This World and One More
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C. Roxanne Hack
Roxanne Hack is a retired Captain and 20 year veteran of the Louisville Fire Department. She was a competitive powerlifter for over 25 years. She experienced childbirth for the first time at the age of 46 and later became her mother's primary caregiver after a diagnosis of Alzheimer's and dementia. While her years of Fire Service experiences exclusively taught her about life in numerous ways, the birth of her daughter would become an unexpected revelation followed by yet another seedbed of growth toward sanctification by way of a difficult and arduous journey. Realizing there's no universal recipe for dealing with Alzheimer's and dementia, she learned much through trial and error but most importantly experienced lessons taught by her mother at a time most would think her incapable. She and her teenage daughter Shiloh live in Indiana. She continues to stay in touch with weight lifting, loves mowing and yard work, enjoys trying to figure things out herself when it comes to repairs especially if it saves her money.
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This World and One More - C. Roxanne Hack
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Contents
Dedication
Preface
One More?
Joy
ce Meyers Hack
On the Road to Damascus
The Diseases
Independence
Advocate
Caregiver
Memory Loss
Repetition
Dignity
Purpose
Medications
Fitness
Sundowners / Behaviors
Mystery
Late Stage / Transition
Resources
Summary
Dedication
My mother, my best bud
. She was small in stature but a mighty warrior. The wars are something to be shared, but more importantly, the triumphs attributed to an overcomer who never negated gratitude and utilized the words, Thank you Lord
more than anyone I’ve known. While what’s contained in this book may not have been the way she desired to share her experiences and faith, she would have understood that God’s ways are better than ours, and while Alzheimer’s and dementia certainly attempted to take control of her life; they never took the most important entity to her, her faith in a loving and good God, and her relationship with Jesus.
My daughter, my other best bud
and I know Mom’s too. Eight years during your childhood involved experiences most children don’t encounter directly or consistently. Not once did you complain or balk. God sent you to us for many reasons, one, is teaching me about life and what it truly means. I thank you for all you were to Mom. I thank you for all you were to me during one of the most difficult seasons in my life. I thank you for being strong beyond measure. My hope and prayer is that you remember the good, happy times with your grandmother as well as those times of struggles leading to your courage and perseverance. May God continue to guide you throughout your journey in life. I love you Shiloh!
My brothers and extended family. Each one of you had a special place in mom’s heart. One filled with unconditional love, concern, and a desire for you to possess a personal relationship with our Creator. Thank you for loving her. Thank you for being a tactical and loving backup during this fire of life. I love you all!
Haley Hack, thank you for your contribution to this book. Grandmother would be so thankful and proud of the woman you are. Continue to be a light!
001_a_img.jpgPreface
Growing up, it wasn’t ingrained in me to be a caregiver for anyone. But then, neither was the profession of firefighting where I spent twenty years. Throughout those twenty years, I found myself engulfed with fire all around me literally and figuratively. It was not until my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and dementia did I find myself preparing to fight the most challenging fire ever presented to me. This would be an eight-year journey with five of those years being under the same roof experiencing the same fires of life figuratively engulfed by the one. Many lessons were learned during this time including tactical responses as well as lessons about God, love, life, and perseverance to a higher degree. It led me to reminders of how people are put into your life for a reason and how you are never forgotten nor forsaken. It painted a picture of faith in its highest form and a confirmation that God consistently dwells among us, especially amid chaos and confusion. It taught me that yes, JESUS is the sweetest name on earth and one not to be forgotten no matter how the enemy tries. This challenge came with many difficulties that would include resolves found through trial and error, prayerful petitions, and a will to see it through. I share practical applications as well as topics that seemed to stand out during our journey. May This World and One More
be an invitation to you to experience the only hope we have in this present world, a knowledge and discernment of the One More.
One More?
This world and one more
! I heard my mother say that phrase passed down from her mother time and time again after she heard the sad news occurring around her. The meaning behind it never clicked upon hearing it and I would venture to say that Mom took for granted that I automatically knew its connotation. I am almost ashamed to say that I never really paid too much attention. Once I did, I assumed it meant that our little circle of the world on this planet outside of the things this world offered was what she was referring to. Once she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and dementia and I became her primary caregiver, I created my definition of the phrase. Having and living with someone who has been diagnosed with these diseases creates another world outside of the one we once knew. It was only during our journey together that I finally realized the true meaning of This World and One More
and the one which she knew it to have.
Everything bad that happens on this planet is a result of our fallen world. God does not set out to harm us. For He does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.
Lamentations 3:33 (NIV) What He does do though is promise His children eternal life after we leave this earth. Ding ding, light bulb episode! The one more
! The world to which we are promised after leaving this earth. The very reason mom would constantly repeat that phrase. I truly grasp now the hope in the world we are promised after we leave this world is one to repeatedly acknowledge during the life we live on this earth with all its trials, tribulations, and sorrows. I will continue her legacy by including This World and One More
in my vocabulary not only to memorialize her but to serve as a reminder that everything that happens to us, all the filth, ugliness, sorrow, grief, etc. is only temporary. The moment we exit our journey on earth is when true peace begins.