Financially Secure Future Planning

By Adreanne Fessler

We women need to understand-we truly need to understand-that we are not second-class citizens. It's a fiction perpetuated by some elements of society, and it doesn't make any sense! The soul has no high or low position, and it does not distinguish between men and women. We must learn to respect our own lives and skills in the same way that other

• Language: English
• Publisher: Adreanne Fessler
• Release date: Oct 30, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088245644

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INTRODUCTION

We are at a critical juncture in our growth. For a long time, women were completely reliant on the male psyche and temperament. We have to be the greatest. The majority of people follow their commands, which include what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. I recall being trained as a child to go two steps behind men, gaze up at them, and say, I What should I think, what should I do? Actually, no one taught me to do it, but I observed my mother doing it, and that's how I've learnt to behave. The context of her life taught her that woman had to submit completely to males, so she accepted abuse as normal, just like I did. This is an excellent illustration of what we model — embracing and reproducing our parents' habits and ideas.

It took me a long time to grasp that this was not typical behavior, and it certainly wasn't for a lady like me. I began to develop self-worth and self-esteem as I progressively altered my belief system – my awareness. Also at the time, the outer world had changed, and I was no longer appealing to guys who enjoyed dominating and mistreating women. The most essential things a woman receives are self-worth and self-esteem. If we lack these traits, we must cultivate them.

When we have a strong sense of self-worth, we will never take low-paying jobs or allow ourselves to be abused. We only submit to others' dominance when we accept and think that they are useless or unworthy.

Today, I'd like to concentrate my efforts on assisting women in realizing their full potential and achieving true equality in society. I want to encourage others to consider all women as capable of loving themselves, having their own ideals, having self-esteem, and holding a significant place in society. This isn't done to degrade males; rather, it's done to achieve gender equality, which will benefit everyone.

Remember to keep altering your thoughts and attitudes in mind while you read and practice with this book. Your degree will take some time to complete. So, how much time does it take? You could wonder, Can we catch? What's more, how rapidly do you catch up on new concepts? Everyone is unique. So, throughout the course of his practice, don't set any boundaries or deadlines; just do your best, and the Universe, with its infinite wisdom, will lead you in the proper direction. Practice will help us achieve where we want to go, step by step, minute by moment, with each passing day.

CHAPTER 1 WE HAVE A LOT TO DO AND A LOT TO LEARN

I'd like to show you an excellent illustration of how a lady is trained before anything else. This is an extract from a 1950s high school home economics textbook that I came upon.

1. Prepare your dinner: For a good and timely supper, plan ahead, even the night before. This is a technique to show your spouse that you care about his needs and are thinking about him. The appearance of a wonderful supper is part of the warm greeting most spouses want when they arrive home.

2. Take care of yourself before your spouse gets home: Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be ready for him when he gets home. Refresh your look by redecorating your face and adding a bow to your hair. He had to cope with a large number of employees who were overworked. Make an effort to look more fascinating by being a bit more fun. He is looking for a way to break up his monotonous day.

3. Clean up the mess: Right before your spouse arrives home, do a final check of the main area of the house, tidying up the books, toys, papers... then rearrange the tablecloths. Your spouse will feel as if he has returned to a relaxing and orderly paradise, which will help you rest as well!

4. Get the kids ready: Take a few minutes to wash the kids' hands and feet (if they're little), brush their hair, and change their clothes if required. They're lovely tiny jewels, and he'll want to see them in their natural state.

5. Minimize noise as much as possible: When he returns, turn off any noisy appliances such as the washing machine, furnace, dishwasher, and vacuum cleaner. Attempt to persuade the children to be more tidy. Be overjoyed to meet him. With a warm and kind grin, greet him.

6. Don'ts: Don't come to him with complaints or problems. If he's late, don't bother him. Consider it a little inconvenience in comparison to what he's likely gone through all day. Allow him to be at ease. Help him relax in a comfy chair or recommend that he go to his room for a while. Prepare a glass of water for him. Remove his shoes and give him a cushion. Speak with a pleasant, soft, gentle, and upbeat tone. Allow him to rest and unwind.

7. Pay attention to him: You have a lot to say to him, but wait until he gets home before you begin. Allow him to take the lead.

8. Make it his night: If he doesn't take you out to dinner or other entertainment venues, don't complain. Instead, attempt to realize that he needs to unwind and rest in his demanding and chaotic surroundings.

If that's what you genuinely want to do, there's nothing wrong with it. However, it should be noted that most young women of the time were socialized to deprive themselves totally in order to satisfy their husbands. That is how a good lady is supposed to act. This is fantastic for males, but not so much for ladies. Today's women must consider his well-being. We may reinvent ourselves by learning to examine everything, including seemingly mundane tasks such as cooking, washing, babysitting, and running errands. Everything we've done as a machine on autopilot for so long has to be reexamined. Do we want to spend the remainder of our lives as we did before, with some of our lives gone to time?

Building a woman's position does not imply denigrating males. Harassment of a guy is just as harmful as harassment of a woman. That is something we do not want to happen. Everyone became trapped as a result of such conduct, and I believe we're already stuck enough. Blaming ourselves, a guy, or society for our dissatisfaction will not improve the issue; instead, it will sap our power even worse. The act of blaming is usually the most powerless. The best thing we can do for males is to stop being victims and work together to solve problems.

Everyone appreciates individuals who respect themselves. I have a lot of empathy for males and the challenges they experience in their life. They're also locked in their positions, carrying a lot of hefty responsibilities and obligations.

Boys are trained from an early age not to cry or exhibit emotion. They are trained to keep their feelings hidden. It is, in my opinion, a type of child maltreatment and oppression. It's fairly unusual for those children to grow up to be really angry. Furthermore, most men lament the fact that they did not have a good relationship with their father. Give a man a secure location and assist him in talking about his father if you want to see him weep. When a man confesses things that his father and son have never expressed to one other, it is typically sad, and they wish their childhoods were different. They yearn to hear his father's words of love and acceptance, which he treasures.

Women have been misled into believing that in order to be good people, they must put others' interests ahead of their own. So many of us have lived our lives just to meet the expectations of others rather than to be our actual selves. Many women are very dissatisfied because they believe it is not their responsibility to be compelled to serve certain individuals. Burnout affects a large number of women, which is reasonable. Most moms are required to perform two full-time jobs at the same time, one at work and the other at home, caring for their families. Self-sacrifice results in the sacrificer's death.

We don't need to be unwell to take a break. Many ailments in women, I believe, are caused by the manner they rested. Many women only allow themselves to relax because they are sick. They only refuse when they are confined to their beds.

We women need to understand – truly need to understand – that we are not second-class citizens. It's a fiction perpetuated by some elements of society, and it doesn't make any sense! The soul has no high or low position, and it does not distinguish between men and women. We must