Shades Of Love And Heartbreaks

By MH Achimsa

Shades Of Love And Heartbreaks is an engaging and insightful book which delves into the intricate world of relationships, love, and heartbreaks. It guides readers toward understanding and healing their own emotional journeys. By exploring the nuances of deceptive love, toxic relationships, signs of impending breakups, and the reasons behind them, this book provides a path toward overcoming heartbreaks and embracing self-love.
Shades Of Love And Heartbreaks targets individuals navigating the complexities of relationships and seeking guidance; those experiencing heartbreak and seeking solace, support, and a roadmap to healing; people interested in understanding the different aspects of love, both positive and negative and those looking to cultivate self-worth and foster personal growth within the context of relationships.
Shades Of Love And Heartbreaks unveil deceptive love by empowering readers to recognize and navigate treacherous paths and promote personal growth and well-being. It helps you learn to recognize the subtle signs that foretell the end of a relationship, allowing you to prepare, reflect, and move forward. Readers would understand the importance of self-worth and self-care as the book guides you to appreciate and love yourself unconditionally. Lastly, it helps readers understand the various motivations behind pursuing relationships, acknowledging that not all paths lead to long-term commitment. It also explores proven techniques and stories of resilience that will inspire you to heal, grow, and open your heart to love again.
Shades Of Love And Heartbreaks is more than just a book; it's a compass guiding you through the labyrinth of emotions accompanying relationships. Discover the colours of love, unveil the secrets of the heart, and emerge stronger, wiser, and ready to embrace a journey of self-love and healing. Begin your transformative journey today.

• Language: English
• Publisher: M.H Achimsa
• Release date: May 27, 2023
• ISBN: 9789988348557

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SHADES OF LOVE

& HEARTBREAKS

A must-read guidebook for self-love & empathy towards loved ones. A healing strategy for the heartbroken, and inspiration for those who have forsaken love.

MH Achimsa

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Copyright © 2022MH Achimsa Published in Ghana in 2022 by

MAAH Consult & Publishing

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No part of this publication may be reproduced in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic, mechanical or photocopy,recording or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publisher.

ISBN: 978-9988-3-4855-7

Ghana Library Cataloguing-in-Publication Data ACHIMSA, H.

Shades of Love and heartbreaks / M.H. Achimsa.

– Accra: M.H. Achimsa, 2022.

1. Love2. Marriage Counseling 3. Heartbreaks I. Title

DDC 152.41- - dc 21

ISBN: 978-9988-3-4855-7 GLCN – 269

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Dedication

This book is dedicated to the Achimsa family, loved ones and friends, particularly Kamaldeen, Ayisha, and Jil for sharing their insights on Shades of Love and Heartbreaks.

Your identification with the content and confidence in me gave me the courage to complete it.

The love and support of my mum, Andaratu, are incomparable. I love you, mum. Also, I wil forever love and be grateful to my late dad.

To Prof. Braimah of KNUST, thank you for being a father figure in my life. Your selflessness and support are well appreciated.

To the family and loved ones I lost in Burkina. I wil forever love and miss you. Thank you, Marianne, for being strong. I love you.

Lastly, I hope every reader of the book finds the peace and love they deserve.

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Dear Reader

Thank you for choosing to read Shades of Love and Heartbreaks. I hope it adds colour and meaning to events in your life. Remember, you hold the pencil to your life, write and erase accordingly.

Share your favourite statement,topic, quote, or page on social media with the book’s title page. You never know who else needs that quote or page. You can change someone’s life by sharing.

Being in love is like winning a blank ticket to any part of the world. A once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for many people.A periodic experience for some people,and a lifestyle for others.

Love and heartbreaks are inevitable and must be lived.

Therefore, being heartbroken, deceived, betrayed, and manipulated are al phases of life.

Henceforth, open your

eyes,ears, mind, and heart to the art and skils of love and heartbreaks. The art of love and heartbreaks can be redefined, triumphed, and mastered for improved mental and emotional stability.

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Love Yourself

To love and be loved is great.

But self-love is greater.

Many promise to love, live and die together.

Yet, eagerly embrace chances to love and live again with others.

Confirming that only your body cannotlive without your soul.

Many great women and men have significantly contributed to the world.

At some point in their lives,the world revolves around them.

They led and impacted the lives of millions of people.

They were the world leaders.

Unfortunately, only a few of them are remembered in history books.

And the world continues to be conquered by emerging leaders.

Also, assuming they are the world.

Yet, lovers make the same mistakes.

And are replaced in the blink of an eye.

Some become distant and faded memories sooner.

And the world continues.

Therefore,love and cherish yourself more.

So that you can love others better.

For you cannot gift to others what you don’t have.

Neither can you appreciate the love of others.

Till you know how it feels to love yourself.

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You Are Your Thoughts And Imagination

The Mind is like a baby.

Ignorantly assumed to be oblivion of its environment.

Always at the mercy of caregivers.

Often forced to consume whatever it is fed.

Its cry for help is seen as a tantrum.

In its presence, foul language is a lifestyle.

Self-deprecation is a habit.

And violence is a ritual.

Few care to understand what the baby needs.

Many think the baby is immune to its environment.

And feeds it whatever and whenever.

Yet, expecting it to grow into a responsible and healthy Adult.

The audacity of hope without effort.

Leaving the baby to its fate.

A life of chances and luck.

And a wish for miracles.

Which rarely manifests without preparation.

For Imagination envisions the future.

Goals give it direction.

And hope and efforts show the will for the desired future.

You cannot achieve what you can neither think nor see.

The seed of negativity yields bitterness.

And miracles, luck, and chances mostly happen with intention and effort.

