The Emotional Dictionary to the Soulful Self: Stand in the Power of You!

By Ingrid Vincent

What is your relationship with CHANGE OR LOSS? Do you carry emotional weight on your shoulders?

Are you triggered by family, friends, colleagues, or even strangers by what they say or do?

Have you experienced more betrayals, self-judgment, shame, guilt, deaths, than you can even count?

If the answer is YES" to any of these ques

• Language: English
• Publisher: SIMPLY TRUE
• Release date: Apr 29, 2024
• ISBN: 9781735081724

Ingrid Vincent

SOULFUL SELF WOMAN - Ingrid VincentIngrid Vincent is an Arizona-based, Czech-born Spiritual Life Recovery Coach & Intuitive. After College and working with underprivileged children, she dove into being a powerhouse in the corporate world heading operations with national teams for over 3 decades.Her troubleshooting and problem-solving skills lead her to a greater passion and life purpose. After realizing that her years of severe back pain was a psychological repercussion of emotional trauma, getting healthy was the only option.Shortly after, she created a The Emotional BOOTCAMP Recovery Mapping Program, where one takes a single topic, three hours and the level of pain and heartache is gone! Guaranteed! It was important for Ingrid to walk the walk and talk the talk before she had clients. After 165 personal mappings, she could not wait to share the formula that would change lives.Ingrid is an entrepreneur, speaker, and author. She has helped hundreds of people shed the emotional layers off their shoulders from betrayal, guilt, shame, self-judgment, and deaths. Her motto is STAND IN THE POWER OF YOU to become your SOULFUL SELF.

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INTRODUCTION

Why is becoming your SOULFUL SELF is so important?

WHAT IS THE hype on becoming your SOULFUL SELF? You are the true authentic self.

Here are some of the characteristics;

Unconditional Love

Total Forgiveness

Humility

Compassion

Courage

Patience

Non-Judgement

Appreciation

Gratefulness

Honoring self and others

Letting Go

Releasing all Expectations

Releasing Attachments

Not NEEDING anyone or anything

Living in Truth in word and journey

Living in your light

Satisfying the spirit instead of the needs of the personality

Much more...

SURPRISE... we are perfect, however, why do we not feel perfect? This is simply because we are disconnected with ourselves. We really do not know who we are. We must connect to ourselves and these characteristics will automatically resurface. When we feel like projecting anger, disappointment, frustration, worry, stress, anxiety, etc., that directly correlates to the emotional weight on our shoulders from past betrayals, shame, guilt, self-judgement, death, etc. Our personality is the ego. Our characteristics are what shows our introvert/extrovert tendencies, our humor, etc.

Our SOULFUL SELF shows our true self, one of love and truth. Once we fully process each experience in its entirety, (One way is through the Emotional BOOTCAMP Recovery Program) those layers get peeled off. Those very emotions of daily anger, disappointment, etc., become less intense and eventually cease, once all weight is lifted. Imagine who you would really be with all that weight GONE! Before we get started, understanding the concept of taking care of ourselves and putting ourselves first, to be healthy on all levels is imperative.

First imagine not having any emotional challenges, even for a second, for the rest of your life. Emotional challenges can be simply defined as being the ups and downs in behavior patterns at any given point in time — anger, frustration, blame, resentment worry, stress, disappointment Oh, when will it stop?.

The simple fact is that we ourselves create drama in our lives. If you have the type of personality that loves unproductive drama and you have inner peace and happiness, then I congratulate you. For those who would like a different outcome, fasten your seat belts, because this journey is fast, instant, and absolutely unforgettable!

What We Must Realize-Right Here, Right Now

We strive to be successful on one level or another. We all want to be loved. We seek hope and motivation where we can. The missing link in all that we have been taught until now, is the lack of emphasis on the reality is that, when you have a challenge, it is all about you.

It starts with you and ends with you. You are just as powerful, special, and unique as anyone else. You deserve the attention and the royal treatment from yourself to yourself, that you give to those outside of yourself. You are never less than and you always matter. The only difference between you and other people is the number and type of tools you have in your tool pouch to get the job done, whether that job is an emotional, mental, or physical. Instead of looking at people with fine gifts and thinking that those are gifts, see those instead as acquired skills. I may add, we all have, but perhaps have not yet awakened. Some are easier, some are more challenging, however, they are all there. It is a matter of awareness and being connected to yourself!

