Marriage After Divorce May Not Be Adultery: Even If It Feels Like It's the Death of You, You Part

By Simon William

This book is written with the intent to shed light on the issue of lawful marriage according to the Creator. Not only does it address grounds for divorce, but also fornication, marital unfaithfulness, covenants, circumcision, sons of God, Christianity, the Way, multiple wives, the eligibility of a marriage partner, the taking of another man's wife, and committing adultery with one's own spouse. And finally, leaving one's parents and becoming one flesh.
All these topics are crucial to a healthy relationship between two people of the opposite gender who have their main goal as being in right relationship with the God of the Bible in order to inherit Eternal Life when this life on earth is done.
Consequently these findings are not for sinners who do not want to repent or change their ways or for people who worship a different god. Rather, it is for the people who strive to be a Holy people set apart for Yahveh.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tellwell Talent
• Release date: Feb 2, 2021
• ISBN: 9780228837305

Simon William

I think it might be important to inform the readers, those who stumble onto this study or want to use this material for their doctrine, that I personally have never been divorced or remarried. At the age of 70, I had suffered through 43 years of difficult times within my own marriage, and if you spoke with my wife, she would make the claim that in fact it was she who suffered through 43 years of marriage.

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Marriage After Divorce May Not Be Adultery

Even If It Feels Like It’s the Death of You, You Part

Simon William

MarriageAfterDivorceMay Not BeAdultery

Copyright © 2020 by Simon William

Excerpt: not till death do you part, but rather even if it feels like it’s the death of you, you part

I have taken the liberty to restore the true name of God and His Son in several areas, because the Lord implies a harsh ruler. My Father wants to be known as a Father and not a dictator. A better translation is in the works.

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Table of Contents

Introduction

My Situation

Sons of God

Israel

Christians

The Way

Contract Law

The Walk and the Talk

Marriage Versus Engagement

Circumcision or Engagement

Circumcision at Birth

Circumcised as an Adult

Circumcision of Moses

Multiple Wives

Masturbation

Fornication

Grounds for Divorce

Eligibility to Remarry

Release Versus Divorce

The Taking of Another Man’s Wife

Committing Adultery with Your Own Wife

Leaving One’s Parents

Becoming One Flesh

Eunuchs

The Masses

Today’s Generation

New Testament Writings

Hardness of Heart

Abiding Therein

The Idea That Divorce Is an Option

Unequally Yoked or Believer Versus Unbeliever

The New Covenant

Unity

In Review

In Conclusion

Introduction

If you have a loved one or a friend who has or is currently going through a divorce, this book is for you—especially if they’re concerned about the stigma of divorce or the status of their relationship with God once the divorce is final. If the church shuns the remarried, it only stands to reason that church people then should shun their own family members who are in such a predicament. Anyone who considers themselves a true believer will find this topic interesting, and the few fortunate elite who have never gone through a divorce might regard my findings as heresy. However, most churches are filled to the rafters with divorced people today, so this is a topic that should arouse emotions. If remarriage after divorce is adultery, why don’t the aristocracy who have survived this misfortune shun the evildoers who enter a second marriage while the first spouse is still alive?

In this book, we’ll examine the definition of several terms that are familiar to those who claim to be God’s people—terms such as adultery, Fornication, circumcision, divorce, engagement, unity, believer, and covenant. I intend to expose the truth in full colour, for many people secretly despise divorcees, refuse to give them leadership positions, and socially snub them. I believe that millions have given up on trying to be godly people—all because of this errant doctrine. Remarriage affects all the relatives within the family, and the devastation can be enormous, largely due to the belief that marriage after divorce is a sin.

My Situation

At the outset of this book, it’s important to inform those who stumble onto this study or want to use this material in developing their doctrine that I have never been divorced or remarried. At the age of seventy, I’ve suffered through forty-three years of difficult times in my own marriage, and if you spoke with my wife, she’d claim that she is the one who has suffered!

I’ve been a member and involved in numerous churches over the years and have always had a distaste for remarriage after divorce! If the truth be known, I didn’t even approve of remarriage after the death of a spouse. My father outlived my mother, and while I was a young lad, he married his second wife, who was a widow. She passed away years later and then he married yet another widow, who outlived him. During that time period, I witnessed the difficulties remarriage can present when the first spouse has died, never mind in the case of divorce while the spouse is still alive. I can sympathize with those who suffer through such trauma; however, each of my father’s marriages were legal, according to the church’s stance and understanding of marriage law today.

