485-841-8 (Paperback)

ISBN 979-8-89485-842-5 (Digital)

Copyright © 2025 Tawni Martin

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Table of Contents

1

God Is in Control

2

God Still Wants to Use You

3

Truth

4

Be Alone

5

Jesus Only Saves

6

The Real Enemy

7

The Armor of God

8

Take Time to Mourn

9

Gift Yourself Daily

10

Memories Can Draw You Closer to Christ

11

Identity

12

Unfounded Shame

13

Self-Inflicted Name-Calling

14

A Trusted Advisor

15

Pray for Those Who Have Hurt You

16

Strongholds

17

Facing Fear and Insecurity

18

Overcoming Fear and Insecurity

19

The Power of the Church

20

Holidays

21

Boundaries

22

Loneliness

23

Filling Unmet Needs

24

Pay Attention to Your Mental Health

25

The Power of Friends

26

Simplify

27

Helping Others Helps Yourself

28

We Can Do It!

29

Rediscover You

30

Charge!

31

The Power of Christian Music

About the Author

This devotional is dedicated to my friends.

God has given me an overabundance of really good friends, sometimes to the point of overflowing! This may be His gift to me for some of the family I have lost. I am so incredibly thankful to all the individuals who would be beside me at a moment's notice, if necessary, and for the ones who can pick back up right where we left off months or even years ago. Some of those friends are directly and indirectly discussed or responsible for parts of this devotional.

It is incredibly difficult to work through the before, during, and after of a divorce. We all have different definitions of what it means to be a loving and respectful wife. Therefore, we must give ourselves to the one standard that holds absolute authority on these matters: our heavenly Father.

Someone once told me that living life without God would be like playing a game of Monopoly without anyone knowing or adhering to the directions; we'd all be winging it according to our own understanding. So in all things marriage related, why not consult the Creator of marriage?

This devotional, of course, is not the foremost authority on divorce recovery written here on earth, but it is honest according to my experience. I'm hoping it may be a help to others. At the time of my divorce, there weren't very many resources available for Christian women going through a divorce. Thankfully, help has increased in the last decade.

All biblical references are from the NIV translation.

1

God Is in Control

People don't plan on getting divorced. If you're like me, many times throughout the divorce process, you said or thought, This wasn't supposed to happen, or All I ever wanted was a strong family. Christians, especially, should feel despair over divorce because it is breaking a covenant that, at its inception, was meant to be forever. When that promise falls apart, many say with a heavy heart, What now?

What helped me most was to dwell on the fact that God is in control. God is all-knowing and all-powerful. He sees the past, present, and future. God is not controlling; He doesn't make us perform as He wants. If we don't