So be intentional with what you feed your mind.

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Contents

Dear Reader (iv)

Love Yourself (v)

You Are Your thoughts And Imagination(vi)

Introduction(xi)

PART ONE

Self-Love (1)

Life Is Precious, Every Second Counts(5)

Be Grateful For Your Unique Blessings(7)

Building Inner Strength (11)

You Are Uniquely Amazing (15)

The Power Of A Me Time (19)

Cultivate The Seeds Of Good Thoughts(23)

You Are Already Complete (27)

PART TWO

Love That Heals (31)

Perfection Is A Mirage (35)

Attraction And Compatibility (39)

Relationship Expectations and Responsibilities(43)

Communicate Your Feelings; Your Partner Is Not A Mind Reader (47)

How Your Actions Affect Your Partner (49)

Apologies And Amends (53)

Intentional Communication (57)

Pause, Breath, And Respond (61)

PART THTREE

Determinants Of Pain In Separation(65)

Symptoms Of Breakups(71)

Why Some Break-ups Are Not Upsetting (75)

Why Some Breakups Hurt Badly(79)

Heartbreaks Do Not Discriminate (99)

Life After Breakup (101)

The Ten Breakup Commandments (105)

PART FOUR

Not Every I Love You Means Forever(109)

Cheap Girl Fallacy (111)

The Last Fling (117)

A Convenient Lover (121)

Committed To A Casanova (125)

Desperation For Love (129)

Destiny Helpers And Love In Bondage (133)

Learn To Say No And Mean It (137)

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PART FIVE

TheWahala Of Loving A Narcissist (141)

Gaslighting, A Perfect Tool for Manipulative Lovers (143)

Love With Kindness (147)

Laughing With An Ex-Lover (149)

Communicating With An Ex-lover (151)

Reuniting With An Ex-lover (153)

A Glare from Karma (157)

Love Allergy (159)

Be Accountable For Your Decisions (163)

We All Act Stupid Sometimes (169)

Crying Over Spilled Milk? (171)

PART SIX

Partner Appraisal (175)

Quit While YouCan (177)

The Right Person Would Love You Right (179)

Overcoming A broken Heart189)

Redefining Rejection And Breakups (193)

Best RevengeEver (BRE)(195)

Create and Rely On A Support System (199)

Control Your Actions And Reactions (203)

Letting Go Completely (205)

Conclusion (207)

References (208)

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Introduction

Relationships born from love, desire, attraction, and goodwil require a partnership mindset, two-way sacrifice, mutual care, loyalty, empathy, and spice to sustain them.

It also craves respect for individual identities, space, boundaries, and values to survive. Profound and well -

nurtured love instinctively leads to mutual submissiveness and spontaneity,reflecting the heart’s will. It acknowledges and complements imperfections but focuses on strengths.

Words are limiting in the description of how people feel for their lovers. Sometimes the feelings are overwhelming and illogical. Other times it is intentional and empathetic.

Though love is a universal feeling,it must be personalized by every couple,to necessitate them create and sustain the love they wish to enjoy in their relationships.

Joy and sorrow are essential parts of living. No love exists without imperfections and challenges.Every couple has the liberty to highlight either the heartbreaking moments or the exciting experiences.Some focus on the good spell till death do them apart, like the Rawlings in Ghana (The late former president of Ghana, President J. J. Rawlings, and the wife, Nana Konadu Agyemang Rawlings).Others are young,like the Frimpongs (Medical and Fela Makafui), and growing stronger together with their hearts full of hope. Many couples are living their dream relationships and marriages.

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For to love and be faithful is a choice.

Millions of people have been left heartbroken. Love feels like a battlefield to those whose dreams are shattered and burned into flames. Some have tried severally and ended up with the same unwanted and unexpected outcomes. Others get the love recipe right early, while it takes centuries for some to find their soul mates. Unfortunately, some people never get to find their soul mates and are better off alone. Few vowed never to love again, but love takes them by surprise and changes their world.

Many relationships expire sooner because of ignorance of expectations and responsibilities to be assumed in the relationship. Some failed because of misconceptions about love and marriages. Falling in love might be unplanned, unexpected, and sudden, however, to sustain relationships and marriages they must be nurtured. It requires efforts from both parties.

Therefore, if you are dating, married, or aspiring to start a relationship sooner or later, first, you must learn about love and expectations. Next, you must understand the insignificant things, words, and actions that persistently break a partner’s heart and lead to breakups and divorces.

Also, it is necessary to acknowledge your partner’s individuality and learn how to respect and love them in difficult times. Importantly, understand how to be a partner abreast with modernization, the world of career,housework and its prospects and challenges. The broken-hearted should never stay hurt forever or sentence themselves to a lifetime of pain and torture. The world never waits for anyone.

Hence the need to make efforts to overcome the hurt and live your life again.

Surely, every adult needs to read Shades of Love and Heartbreaks. A page, section, paragraph, and sentence explain and align with, possibly, everyone’s past, present,and future experiences.Grab a copy now.

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PART ONE

Self-Love

There is no love comparable to and greater than self-love. No one can love you more than yourself. Also, there is no place as peaceful and secure as the one within and around you. Hence it is necessary to love yourself, your personal space,and your company.Self-love is a must because you cannot give others what you don’t have and appreciate. How do you love others when you cannot even love yourself? How do you value the love of others when you don’t love yourself?

Notably, the pillar of every relationship is self-love.

To love yourself, you must know who you are. Self-identity is complex and workable. It refers to how one’s memories, experiences, environment, values, wishes, dreams, and mindset over time create a sense of self at a particular period. Self-identity helps you appreciate your unique characteristics and attitudes