Which leads me to the following:

In a world of such advancement, we, as a society, are behind the times where our emotional stability and dependability are concerned, with ourselves and others!

Out of fear of being rude or hurting people's feelings, sometimes we are not 100% with ourselves or with others. In truth, we are not doing any favors for anyone when we do that.

In fact, the opposite occurs. If you are not 100% yourself, that equates to not being 100% honest. When you do that, you send false signals to others. We even may be enabling them.

They, in turn, act upon those signals as though they were true. How is a person supposed to genuinely experience their journey if this happens? No wonder people in society have a challenging time with handling the truth, detaching from the outcome, releasing expectations, or even taking full responsibility for their actions. It is time to take initiative and assist in being part of a kinder, gentler, happier nation so we can create on levels that are unimaginable!

Let us get to the core, transform from the inside out, and move to inspire! We deserve to be content and at peace so life can navigate toward the direction of our vision. We can be a part of the solution by giving freedom to others to be themselves and make decisions that are appropriate for us and us alone. If we do not, we will pay the price in body, mind, and spirit.

Putting yourself first/Connecting to self is important and healthy!

Many people confuse putting themselves first with selfishness. On the contrary, putting yourself first is being true to others, and honoring the health of yourself. It also brings out your natural desires of giving, because you want to, not because you feel obligated or guilty.

Taking accountability of reactions from others.

What putting yourself first/connecting to self and taking care of yourself looks like

Releasing all fear-based actions and emotions on all levels

Taking actions that are natural and effortless for your body, mind, and spirit

Going with the flow, instead of against it

Looking within rather than outside of yourself, to complete you

Fulfilling your truest desire, want and intent in any situation at any given time

Setting your boundaries, policies and your do's and don'ts

Living in truth with what is, and not what you think it is supposed to be based on the expectations of others

What is the result of putting yourself first/connecting to yourself, and taking care of yourself?

Genuinely loving and appreciating yourself and others

Respecting yourself and building relationships that are healthy for you

Emotional, mental and physical well-being

An abundance of awareness

Life is experienced in truth

Life is filled with individuals who appreciate you for who you are and situations that reflect the real you

Being fulfilled within so that giving to others and considering their needs does not take away from yourself

What is selfishness?

Selfishness is an expectation and judgement. People have the right to do what they want and desire to do to take care of themselves, based on their boundaries and standards, this is true as long as they take accountability on the reactions from that action. Risking your own life, time, and energy can mean that you are taking care of yourself because your character supports it regardless of consequence. This example is being yourself. The question that needs to be asked is, would you want someone to do something for you out of guilt, obligation, fear of judgement, or from someone that genuinely wants to assist from the goodness of their heart? The word selfish at this point can be analyzed from all angles.

What is the result of taking care of yourself?

You are connected to yourself

Free from complaining and stress

Honesty and integrity

Free from enabling others

It all starts with the Self

Until we define and address what we desire in order to be content and productive, until we define what we want to do to love ourselves, we cannot genuinely and fully love others. Individuals who set their boundaries and policies and accept accountability for their feelings, thoughts, and actions. Those that live by and with their honor codes are better able to take care of themselves, thus can better communicate and give to others.

SOMETHING TO CONSIDER

Not to disregard your belief system, consider a concept in which you may put a different spin on why things happen the way they do. What if our earth was a place where you have an opportunity to make a difference and excel in each and every SOULFUL SELF characteristic? Before coming to earth, you ask different individuals to join you on your journey to fulfill key roles in the SOULFUL SELF and at different intensities such a super challenging, to a little challenging. You would know this by the size of your wounds every time you are triggered by someone or something.

This is achieved through betrayals, shame, guilt, self-judgement, abandonment, and even death. You create a contract and the choices are yours. Everything is to your favor and you have given permission to everything on one level or another. Either you have an opportunity to heal your wound or you are there to assist others to connect to themselves. All in the name of growth and keeping the ego at bay, not being the loudest and in front of the line. The purpose of all this is to master the authentic SOULFUL SELF and to eliminate all triggers so you can only project unconditional love with everybody and everything, regardless of the situation.

