Love in Liquid Modernity: Rethinking Relationships
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Embark on a transformative exploration of modern love with "Love in Liquid Modernity: Rethinking Relationships" - a captivating journey through the complexities of modern love. In an era characterized by constant flux and fleeting connections, this book serves as a beacon of insight and clarity, guiding readers through the tumultuous waters of contemporary romance. With profound analysis and thought-provoking perspectives, it challenges conventional wisdom and invites readers to question the very essence of love itself. Delving deep into the heart of human connection, this book offers a compelling narrative that explores the intricacies of building meaningful relationships in an age of instability. From unraveling the myths of love to uncovering the secrets of lasting intimacy, each page invites readers to embark on a transformative exploration of the soul. "Love in Liquid Modernity" is not just a book – it's a roadmap to rediscovering the true essence of love and forging connections that defy the constraints of our ever-changing world.
Varsha Bhargava
Varsha Bhargava is a fresh voice in the literary world, with a background in journalism and a passion for exploring the complexities of the human experience, Varsha brings a unique perspective to her writing. As an author, Varsha is committed to pushing boundaries and challenging conventions, using her platform to shed light on important social issues and amplify marginalized voices. With each new project, she aims to inspire and provoke thought, inviting readers to question, reflect, and empathize.
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Love in Liquid Modernity - Varsha Bhargava
Introduction
Nothing is more characteristically human than the need to relate to others.
Someone could contest this statement by saying that irrational beings also need to relate to each other to fulfill their most basic needs, that communal life is at the foundation of the survival impulse itself, and therefore, we could be certain that our craving for relationships is primarily a trait of our animal side.
But there's something deeper in the human impulse towards others.
The reason is simple: humans are capable of love. In fact, more than capable, humans need another to love, for it is through surrendering to the other that the detachment necessary for love's manifestation occurs — as the poet once said: What can a creature do but love among creatures?
To relate to someone is to surrender to someone. This is the silent motto that separates those who love from those who use. Sacrifice for the other, the desire to make the other a better person, to bleed for the other — which, in extreme cases of love, has a meaning much simpler than that of a metaphor. All of this might sound like a very heroic and romantic
discourse, but a sincere examination of our direct experience with love, both when we are loved and when we love, or when we witness the love of others, will only confirm it.
I'm not advocating here that we assume a lofty ideal just to sustain a grandiloquent discourse, but in total disagreement with life, because what I'm seeking is a fair and real view of relationships. This is what I want you, reader, to understand through this book: relating is an art, and like every art, it has its techniques, its exercises, its principles. Those who practice it need to be patient and humble, like every apprentice. They need to slowly change themselves to better perform it, ordering their interior so that their better understanding reflects in their actions. It is for this art that I intend to make my contribution.
To relate to others is not an option, and, more especially, only a few can abstain from carnal relations — here I speak of those who have a consecrated life. Aristotle already perceived this, when he said more than two thousand years ago that the solitary man is either a beast or a god. But even those who choose greater solitude are not completely exempt from relationships, but from a part of them. They navigate this world aloof from carnal relationship, but also live to love others on other, more subtle and profound levels. In short, no one can say to themselves, this matter is not for me.
Romantic relationships impact everyone.
And to say that they impact everyone is the same as saying they are a problem for everyone. There is no person who does not experience disruptions in their relationships, even the most balanced, even the kindest, even those we could call saints — all of them have experienced difficulties in their relationship with other human beings.
We are in the world to love our neighbor. Therefore, this is a central issue for human beings. It is necessary, however, to better understand what love means. I will not dwell on philosophical explanations and detailed discussion of concepts; it is not our purpose here. I will simply synthesize the theme, which is of the highest depth, into a practical and immediate concept that must be absorbed as a starting point for our healthy relationship with others:
The only love worthy of that name is selfless love.
image_rsrcHN.jpgSelfless Love
Let's start with a practical example: a marriage. From there, we can easily draw analogies to other forms of relationships. I acknowledge that it may seem strange to address the elemental foundations of relationships by directly discussing the most complex human relationship there is, but this is the fundamental point that needs to be understood, the goal that will guide all practical means to improve our ability to relate.
Selfless love is the central virtue for a marriage, for selfless love is that which is completely focused on the needs of the other. It is a love in which no selfishness, no personal interest enters; it is a gratuitous surrender.
It seems that this love is a love without intensity, since it will be selfless — and this is where many make poor judgments of solid and loving marriages by not seeing passion
in the couple. This is because this lack of interest is not about the other, but
a lack of interest in oneself.
If in a marriage, on many occasions, we do not set aside our interests in favor of the spouse, the relationship becomes impossible. It becomes a war of