Sex without Regrets: Learning God's Idea of Sex With Zero Curses

By Nora Fozard

Is sexual sin sabotaging your best life? (Is sexual sin sabotaging your quest for love?)

Who ever imagined that sexually transmitted disease would be on the rise in the 2

• Language: English
• Publisher: Spirit Media
• Release date: Mar 22, 2024
• ISBN: 9781958304952

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Sex Without Regrets

Learning God’s Idea

of Sex With Zero Curses

NORA FOZARD

Spirit Media

Copyright © 2023 Nora L. Fozard

Sex Without Regrets

Learning God’s Idea of Sex With Zero Curses

Nora L. Fozard 2023 © by Nora L. Fozard

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This book is dedicated to - my loving and faithful husband whom I love so much,

Pastor Donald Q. Fozard, Sr.

Contents

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Foreword to the First Edition

Introduction

1: Wired For Desire

2: Nobody’s Talking

3: Teach Your Children

4 : Where Is The Church?

5: Hoes and Boy-Hoes

6: Adultery

7: Lust

8: Don’t Deprive Your Spouse!

9: The Joy Of (Married) Sex

10: When Conflict Is Dividing You

11: Flee Youthful Lust

12: A Final Word: Go and Sin No More

About the Author

Reference

Acknowledgement

Foreword to the First Edition

WOW!!!

This book by Nora L. Fozard is long overdue. Nora has hit the nail on the head, knocked the ball out of the park, and scored in the final seconds to win the game.

This book is filled with truth, supported by the Holy Scripture and professionally gathered statistics. It’s reading by all, especially the Christian community, is a must. The book comes at a time, in American history and the lives of the American people, in which immorality is running rampant.

Sexual sins plague most every age group in our nation and is no stranger within the churches.

I’m convinced Mrs. Fozard was directed by the Holy Spirit as she penned each page. Once you begin to read you will not want to stop until you have finished the book.

Now here is a loving warning; if you are involved in any form of sexual sin, you may not want to finish reading this timely treatise. However, you will BENEFIT from its message of love and God’s wonderful plan of forgiveness and ability to change what is wrong into what is right and good.

I strongly recommend the reading and serious consideration of the subject of Nora Fozard’s book, Enjoying Blessed Sex with Zero Curses.

HiltonSutton,Th.D

The late Hilton Sutton founded Hilton Sutton WorldMinistriesandwrotethisforewordtothe firsteditionofthisbook.

Introduction

Why This Book is for You

You may be single. You may be married. You may be divorced. You may be widowed. Maybe you’re sexually active. Maybe you’re abstaining from sex. Whatever your sexual status right now, God knows your needs, desires, and longings. God created us. Our bodies are not our own. Our bodies belong to God.

Do you not know that your body is a temple ofthe Holy Spirit whois within you, whom you have [received as a gift] from God, and that youare not your own [property]? I Corinthians 6:19

As individuals, even standing together with God, we often feel powerless against the great flood of sexual information that spreads through our culture. But our churches often seem to be just as lacking in power. Consider:

• The sexual sins of church leaders have destroyed huge churches and wracked entire denominations in the last several decades.¹

• Church teens are more likely to be sexually active than teens outside of churches.²

• Single women and girls who attend church are as likely to have children without being married as women and girls who don’t attend church. More than half of all abortion patients report Christian faith affiliations.³

• The use of pornography has become common among church members and leaders, especially men, with more than half of Christian men who call themselves born again using porn at least every month.⁴

• Men and women who struggle with same-sex attraction are getting mixed signals from faith communities about whether it is appropriate to engage in homosexual relations and same-sex marriages.

• Men, women, and teenagers in churches experience sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV.⁵

Because the church hasn’t understood the root causes of sexual sin, what you usually hear from the pulpit is, It’s wrong. It’s sin! You’re going to hell. All of which are true. But that’s just not all there is to say. And most people who are committing sexual sins already know that what they are doing is worthy of death (Romans 1:32). What they don’t know is what life would be like without illicit sex. And since it is such a big part of their lives, they wonder how they will cope if they don’t have this physical and emotional support in their lives.