Having studied the adultery law some years ago and thinking I had a good handle on it, I now find myself challenged to review this precept once again! I’ve always maintained that divorce and remarriage is just wrong! In fact, I dislike it. But with the statistics showing that approximately one out of two marriages fail, I believe it’s prudent to investigate the issue to determine if these people are all in error and disqualified for eternal life, or if a provision still exists for remarriage, as it did in the Old Testament.

It’s not my intention to bend the Law or say anything that would cause a human to be out of a relationship with God, for I have no desire to cause people to sin. I have no authority to change the Truth. This study is done for the sake of sound doctrine by showing precedents within the family of God that has to stand through the ages. It’s not my purpose to concoct some exclusion that just isn’t there. I will simply give you the proper translation of certain words rather than try to explain how I deducted their meaning. I won’t get into the Greek to try and teach people that language in this short book for each word study could be another book. Let’s get started.

Sons of God

God’s children have always had the tendency to wander. Prior to being called Israel, they were known as God’s people or sons of God. This group was to walk in all His ways, and we need not think that they didn’t know the commandments prior to Moses. From the outset, God’s Laws were fully known, but humans being what they are, they inherently tend to drift or wander. This sliding from the Way is known as Fornication.

Adam and Eve, as well as Noah, were known as people of God:

… then began men to call upon the name of the Lord (Genesis 4:26b).

Better yet, these people became known as those who were the called of Yahveh. (paraphrased).

We’ll see in the following verses that being known as the people of God didn’t translate into being immune from error. Just like Adam and Eve were given the ability to choose, so too all people are fully capable of either adhering to the Laws or disobeying them. Each of us from birth on can choose what to do or not do in different situations. This decision-making process can cause one to sin or to do what’s right. Both the evil and the good spirit fight for control of the soul. These two forces wage war within the soul for possession of its domain. But in the end, our own reason has reign, and it becomes evident which force is winning, or seducing the soul to do either good or evil. If one chooses good in consideration of the Laws of God, one is following the Ways of God. If, however, one chooses to defy the Laws of God, then they are children of the devil.

The ability to choose good or evil is given to everyone. Knowing the difference between right and wrong and then choosing one or the other is how to discern whose child we are. If we choose to sin, we are of the evil ways. If we choose sound doctrine and righteousness, we are children of God. As stated by John:

And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure. Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law. And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him. Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous. He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God. In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother. (1 John 3:3–10).

This ability to choose right from wrong can become marred after a while, whether over a period of a decade or a century, or even longer. When people get calloused to His Ways, this becomes Fornication. We need to pay special attention to this word, for it is on the grounds of Fornication that the Messiah stipulates the law of divorce, as did Moses.

We will start by examining a few passages from the Old Testament to substantiate what I have just stated.

Now the sons of God (Seth’s children) were enthralled by the common daughters because they were gorgeous, so they decided to choose for themselves these women as wives. Yahveh said, the spirit is always striving within my type, in that they eventually sin with humans. (Genesis 6:2, paraphrased).

This passage reveals the problem that I want to point out: God’s sons choosing foreign wives. Some teachers will try to twist this passage to read that angels had sex with humans, but they are ignorant of the facts. The scriptures clearly state that angels do not have the ability to have sex. Period. Humans multiply after their own kind. The Book of Yasher, referred to in the Old Testament, also testifies to the fact that the sons of God were men, not angels.

For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are as angels of God in heaven. (Matthew 22:30).

Angels do not possess the ability to have sexual intercourse with humans.

During the time of Noah, God’s children were known as sons of God. The qualifying evidence that constituted this designation was finding favour with God, as in walking pleasingly according to His Laws:

But Noah found grace (favor) in the eyes of the Lord. (Yahveh) (Genesis 6:8).

Noah was known as a preacher of righteousness. Although the principal of what qualifies anyone to become a child of God hasn’t changed, over time the name of His children has.

Israel

Yacob was named Israel, and he had twelve sons from which stemmed the twelve tribes. It is at this time in history that the children of God were renamed.

