Enjoying The Married Life: God, Sex and You, #3

By Zacharias Tanee Fomum

"This book is light. If you got married in darkness, read it; it will help your marriage to come out of darkness."

God is the Author of the marriage institution. A successful marriage begins in God, continues in God, leans entirely on God, and culminates in God.

Marriage was also meant to be a lifelong wonderful experience; yes, a kind of "heaven on earth." However, marriage for many, has played out differently as "hell on earth."

In this one-of-a-kind book, Z.T.  Fomum postulates a number of factors that may help heal already broken marriages. These factors, if obeyed, will make good marriages better and better marriages best.

The author expounds on the basic problems of marriage, such as:

• sexual matters,
• financial matters,
• the problem of children in marriage,
• servants in a home, as well as the thorny problem of
• family members.

It is a book to read in order to find a lasting solution to these problems.

It is a tool that the Holy Spirit can use to make your married life pleasant.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Books4revival
• Release date: Apr 16, 2015
• ISBN: 9781513006932

Zacharias Tanee Fomum

For FREE books from Zacharias Tanee Fomum: https://books.bookfunnel.com/ztf-free-ebooks. Professor Zacharias Tanee FOMUM was a man of uncommon spirituality, a leading voice for revival, a workaholic, a prophet-teacher, and a world-shaping spiritual genius. He was a bestselling Christian author (with over 350 books, over 10 million copies in circulation in over 100 languages) and a professor of Organic Chemistry (with over 160 published scientific works of high distinction (earning him the award of a Doctor of Science degree from the University of Durham, Great Britain). His books and the millions of people he influenced in more than 40 years of Christian ministry continue to impact the world with the Gospel today. He founded Christian Missionary Fellowship International (CMFI), a missionary movement that has planted churches in more than 120 nations on all continents. He believed in a life of simplicity and with the support and dedication of his wife and their seven children, his all—time, money, heart, and soul— was dedicated to spreading the Gospel. He carried out exploits for God through the making of disciples for Christ, planting of churches, building spiritual leaders according to the model of the Bible, and serving the body of Christ, especially as a teacher on prayer. Learn more and read exclusive excerpts at: https://ztfomum.org

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Enjoying The Married Life

ENJOYING THE MARRIED LIFE

GOD, SEX, AND YOU

BOOK 3

ZACHARIAS TANEE FOMUM

Books4Revival

Copyright © 1985 by Zacharias Tanee Fomum

All rights reserved.

No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permission from the author, except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.

Except otherwise stated, all Bible references are from the Revised Standard Version of the Bible, The British edition

Published by

A division of the Book Ministry of Christian Missionary Fellowship International

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I dedicate this book to

CELINE BIDJA

HELEN NGANKWE

JACQUES YOUGANG

all of them servants of the Lord Jesus and faithful co-workers with me in the book ministry in grateful acknowledgement of their sacrificial labours behind the scenes

CONTENTS

Preface

1. Home: The Sweetest Place on Earth—Heaven on Earth !

2. Home: Hell on Earth!

3. Marriage: The Problem And The Lasting Solution

4. Sexual Matters in Marriage

5. Money Matters in Marriage

6. Children in Marriage

7. Servants in a Marriage Home

8. Relatives And The Married Life

9. Staying in Love in The Married Life

10. Married in Heaven

Back Matters

PREFACE

Marriage was meant to be a wonderful experience. It was meant to be a kind of heaven on earth. However, for many people it has turned out to be hell on earth. We believe that the good marriages can be made better and the bad ones made good. That is what this book is about. In it, you will discover how to "Enjoy The Married Life." There are a number of factors that contribute to making the married life enjoyable. We have discussed these factors. They include:

The fundamental problem and the lasting solution.

Sexual matters.

Money matters.

Children in Marriage.

Servants in the marriage home.

Relatives and the married life, and other topics.

The topics discussed in this book make it important for

husbands and wives

children and servants

relatives and everybody.

It is also good reading for those who intend to be married someday. It is an ideal gift to your parents, children, servants, relatives and friends.

Enjoying The Married Life is the third book in the series, God, Sex And You. The books in this series which have already been produced are:

Book 01:Enjoying The Pre-marital Life.

Book 02:Enjoying the Choice of Your Marriage Partner.

Book 03:Enjoying the Married Life.

Book 04:Divorce and Remarriage.

Book 05:A Successful Marriage: The Husband’s Making.

Book 06:A Successful Marriage: The Wife’s Making.

The next book in this series, which we shall be publishing very soon, is entitled

Book 07:Solutions to Sexual Problems

Book 08:Solutions to Marital Problems

Make up your mind to read all the books in this series.

