The Conquered: You Are Meant to Conquer Everything Sent Out To Destroy You

By Latosha Cox

The story of a conqueror, a young black woman, Latosha (Williams) Cox, who had undergone some traumatic experiences and overcame the adverse effects of sexual abuse, physical abuse, childhood trauma, and domestic violence, including a near-death experience that resulted in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD. In its criteria, the novel provides

• Language: English
• Publisher: American Author House
• Release date: Oct 28, 2023
• ISBN: 9798869163639

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The Conquered

You Are Meant to Conquer

Everything Sent Out to Destroy You.

Latosha Cox

Copyright © 2023

All Rights Reserved

Dedication

This book is dedicated to all the women who have suffered immensely. 

This story was shared to encourage all the women fighting, overcoming silent battles, to Use Their Voices.

YOU MATTER!

Acknowledgment

First and foremost, I give honor to God, who is the head of my life and the grace that keeps me today. I am grateful for a number of family, friends, and colleagues who encouraged me to manifest my dreams. I would like to acknowledge with gratitude the support and love of my children (Domingo Lucero Jr., Ismael Lucero,

L’Vajah McCullar, and O’Riyah McCullar) as they aligned with me, helping me through this rigorous process.

I would also like to express my special thanks of gratitude to Attorney Brian Charles Clarke, who gave me the golden opportunity to make an impact in adjudicating domestic violence cases. Who also helped me and molded me for the proper fight. My role in service as a paralegal inspired me to write this book sooner than I had originally intended. I am grateful for all the prayers and positive affirmations provided, pushing me along the way.

I am eternally grateful to my father. Words cannot express how much my dad means to me. I am so thankful that my father never quit on me. It was an uphill battle, and I am grateful he stayed in the race and ensured that I am all that I am today. I feel that without my father’s help and support, I may never have been able to heal and go forward with my mission for change. His fatherly love and strong teachings have been an inspiration to me. 

Lastly, I would also like to thank those of you who have been

in the audiences of my platforms via social media over the past few years and my clients, who have trusted me to serve in their fight. Thank you for uplifting me, encouraging me, and allowing me to share with you my journey thus far. Many of you have stuck with me with unwavering support through this epic roller coaster we call life, and I am humbled. 

Thank you all.

Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgment

Abstract

Chapter One  I Am a Woman

Chapter Two Molding Me

Chapter Three  Poor Little Girl

Chapter Four The Transition

Chapter Five  The Developing

Chapter Six  A Silent Cry

Chapter Seven Hiding Within

Chapter Eight The Cringe

Chapter Nine The Illusion.

Chapter Ten  The Unveiling

Chapter Eleven  Breaking into Adulthood

Chapter Twelve The Uphill Battle

Chapter Thirteen Love & War

Chapter Fourteen Living in Fear

Chapter Fifteen Recognizing Trauma

Chapter Sixteen A Fight to Break Free

Chapter Seventeen To Live or Die

Chapter Eighteen A New Me

References

About The Author

"I aspire to inspire greatness in all who witness my works. As Women, we are often forced to uphold duties that contradict the roles we may choose or desire to stand.

How does the world attempt to define what it means to be a woman when the norms of life often force many women to wear, model, and maintain the practices that require an unusual you?"

Abstract

In this book, I will explain how being compelled by fear can alter one’s future and how unassessed trauma can have a dangerous hold on one’s life. I am a unique woman who knows the power in my every step. I consider myself an asset in anything I am involved in. As I have lived, I’ve enjoy teaching others by the example of who I am. It is taught, I am in this world, not of this world. I love first, and my impact must be significant in all I do! I do not live my life pointing fingers at others or blaming anyone for my trials and tribulations. I recognize the power of my voice and the very purpose rooted in my steps. Fear is no longer an option for me! I have conquered everything that was set out to destroy me. This literature highlights the long-term effects of trauma and its negative impact on one’s behavior patterns and mental health, including how a person perceives life, socializes, and builds relationships. The literature articulated in this book is derived from personal experiences with sexual assault, child neglect, and domestic violence. The knowledge of trauma elaborated in this study is not only articulated based on my personal development but also supportive evidence-based research to sustain the credibility of my literature. We all have a story to tell, and I have decided to tell my own.

In March of 1990, I was born in Agana Heights, Guam, United States. I am the third of 4 shared sisters. I was inspired to write this book on the night of Feb. 4th, 2019. I was thinking of all the horror I have suffered and overcome. I have come to the idea that being a woman is one of the hardest things to successfully live out in America. I say that with serious intentions to shine a light on the average struggles that, if not all, most women face on a regular basis. As we know, many years ago, women were not allowed to read or work. Women were denied a voice, forced to live in the shadows, and to smile through all that life’s disturbances, horrors, and the unimaginable weight of always having to prove something took them through. I see myself in the image of all Women. Like many women, at one given time or another, I experienced rape and abuse. I found myself often teased, ridiculed, and lost in my own horrific mess that I once called life. However, after all that I have endured, I conquered!

Despite all odds, I am a compassionate person who often puts the needs of others in front of my own. I am a divine woman with many skills. I am known for being diplomatic, having the ability to adapt, and being selfless and cooperative. I like and enjoy how people are attracted to my charismatic personality. If we take some time to listen, we will learn that many women share our story and see that others have endured worse. As an advocate and support to women in my community, I saw that many women had overcome their obstacles, using their painful trials as leverage to break through, and others have been trapped for many years. This gave me a great ambition to restore the brokenness and untie the strains commonly bounding women to trauma, confusion, and any ill feelings of uncertainty regarding their beautiful selves. May my story be used to enlighten others, spread awareness that conquering is possible, encourage openness and vulnerability amongst victims, male or female, and ultimately change lives.

My daddy always taught me that nothing bad will last forever. I will forever be grateful for those words. Understanding what that meant gave me hope. However, I did not understand right away; I did not have hope right away, and I could not see light in my darkness. I pride myself on being the strongest woman I know and one of the most fierce and bold of us all. Today, I live with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Post-traumatic stress disorder is a common disorder that affects many people around the United States. People who are exposed to trauma sometimes have a hard time getting over it, and the effect can be life-changing. For example, traumatic events such as physical violence, sexual assault, and domestic violence can cause a person to feel fear, shame, and confusion in response to the event.

A traumatic occurrence can psychologically affect a person, whether they experience the pain and affliction directly or witness it happening to another individual they are close to (Haskell & Randall, 2019). Those who are psychologically affected by a traumatic experience subsequently report symptoms of unwanted memories or flashbacks, heightened reactions, depression, nightmares, and anxiety, amongst other things. The severity of one’s post-traumatic stress symptoms can vary over time and from person to person. Post-traumatic stress affects a person’s relationships and work/school performance, and it can alter a person’s life. (PDF; APA, 2013).

Post-traumatic stress falls into four categories: adverse changes in thinking and mood, intrusive memories, and avoidance, including physical and emotional reactions. 

•          Repetitive, intrusive memories or flashbacks of the