In the Old Testament, Israel was warned many times not to wander, or not to fornicate. We read in Ezra how His people had to excommunicate all foreign or common wives and their children. Although this seems harsh considering what is tolerated today, we can be sure that God’s law on this matter hasn’t changed. God considers any foreigner, stranger, or commoner who is disobedient to His commandments to be a transgressor. His Laws spell out explicitly what is required. A quick and sure way to break the Covenant with God is to deliberately violate any of His numerous Commands.

Regarding Fornication, when we become one with sinners, it’s as if we’re trying to introduce a new condition into the contract, something He would never embrace, approve of, or even consider. For us to add something new to the existing agreement constitutes new negotiations— something He isn’t willing to even contemplate. A few examples will help us clarify just how stern His Covenant is, as is the command to divorce foreign wives:

Then Jacob (Yacob) said unto his household, and to all that were with him, Put away strange gods that are among you, and be clean, and change your garments. (Genesis 35:2).

… said onto Ezra, We have trespassed against our God, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land: yet now there is hope in Israel concerning this thing. Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. (Ezra 10:2–3).

Now therefore make confession unto the Lord God of your fathers, and do his pleasure: and separate yourselves from the people of the land, and from the strange wives (Ezra 10:11).

You can read the story for yourself. Over the following months, Ezra and Nehemiah literally cleaned house. Not everyone was happy with this decision. A huge rebellion took place, and the assembly of Yahveh split. A pure generation under the leadership of Ezra was formed, and a corrupt generation left their camp, because they didn’t want to part from their foreign wives and children. It’s believed that the Samaritans who worshipped at another mountain were the descendants of this sect that didn’t obey Ezra.

The situation recorded in Ezra 10 demonstrates to us how stern of a judge we serve, and we know that He never changes. If we as His holy people become one with a sinner, we are committing idolatry, and we become a fornicator. We are warned numerous times not to take unto ourselves wives or husbands that are not a part of this belief system; furthermore, we’re commanded that if our spouse does become a fornicator, we must divorce them unless they become obedient.

Christians

In the New Testament, God’s people are called yet another new name. The name Christian is mentioned, but it’s only used several times, and in each case it’s in reference to what holy people would call this new sect. It wasn’t a desired name or situation to be in. It’s use as a derogatory term that shows a deficient understanding of the followers of Christ, so education is required.

Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf. For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:16–18).

Because of the pathetic situation they find among the believers, Paul and Barnabas are compelled to stay with them for a year to teach them proper doctrine:

And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch (Acts 11:26).

The use of the word Christian at that time suggests a lack of knowledge or understanding, to put it in a nice way.

The Way

A new name was given to the group of true, mature believers who followed or emulated the Messiah—people of the Way. The name for a disciple was different than the name of the movement. Below are some examples of the names of the people of God corporately.

And Saul, yet breathing out threatening and slaughter against the disciples of the Lord [the Judge’s Son], went unto the high priest, and desired of him letters to Damascus to the synagogues, that if he found any of this way (the Way), whether they were men or women, he might bring them bound unto Jerusalem. (Acts 9:1–2).

I find it ironic that people today would even read Paul’s letters, which aren’t scripture but mere letters. Two thousand years later, we have no copies of the original letters, nor do we know what he’s addressing, especially in light of the fact that Paul outright slaughtered anyone who followed Emmanouhl! However he does change and in the end he becomes a disciple.

But when divers were hardened, and believed not, but spoke evil of [the Way] before the multitude, he departed from them, and separated the disciples, disputing daily in the school of one Tyrannus (Acts 19:9).

And the same time there arose no small stir about [the Way] (Acts 19:23).

And I persecuted [the Way] unto the death, binding and delivering into prisons both men and women (Acts 22:4).

But this I confess unto thee, that after [the Way] which they call heresy, so worship I the God of my fathers, believing all things which are written in the law and in the prophets (Acts 24:14).

Paul had a change of heart after all, but his letters aren’t written in a teaching format at this time, as they in numerous areas contradict what Paul himself swore to. He obeyed all the Law and Prophets. This is in stark opposition to the translations that currently exist of his letters. Until I publish a sound translation of his scribbles, my advice is to not even read them for now.

Contract Law

Humans have made many contracts or covenants, but this can also be said about God and His people. Some contracts are