If you have been blessed, encouraged, provoked, insulted or angered by this book, please write and share your reaction with me. I am waiting to hear from you.

We send this book out with prayer that it should bring joy, happiness and fulfilment to you, both in this life and in the one hereafter.

YAOUNDE, MARCH 1985

Zacharias Tanee FOMUM

B.P. 6090 YAOUNDE - CAMEROON

1

HOME: THE SWEETEST PLACE ON EARTH—HEAVEN ON EARTH !

There are many difficulties in the world. There are heartaches and much insecurity. Many people are unhappy. However, many people look towards the marriage home as the sweetest place on earth. I talked to a University student. She was 24 years old and in her last term of school. She was all smiles. I asked her what was in the future. This is what she said to me :

I am in love. I shall soon be married to the one man I love with every cell in my body. He is everything to me. He is so far above all the other men in the world that there is no comparison whatsoever. Yes, we shall soon be married. I shall give all of myself to him and he will have all that I have. All my thoughts, dreams, wishes, yes, all will be his. I shall hold nothing back from him. I shall pour out all of myself on him. I shall love him more with each passing day. He will be my lord, my king, my master. I shall render him instant obedience. I shall rest in his arms. That will be my real home - the security of his arms. I shall rest my head on his chest - that will be my pillow. I shall tell him everything. I shall know his every thought. I shall know his unspoken thoughts. I shall be lost in serving him. He will make me his queen, treat me as his queen and lead me into limitless fulfilment. I shall be happy. I shall be fulfilled. I am counting the days that separate me from that day when I shall be his in every way.

Another student said to me,

I have used many girls. I have never loved any. Why should I have loved them ? There was only passion between us. However, I shall soon be married. I have at last found the one with whom I want to settle in life. She is from the village. She attended the village primary school. She is young and fresh. She is innocent and undefiled. She will soon be mine. The bride price has been paid. In the near future, she will be mine. When she comes to me, I shall stop running after all these other women. I shall be faithful to her. I shall supply her needs – all of them. I shall make her happy. We shall have children together. Some will look like me and others will look like her. There will be no quarrels in our home. I shall be kind and she will be obedient. I look forward to it. May that day come quickly!

Another young man said to me,

"Mine will be a home filled with love. My wife will be the queen of our palace and I shall be the king. Our children will be there to make it wonderful. All those who serve us will be treated with respect and dignity. We shall not allow any sharp word to leave our mouths.

We shall allow love to flow with each glance. We shall keep together. We shall eat, play, work, study, etc, together. We shall each contribute to the growth of the other party. We shall set good examples for our children to copy. We shall keep our home sparkling clean and orderly. Everything shall be put in its place. Poor people will be welcome to our table. We shall respect the elderly. Our neighbours will be converted into our friends. We shall not be rich, but we shall have enough to live on. That is the home I am looking forward to having - a home that will be the sweetest place on earth. I shall run to that home when the storms of life assail me and I shall be received there in a warm, loving and unselfish way."

These expectations have been fulfilled in some lives. One man, after having been married for ten years, said,

My wife has been God’s greatest gift to me, next only to the gift of eternal life in Jesus Christ. Before she came into my life, I was lonely and unhappy. She brought joy and sunshine to me, and I have lived in it ever since. Before she came into my life, I was a selfish and self-centred young fool, but her love and unselfishness brought healing and liberation to me; and I am grateful to the Lord for it. She is just a blessing. Each time I am away from home, I think of her and miss her and long to be back with her. I do everything to be back with her. It is always a joy to be back with her, in her arms and in her embraces ; in her love and in her care. We do not have many material things. The truth is that I do not miss them. If I were shut up with her in a prison cell with nothing else except each other and our Lord Jesus, I should be perfectly satisfied and want nothing more ….

A woman said to me,

"I just love my husband. To me he is better than all the men of the world put together. He is just above all of them. He is kind and gentle. He is very understanding. I am very clumsy and disorganised, but he patiently puts my disorder into order, and over the years I am learning to be orderly. He is a wonderful father to the children. He loves them and supplies their every need. He carries them in his heart, and oh! how he prays for them! As a family we know happiness. Our love is increasing. My heart still misses beats as I wait for him to come back from work. Some women say that their husbands’ touches do not excite them as they did before. For me, it is just the opposite. His touches set my whole being on fire now as they never did before. I am becoming more and more in love with him. It is as if I were intoxicated with his love, and the intoxication is only increasing. Where shall it end ? I am a blessed woman. I wish many women would know even 10