Spiritual Polyamory

By Mystic Life

Spiritual Polyamory is a powerful, groundbreaking work, certain to intrigue, challenge and stimulate members of both the "poly-curious" and polyamorous communities.

Mystic Life takes you on a journey into honesty, awareness and self-exploration. You will be encouraged to explore your true beliefs about love, jealousy, sex and letting go of control.

This book will help you to open your mind and heart to a fresh approach to intimacy which transcends fear and releases you into a world of unbound peace and joy.

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: Dec 21, 2003
• ISBN: 9780595753741

Mystic Life

Mystic Life is a polyamorous writer, psychic and tarot reader. For more information please visit www.spiritualpolyamory.com

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Contents

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For Loa

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Loa: The Source of Spiritual Polyamory

Love of all is the phrase from which the word Loa has been created. Loa is a lofty goal. How can we love everyone? What about terrorists? What about rapists? Murderers? Why would you even want to love them? The reason you would want to love them is that it hurts to do otherwise.

When you are armored, you will not notice how it feels to see another as not worthy of love. When you become sensitive, you have no choice but to realize that anything less than love hurts. It hurts the other person, and because we are all connected it hurts you too.

The key to being able to practice Loa is understanding the difference between a person and their behavior which arises from ego. Ego is a collection of beliefs arising from fear and the illusion of separation. Often when a person hates another what they truly hate is ego. My ego is no better or worse than any other person’s ego. Egos always arise from illusion, and are therefore all without credibility.

To hate another person because their action arises from ego is to hate yourself for anything you do that arises from ego. The very process of hating arises from the ego’s false belief that hating will place you above another person.

Loa is the end of struggle. It is the beginning of lightness and peace.

Much of the writing within this book challenges monogamy. I question systems…it is part of who I am. When I am being critical of a system I am not being critical of the people within that system. To judge a person within the system of monogamy would arise from the ego within me that craves the illusion of superiority. I recognize the ego as both fragile and strong. It is fragile in that it is completely illogical. It is strong in that it has arisen from years of environmental and biological influence. However, I believe that our tendency is not our destiny. We may give the ego power but it is, at its core, empty and weak.

Poly people are often assumed to overvalue sex. However, I believe that monogamy is a system that overvalues sex, and here is why…

If you are monogamous, you are most likely okay with your lover sharing his or her love, time, understanding, compassion, forgiveness, nonjudgment and attention. The one thing you will probably not stand for is the sharing of their sexual intimacy. This implies that you value it above all else. It is the one thing you must own to feel safe. I challenge this belief.

I have experienced the values of monogamy, wholly and without doubt. I found that the end result was, ultimately, suffering, and that letting go of control is part of the path to freedom and wholeness.

We deeply crave unconditional love. If we do not question the supposedly unconditional love that carries with it the condition of sexual exclusivity, then we remain ignorant and incomplete in our understanding of what we can experience and share.

It is so clear upon

Reviews for Spiritual Polyamory

[hippielunatic · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

There are plenty of reasons to appreciate this book, to read it with an open mind and to think about the ways in which you live your life. There are plenty of moments which caused me to stop and focus on the words, to ensure I understood what the author was saying. With that said, in my opinion, there would have been far easier ways to say some of the parts of the message. There are also ways that the messages could have been shared without completely disregarding monogamy as the right choice for some people. Yes, I was able to take some of this book and re-examine the way I live my own life. I need to spend more of my focus on the present moment and stop concentrating on what was or what will be. I need to ensure that I am whole before bringing anyone else into the folds of my life, as no one should be burdened with a responsibility that I can't take on myself. I need to remember that polyamory is a structure that makes sense to me and my heart, and that I have the right and responsibility to make such a decision for myself.But there were pieces of this book that felt like little more than slams to other ways of choosing to live a life. To me, I don't necessarily believe that no-strings polyamory is the only relationship structure that makes sense. I don't look at people living in monogamy as loving "ineffectively." ("Ineffective love strategies are required until they are fully understood by the individual gaining these lessons.")This book felt very much like it was pieced together with tweets and blog posts, and while I can find value in that kind of writing, I would have also appreciated ways toward gaining some of the wisdom that would come naturally to all of the enlightened polyamorists in this world. What questions do I need to ask myself when jealousy hits hard in order to find peace with the relationships I am in? How can I move beyond society's definition of a perfect relationship rather than just being careful of what media I expose myself to?All in all, this was a welcome book to read, though it would NOT be a book I give to a person exploring what it might mean to be polyamorous, who was not already confident of their decision to align with polyamory as their relationship structure.