Breaking your Bad Habit

By Donn Matthews

Here is a self-help book, I wanted to write from a long time. As I myself was a very shy kid. Now that I cured of my Shyness, want to help lot of people to cure their Shyness and even any Bad Habit.

Who better to help, other than myself who experienced Shyness and came out of it. And then I took tips from Psychology. I am doing my Masters degree in Psychology and probably complete my PhD in Psychology.

Anyone who reads this book and practice what is mentioned in the practice chapter, I am sure, one can not only cure shyness, can cure any habit

• Language: English
• Publisher: Donn Matthews
• Release date: Mar 21, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224470624

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Breaking your

Shyness Habit

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Donn Matthews

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Copyright Donn Matthews

Sept 2024

Published through Amazon Kindle,  Notion Press

Dedication

This Practical book is dedicated to my Son

Joel

who has been my constant companion during my ups and downs and on being taunted that I am a worthless guy? I just want to tell my Son work on your dreams regardless of the taunts and one day achieve, what you want in life. It is possible, I had done this by writing this novel, so you can also achieve whatever you dream and plan to. Everybody who keeps working on your dreams little by little every day of your life can make your goals achieve in reality.

Finally thanks to my Dad M. G. Mathews,

Who as a writer, inspired me to be a writer

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And thanks to Grammarly

and Rev. Fr. Rony John

for spelling  correction and

for finally passing it without any errors. And thanks to my Mom Lilly Mathews, who made me what I am.

Thanks to Prof. Dr. keki E Turel, one of the world’s greatest NeuroSurgeon from Bombay Hospital, Mumbai, who inspired me a lot to do great things in life.

And a very Big

Thanks to Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing and my

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Brother

Thomas Mathews and Notion Press for constant support. I also dedicate this book to all those self-help books that taught me how to survive and succeed in life.

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And dedicate this book to all the people who supported my writing and my journey of success

Foreword

Hello, everyone. 

Hi, this is M.G.Mathews. yes, I am now a proud father to my son, Donn  Mathews.

I was surprised when he approached me with a request to write a forward for his first Novel. I have been a writer but write only for Christian magazines and websites. Happy to know my son, has taken a leap forward and has become an author. His genre of writing is mainly science fiction and technology. Good to know as a student of Psychology he is doing a great job with this book.  It took him one year to complete this one. I hope he will pen more Novels and more self-help books at a much faster rate for everyone to enjoy reading. He is down to earth person, loves simple things in life and he is a Scorpio, so he tries to achieve what he dreams of.  I enjoyed reading books written by him.

I wish him all the best for his new career as a Novelist, and a Psychiatrist.

M. G. MATHEWS.

Christian writer, Author.

Mumbai, India. 

Preface

Here is a self-help book, I wanted to write from a long time. As I myself was a very shy kid. Now that I cured of my Shyness, want to help lot of people to cure their Shyness and even any Bad Habit.

Who better to help, other than myself who experienced Shyness and came out of it. And then I took tips from Psychology. I am doing my Masters degree in Psychology and probably complete my PhD in Psychology.

Anyone who reads this book and practice what is mentioned in the practice chapter, I am sure, one can not only cure shyness, can cure any habit

Finally, after one year and some months, I was able to reach here.  I wish you all great success, follow your dreams. Nothing is impossible if you dream and work towards it little by little.

Enjoy reading, I hope I write more Novels and self-help books for everyone to enjoy. And I hope every Book I write brings happy feeling in everybody and hope I take less and less time as I write my next and then the next...  book....

Thank you, thank you everyone, and everyone who touched my life.

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​​​​​​​Author name:

Donn Matthews.

Author, Novelist,

Film script writer,

film maker,

Actor, Musician,

Singer and App Developer.

Psychiatrist

Using all of My God given talents.

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Mumbai, India.

Gold Coast, Australia.

Los Angeles,  USA.

Dubai, UAE.

Date: Mumbai, India, March 2024

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Index

Dedication ...............................................................3

Foreword..................................................................5

Preface.....................................................................6

Introduction: Understanding Shyness ...............10

My Own Shyness Experience  .............................13

Purpose of this book ............................................21

Chap. 1  Understanding Shyness .......................24

Chap. 2  Self-Reflection and Awareness............35

Chap. 3  Overcoming Limiting Beliefs ................47

Chap. 4  Building Confidence and Self Esteem ..................................................................................84

Chap. 5  Stepping out of your comfort zone ..................................................................................99

Chap. 6 Cultivating meaningful connections

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Chap. 7 Navigating Professional Settings ........126

Chap. 8 Overcoming setbacks and Challenges

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Chap. 9 Sustaining Progress and Growth........152

Resources for ongoing self-improvement and Personal development ......................................161

A Practical bonus chapter on how to Free yourself of any bad habit ......................166

Key takeaways and lessons learned throughout this book of Breaking Shyness Habit ..............187

My books soon to come  ..................................192

Acknowledgements ..........................................198

Introduction: Understanding Shyness

In the quiet moments of our lives, we've all experienced that familiar twinge of hesitation, that lingering uncertainty that holds us back from speaking up, from reaching out, from fully embracing the world around us. For many, this feeling is fleeting, a passing moment easily shrugged off. But for others, it's a persistent companion, a shadow that follows wherever they go. This is the essence of shyness.

Shyness isn't merely a preference for solitude or a momentary bout of nerves in social situations. It's a complex interplay of emotions, thoughts, and behaviours that can profoundly impact every aspect of our lives. From missed opportunities in relationships to stunted career growth, the effects of shyness ripple outward, shaping the contours of our existence in ways both seen and unseen.

But what exactly is shyness? How does it manifest, and why does it wield such power over our lives? These are the questions that form the foundation of our journey together. In the pages that follow, we'll delve deep into the heart of shyness, unravelling its mysteries and uncovering the pathways to freedom.

We'll explore the roots of shyness, tracing its origins from childhood experiences to societal expectations. We'll dissect its impact on mental health, examining the tangled relationship between shyness and anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. And most importantly, we'll illuminate the path forward, offering practical strategies and insights for breaking free from the shackles of shyness and embracing a life of confidence and self-assurance.

But before we embark on this transformative journey, it's essential to acknowledge one simple truth: you are not alone. Countless individuals around the world grapple with shyness every day, each wrestling with their own unique struggles and triumphs. And it's through our shared experiences that we find strength, solidarity, and the courage to face our fears head-on.

So, whether you're a lifelong wallflower or someone who's recently found themselves held captive by shyness's grip, know that hope is not lost. The journey to conquering shyness begins with a single step, and together, we'll navigate the winding path towards a brighter, more liberated future.

Are you ready to embark on this journey of self-discovery and transformation? If so, turn the page, and let the adventure begin.

My Own Shyness Experience

In the small town where I grew up, everyone knew everyone else's business. Neighbours waved to each other on the street, parents chatted at the grocery store, and kids roamed the