The Naked Truth Student's Guide

By Lakita Garth

In a world where it seems like "everybody's doing it" how do you help students say no to premarital sex? Lakita Garth tells you how! As an internationally known abstinence advocate and sought-after speaker, she talks to more than 500,000 students a year about abstinence and sexuality. Here, she frankly, humorously, and passionately shares her principles with teens for staying pure until marriage, while equipping them with the life skills necessary to be responsible and successful. Through her four-phase Decision-Making Model, young people will understand the principles of self-control, self-discipline, delayed gratification, and achieving their dreams. They'll be ready to establish healthy dating relationships and clearly defined boundaries for physical intimacy, while understanding and valuing marriage. The eight-session companion DVD, a leader's guide and student guides will make this resource perfect for small-group use.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
• Release date: Aug 31, 2011
• ISBN: 9781441225115

Lakita Garth

Lakita Garth is a social commentator, media consultant, and professional entertainer in Los Angeles. As a highly sought-after abstinence speaker, she has talked with millions of teenagers through motivational assemblies across the United States and internationally. She has also testified before the U.S. Surgeon General and the U.S. Senate on teen pregnancy prevention, and serves on the executive board of The National Abstinence Clearinghouse. Garth, a runner-up for Miss Black America, has appeared in numerous commercials and television shows, including on MTV and BET.

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Commitment

SESSION 1

The Naked Truth

Introduction

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and the woman were both naked, and they felt no shame.

—GOD (GENESIS 2:24-25)

Pick almost any movie made for teenagers and adults (PG-13 or R) and you are guaranteed to see someone in bed or in the shower with someone else. Most of us have watched intimate encounters on television and in the movies for much of our lives.

By the time most of us are in high school, we begin to wonder, What would it be like to have an intense romantic relationship? Will I ever fall in love and have great sex?

There’s a reason sex is such a big part of our culture: God made us not only to want sex but also to enjoy sex for a lifetime.

From the very beginning, God created man and woman to enjoy each other. We were shaped to find pleasure in the opposite sex: their bodies, their minds, and their spiritual lives. We were created to fully know someone and to be fully known.

God’s plan for you includes a great, satisfying and—yes!—amazing sex life. Do you want to know God’s plan for a great sex life?

The Naked Truth with Lakita

Now it’s time to meet Lakita! In each lesson you will have a chance to hear from Lakita Garth, who has lived her life following God’s call to abstain from sex until marriage. As you watch this video, write down any questions or thoughts that come to you in the journal space provided below. Enjoy the video!

Take a moment to talk with your leader and others in the group about questions and comments you have after watching the video.

The Hook-Up

Whether we realize it or not, all of us have an opinion about sex. Below are some typical comments you might hear people say about sex before marriage:

• Other people may contract a sexually transmitted disease, but it won’t happen to me; I’ll be careful.

• Sex is just for having babies, it’s not something to enjoy.

• Oral sex and touching are a safe way to show love physically without actually having sex.

• Condoms are the best way to practice safe sex.

• If I’ve already had sex, there’s really no good reason to not have sex before marriage since I’m no longer a virgin.

• If I’m dating the person I know I’m going to marry, then it’s okay to have sex because they will eventually be my spouse.

• Everybody, except for really religious or ugly people, enjoy sex.

• Sex just happens.

Are these statements, ideas and assumptions true? Yes, no, maybe? The problem with discovering truth is that sometimes a lie wears a mask that looks a lot like the face of truth. In fact, a really good lie needs to have some truth in order for it to be believable.

Check out the situations below and think about what seems true and what seems like a lie.

Situation #1

Bobby and Sharon were celebrating their one-month anniversary since they began dating. One night, after going to see a movie, Sharon told Bobby that her roommate had gone home for the weekend and that they had her dorm room to themselves. Bobby and Sharon started making out and pretty soon found themselves wanting to go all the way. Sharon said they had better not because she didn’t want to get pregnant. Bobby said, We won’t do this all the time. We love each other and this is our anniversary. After all, it’s not likely that you’ll get pregnant if we do it just once. It can’t happen to us.

What seems true about Bobby’s opinion?

What seems untrue about his opinion?

Situation #2

Katrina had lots of questions about sex. She had just attended a Christian retreat with her church group and the speaker told them to just say no to sex. In fact, he told them that listening to hip hop, watching music videos and viewing R-rated movies was evil. The problem was, Katrina was curious about sex even though she knew that God intended for her to wait until she was married. So, she talked to her older cousin, Regina, who was living with her boyfriend. Regina laughed when Katrina told her about the guest speaker at the retreat. Regina pointed out, Having sex before you are married prepares you to have a better and more satisfying sex life with your future spouse because you have more practice.

What seems true about Regina’s opinion?

What seems untrue about Regina’s opinion?

Everyone has an opinion about sex. Many of us grow up in church learning that sex before marriage is wrong, yet most of the time it’s never explained why it’s wrong. Sex and drugs are often under the category of just say no. If our parents are single and have an active dating life, we might learn that sex outside of marriage is acceptable, as long as you love each other, are in a committed relationship or if you do it responsibly.

How do you know what’s really true about sex?

That’s what we are going to be studying for the next eight weeks. You are going to learn to know the difference between truths and lies that are wrapped in truth’s clothing to deceive people.

Now let’s take a look at a couple of

Reviews for The Naked Truth Student's Guide

[abbieriddle · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I reviewed the book, Leader's Guide, Student Guide and DVD. Although you don't need all the material I would strongly suggest that you get it all.

Lakita Garth is very open and forthright as she discusses the dangers of sex outside of marriage. I will be honest in saying that this author cuts no corners and makes no excuses when dealing with this subject. In fact some of it is very much "in your face" and to the point. However, I think that this may be a good approach to take with teens today. So many have been left on their own to decide what to do and how to do it. So many are absolutely unguided. This book is direct enough to demand a teens attention and honest enough to make them stop and listen.

Today's teens do not want a rosy picture - they want the truth. They want and need the tools to make right decisions and know that these decisions will be for the best.

Thank you Gospel Light for this review copy.