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The Authentic SOULFUL SELF

WELCOME TO THE foundation of this book...

BEING YOUR TRUE SELF

We often hear the phrase, Well I'm not perfect, in actuality. YOU ARE, we ALL ARE! Just as nature is perfect, so are we. Why do not the rest of us not see or feel it? Simply put, we are not connected to ourselves. Here is where we have it backward; The main connection is to events in our lives and what others say, do, and feel. We also strive for lifestyles, careers, and relationships, so we can be perceived and judged as being successful, revered, and that we matter. We want to be defined in a certain way. This all takes place OUTSIDE of ourselves, which is navigated by ego.

No wonder we do not think we are perfect. The aim is to navigate toward making a difference in the world so others too, can thrive and pay it forward. This, of course, is not a judgement; it is a tool and a choice of the packages chosen. You are exactly where you are supposed to be and timing is always divine. Remember just because you are ready to march down your path, it does not mean others are ready.

The biggest gift one can give themselves and others is appreciating, loving, nurturing, and evolving the mind, body, and spirit. It is a privilege to be on earth, experiencing opportunities for growth, and finding ways to be in love and light 100% of every moment. Most people are either stuck in the past or in the future. Thinking back of the past is only necessary to retrieve information to serve us in the present time and thinking in the future is only for giving information, for permission and manifestation. Ego is illusion and reality is the SOULFUL SELF because it is something that is not made up. It is the core of ourselves, It can not be manipulated. It simply is.

What is your SOULFUL SELF?

It is who you are INTERNALLY, naturally

It is perfection

It is the absence of dark

The absence of ego

The absence of wounds

It is an abundance of conditional love

It is always feeling worthy enough and you don't NEED anyone or anything

It is never being lonely or alone

It never needs emotional pillars to lean on such as happiness, support or entertainment

It is never angry, frustrated, anxious, stressed, sad or disappointed

It has no expectations or attachments to the outcome

It always lives in the moment

It has an INTERNAL sense of peace instead of EXTERNAL happiness

If you are not your SOULFUL SELF, how can you feel?

Alone / Stuck / Bothered / Annoyed /wounded

Frustrated / Stressed / Unworthy

Judgemental with self and others

Tired / Exhausted / Depleted / Anxious

All over the place / Victimized

How do others see you and perhaps feel?

As a victim

Not motivated

Complainer

Troublemaker

Feel sorry for you

Not want to work with you

Not want to be around you

Fearful to interact due to anticipated reaction

What can be the short/long-term consequences?

Lost opportunities in business and personal relationships and opportunities

Health issues, physically, mentally, emotionally, including depression, etc.

Additional Drama

Attracting people and situations which enables

How do you reach to your SOULFUL SELF?

You have to WANT to reach the SS in your day to day journey of experiences

There must be a substantial reason WHY this is important to you

pay attention to your wounds and become pro-active as you are feeling fear or hurt

Patience and be non-judgemental on others and self is a great start

Recognition of emotional weight on your shoulders and heart (so you can address it)

You have to reach a point in your life where you realize you have no choice but to make that change

If you live your SOULFUL SELF, what will you experience?

A sense of inner peace, joy, and contentment

Challenges will no longer be challenges, merely observations

You will no longer act or, react; you will only inspire and be

Your level of awareness will be heightened

Judgement, expectations, attachments will not exist

Emotional levels will be neutral. No lows or highs

Health on all levels will be much more optimal

You will be able to manifest quicker

You will be able to live in the journey of truth on ALL levels

You will inspire others, they will see it and feel it

You will be your own best friend

You will fuel the SS with the energy of attraction of your goals,

desires, and relationships

Not having a need to look back at your history to see how you did, see what others think of you or overall result

What is the purpose of the SOULFUL SELF?

To be embodied in the energy of light and love

To attract what your purpose and desires are quicker

To live each moment in the most productive manner

To achieve optimum health on all levels

To always be present and the best version of self

To keep your side of the street clean

To live your purpose and NOT be congested dealing with illusions, ego etc.

