Divorce Ahead - Detour: Glorify God in Your Marriage

By Kelvin R. Ward

His pain was a seed that others would find the qualities of life, and have a blessed marriage.
His suffering gave him pereverance which built character and brought him hope. Romans 5:1-4.

He was rejected by her but accepted by God.
Raised in a household without a father, author Kelvin Ward made sure that his daughter would not experience such traumatic life. However, as fate would have it, his marriage of sixteen years ended with a divorce. The woman he married was as devout Christian as he is. After hearing about permanent separation, Kelvin turned to the one that he knew would lift him up-God. Highly edifying and truly eye-opening, Divorce Ahead- Detour is a true story that can change other peoples tale in a good way. It takes readers to a route towards finding happiness with another soul and with the Creator.


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• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jan 26, 2010
• ISBN: 9781462831760

Kelvin R. Ward

Rev. Kelvin R. Ward is a member of Agape Family Worship Center, located in Rahway, NJ. Formerly an International Chaplain for Untied Chaplain International Worldwide Outreach Inc. located in Newark, NJ. Rev. Ward also none as Chaplain Ward, continues to visit patients that are in the hospital as well as the elderly residence that are in a nursing and rehab facility in Newark, NJ., which is his greatest reward as God uses him to minister to someone that's in need. Chaplain Ward can be contacted at [e-mail]

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Divorce Ahead—Detour

Glorify God in Your Marriage

Kelvin R. Ward

Copyright © 2010 by Kelvin R. Ward.

Cover Design by Kelvin R. Ward

Book Cover: Photo of Agape Family Worship Center

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For the protection of some people their names have been altered and changed to protect their identity.

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Contents

Author’s Note

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Chapter 11

Chapter 12

Chapter 13

Chapter 14

Chapter 15

Chapter 16

Chapter 17

Chapter 18

Chapter 19

Chapter 20

Chapter 21

Chapter 22

Dedication

This book is dedicated to my father, James R. Howard (1942-1999). My father’s love and compassion has touched my life in many ways. I will always be thankful to God for his example and for having the best father ever.

To my grandmother, Carrie Chance (1910-1995) and my grandmother, Mae Howard (1924-2004) These were the two wisest women of God that have ever been in my life. Their spirit, love, and teaching along with the wisdom of God in them that I received is what made me the man of God that I am today. I truly thank God for them. The love they gave me will always be within me.

To my mother, Peggy J. Howard for your love, teaching, comfort and support through the years. I could not have had a better mother than you. Thank you for being that Proverbs 31 woman in my life. Your love gave me the strength that I needed to make it through the storm that came into my life, and with that love, I pressed on to my destiny.

To my daughter, Devora my gift from God. You have brought true happiness into my life. Your smile gave me the strength to live on another day and serve God faithfully. Having you as my daughter is a blessing and a great reward. I Love You, Your Daddy.

Author’s Note

Sunshine and a Rainbow

After being by myself for some years, I wanted to get married, have a wife and then have children. I met a woman in 1987at a church I was attending in Edison, NJ. I started to date her, and we then decided to get married in 1988. She was a very strong woman in the Word of God, getting up early in the morning to go to church for intercessory prayer. She could tell you all about the Bible stories, Bible characters, events that that took place in the Bible. She had a strong foundation of the Word of God. As a couple just married and with the same ministry goals I just knew with her we would do great work for the Lord and have a powerful ministry together. I was careful to wait on God concerning the woman who I would make my wife, or my partner for life. I always marked as a goal what a good woman was by the role that my mother exemplified in our home. After my parents meeting the young lady and spending time around my family, my father told me "son you have a good woman, put a ring on her finger, so I did.

I really was in love. In 2004 I begin to see signs of things that began to happen in our marriage. I took in stride the signs of the onset of trouble. I would brush off comments that I would hear and took for granted detour signs that I saw that were continuously reoccurring in our relationship. I just did nothing about it, and the marriage went on not knowing that because of the choices that I made then, I would suffer later as I never knew humanly possible. As time went on things went from bad to worse, I found out the choice of a lifetime partner that I made would not turn out to be the choice I imagined. I started to experience things I saw happening in a marriage I thought to be equally yoked soon lose its balance.

After sixteen years of marriage, my wife asked for a divorce. After negotiating back and forth working to try to reconcile the differences that we had to come to a place where we would mutually work on our relationship, she was not willing to obey the Word of God and reconcile our marriage, as Christians should. I did not commit adultery; I never disrespected her or abused her in anyway. After a lot of self-observation, I looked at the relationship thinking about things over and over again in my mind to the point of blaming myself at one point. I knew without a shadow of a doubt that the enemy had come in to assassinate our marriage. I would soon found out what it was like having someone in my life that would not support me one hundred percent in the ministry but would only be a hindrance to me in the ministry.

I began to sense the spirit of rejection come upon me and I felt what happens when you are overcome with that spirit. Yes, I was rejected by her, but I still knew, I was accepted by God.

The favor of God has many flavors. One day I woke up to the fact that I cannot change someone else in a situation as this but I can sure help to change myself. When I made that move in my own heart, I let go of all my troubles and allowed myself to be blessed beyond my imagination because the Lord God of this universe was with me. My physical and mental health improved drastically I no longer felt the unbalanced weight of someone holding me back from my destiny and keeping me from excelling in the ministry that God had called me to do. I began to guard my heart concerning the ministry that God had invested in me, and God does not lose out on His investment. God will always gets 100 percent of all that He has invested in you, especially when you have been called by Him to do His work. I would say to myself time after time, God said in His Word, I’ll never leave you or forsake you. To God be the Glory for being with me through all that he has brought me through. Amen

I was so thankful to God, and I had to praise Him for what He did for me. I learned my blessings were not based on my wife’s opinion of me, but it was based on the favor that God had given me. No matter what you may go through in this life, just know that the Lord is with you, and He will see you through it all. Don’t view yourself and your abilities through your present circumstances; see yourself in the eyes of God’s divine destiny that he has for you in you life. Keep your eyes focused on Him and listen to His voice for directions and instructions. Allow your Heavenly Father to start His restoration process in your life. He will bring the right people into your life to strengthen, bless you and give you words of encouragement as you go through the trials and tribulations that the enemy has set up for you.

The Word of God says that as many that are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God (Romans 8:14); so let God lead and you