Most people know their sexual activity is sin. What they don’t know is what life would be like without illicit sex. They wonder how they will cope if they don’t have this physical and emotional support in their lives.

God knows the temptations and tests we face and He does not intend the tests to defeat us. God has given us a guarantee that no temptation would be allowed to tempt us beyond our ability to resist. He has already made a way for you to be free.

In 1 Corinthians 10:13, God reminds us: No temptation [regardless of its source] has overtaken or enticed you that is not common to human experience [nor is any temptation unusual or beyond human resistance]; but God is faithful [to His word—He is compassionate and trustworthy], and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability [to resist], but along with the temptation He [has in the past and is now and] will [always] provide the way out as well, so that you will be able to endure it [without yielding, and will overcome temptation with joy].

Your own sexual appetites may have overtaken your good judgment and led you into a relationship or place you regret. But God knows you more intimately than anyone else. God wants you to have a full life that includes everything you need—spirit, soul, and body.

I wrote this book because God told me to write about the repercussions of sexual sins. When God gives such a message, the problem is pervasive and needs our attention. Nineveh, for example, was in danger of being destroyed. Jonah needed to preach to them so that they could repent and be spared.

We see sexual sins almost everywhere we go. Yet talking about such sins is a delicate issue because they have touched so many of our lives. Think of the homes that have broken up because of adultery. Sometimes both husband and wife share the fault. And certainly, the hurt can ripple far beyond the two of them.

Read this book with the confidence that somebody knows and understands what you are going through. I want you to read this book and know that the sexual feelings you experience, but can’t seem to control, don’t have to dictate how you live your life.

1: Wired For Desire

If all you’ve ever heard in church about your desires is that they’re Sinful! and Wrong! what I’m going to tell you next will sound shocking.

We are not creatures of desire because of the devil. We are creatures of desire because of God.

We are not creatures of desire because of the devil. We are creatures of desire because of God.

The reason God created man was so that He could have a relationship and fellowship with him. God desired us. That’s a good thing. The Bible tells us, in the beginning when God created everything, He looked at each thing He created and said, It was good. (See Genesis 1) The only exception to all this good was when He finished creating man—man was without a woman. God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).

When God created man in His image and breathed His spirit into him and gave him life, man embodied the very nature and character of his creator. "So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them." (Genesis 1:27). By God’s own design, man, like God, desires to be in relationship and have companionship.

This is what I mean when I say we are wired for desire. God created us with a powerful desire to connect with other people, and the most powerful form that desire takes is our sexual desire.

The pornographers take advantage of this. The devil perverts it. And the church insists on ignoring it.

So, sex sells. But sex alone cannot satisfy all of our desires. People need more than the momentary or physical gratification casual sex offers. People even need more than the different kind of satisfaction that God’s intended marital sex offers. People need to be affirmed. We need to be needed. We need to be validated by our relationships with others. Sexual desires are good desires until they are taken from under the covering of God’s lordship over our lives. Then, that which was designed to create begins to destroy.

Why is Our Society So Sex-Obsessed?

Have you ever wondered why the society we live in is so obsessed with sex? Have you ever wondered why it doesn’t seem to matter that the repercussions of sexual sins are plagues of epidemic proportions, and moral decay is overtaking our young and old people alike.

We encounter sexually explicit content in media we should be able to trust. From BET to MTV to daytime soaps and the soap they sell, you can’t turn on the TV, radio, or open a magazine, without being bombarded by sexual innuendo or downright raw, in-your-face, sex. Retailer Abercrombie and Fitch – which then catered to the teen market – had to recall its 2003 holiday catalog after it had already been placed in all its stores because of protests over the sexually explicit photos and essays it included.⁶

I heard a talk show host claim that intimacy in marriages is hindered because we do things like floss our teeth in front of each other. According to him, we have taken the romance out of our relationships and become too familiar. That may have been the understatement