No matter what the circumstance, you will always be a piece. It is not conditional

How do you feel when you are your SOULFUL SELF?

Alive / Energetic / Worthy / Enough / Humble / Caring / Loving unconditionally / Peaceful Healthy / Inspiring / Patient / Empathetic / Non-Judgemental / Forgiving / Content Courageous / Compassionate / Aware / Appreciative / Giving / Free / Detached / Helpful Not NEEDING anyone or anything, merely desiring without attachment / Living in the moment

When do you know that you have reached (or reaching) your SOULFUL SELF?

When you are a witness to a situation, where in the past, you would have been beside yourself

Where you no longer react verbally, emotionally or physically, merely inspire

Where you would have thought about a situation and been affected for days, months even years

Where absolutely nothing phases you in the least

Where there is so much love, joy and appreciation 24/7

When you never feel alone... ever!

When you have no expectation, attachment to the outcome or feel like you are waiting for something to happen

Commentary

Understand that becoming your SOULFUL SELF is a process. Unless you do not have any emotional weight on your shoulders and you never get angry, worried, frustrated, disappointed, stressed, judge yourself and others, it is NOT an overnight process. Becoming your SOULFUL SELF means that the ego is put to the side and it has no reason to surface, for all the wounds are mended without even a scar. All dark shadows are either gone or in the back room with their best friend, the all-mighty ego.

You have to want it bad enough and that shift has to take place with no exceptions or excuses. You can not be your SOULFUL SELF and live with someone that is unhealthy and is a bully through and through and still slightly affected. Your ultimate SOULFUL SELF has no boundaries, no policies, and no standards due to the absence of triggers. The SOULFUL SELF is always in their own lane to manage and navigate with the freedom to simply BE... no matter what. It is possible, it is a journey just at the end of that tunnel and it is total bliss.

Notes

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EGO - If it is Not LOVE, it is EGO

When we are angry, frustrated, disappointed, stressed, anxious, etc., WE ARE NOT OURSELVES. This is due to the emotional weight we are carrying on our shoulders and our heart. This weight defines us for the most part. It is temporary because it is not reality. It is an illusion which we have created all by our personality, the ego. This illusion is unhealthy and counterproductive. It can be perceived differently in a heartbeat. The only benefit of the ego is that it is an indicator of an exposed wound.

What is your Ego?

A person's sense of self

Reactions from fear-based personality

Dictates self-esteem, self-importance, confidence, etc.

Indicator of open emotional wounds

What are some of the signs of ego present within you?

When there is fear on any level

When you are angry on any level

When you have disappointment or sadness

When you feel anxious, stressed, worried or irritated

When there is frustration, annoyance or agitation on any level

When you feel entitled or justified

When you act and react

When you don't want a particular change in your life

What is your Ego, in a spiritual connotation?

Dark shadow (A protective part of self that surfaces when you feel unworthy, scared, emotionally threatened)

It is a mask that you present to the world with a personality of defensiveness, judgement, entitlement, insecurity, and disconnection to self

How is Ego triggered?

When a wound is exposed

When there is an emotional threat outside of yourself

When something is heard that feels threatening to one's self-worth

When something is seen that feels threatening to one's self-worth and being

If you are operating from Ego, how can you feel?

Alone / Stuck / Bothered / Annoyed /wounded

Frustrated / Stressed / Unworthy / Victimized

Judgemental with self and others / Scattered

Tired / Exhausted / Depleted / Anxious / Much more...

Why would anyone operate from Ego?

Not knowing any different

Thinking that this behavior will earn respect

It doesn't involve any effort to navigate in Ego

Operating from what is seen in others

The level of fear, pain, hurt, etc. overrides any other feelings

From a thought pattern that something is justified to do or feel a certain way

How do others see you?

As a victim

Not motivated

As a complainer

As a troublemaker

As a jerk / a bitch

They feel sorry for you

Not want to work with you

Not want to be around you

Fearful to interact due to anticipated reaction

How do others feel when they observe you or interact with you?

Uncomfortable

Annoyed

Agitated

Fearful

What is the true purpose of Ego?

To alert you for exposed emotional wounds, so you can do something about it, after all, how else would you know?

How do you feel when