Mastering Our Mind's: Finding Calm

By Basile Schofield

The path to understanding is not easy. In the world, we see life as a series of hurdles. Difficult paths to be taken that lead us down long journey's of harsh mentalities. A winding road of narrow streets and dark corridors that blind us from our destinies. What we should actually see is a life of experie

• Language: English
• Publisher: Basile Schofield
• Release date: Jan 18, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088105412

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Introduction

There is a time and place for everything we face. Not every instance in life is clear, but to truly appreciate anything we must first build experiences towards understanding it naturally. With every page we turn in life, we find ourselves further confused as to how we are supposed to react or appreciate our daily lives. If there is a point we ask ourselves, ‘what does any of this mean?’ Then you are reading as the author has intended. We never have all the answers, but the questions are truly a part of what makes life meaningful. We as humans only digest so much data at one time. In this book, you will find heuristic learning. If we are unable to face an experience, we never learn. If we want the knowledge, we will continue walking the path. We only get off the road we walk when we think we have all the answers. Walk true. Humble yourself with a new view. Look within. For some, this may be common sense, but the funny thing about common sense is that it’s only what we presume is knowledge at the core of what we ourselves have learned. Through patience and comprehension, there is always more to understand, even in the most uncommon of places, the smallest of hands, and the most different of people.

With the use of my information, the reader will tackle the biggest obstacles we as humans face in our lives: Overcoming our own brains. In this book, frustrations will be our grand focal point as we traverse the spectrum of guiding ourselves back to the calm. Very often we face confusion and sometimes this kind of exhaustion can fatigue us to a point of periodical lapses in not only self identity, but how we speak and listen. The overall idea will be to confront ourselves and others without holding up defensive walls; to establish healthy relations and even healthier ways of seeing ourselves in the moments we struggle with how we feel, due to how we think. Our thoughts can be overwhelming when we ourselves fail to realize that the clouds hanging over us are often brought on by our own doing. We will learn to undo these clouds in a world full of rain. We will learn to be the umbrella that shelters us and brings safety to our own sanity.

Thank you for being a reader, without you, information would simply be wasted. In many ways the lack of information breeds miscommunication. Without the ability to communicate, we cannot understand each other as human beings. My goal is to always find a bridge to gap the links of neurons, not in the mind of the individual, but from person to person. The easier we can communicate with one another, the easier we can find common ground. Common sense is only common when the core ideas are a common practice made perfect with repetitive and healthy discipline. With patience and practice, all things are possible. With muscle comes memory and the brain is a muscle that we can exercise together.

Welcome on the journey to educating ourselves. Please keep a notepad open on your phone or beside you to answer questions you might find in this book. Write to yourself so you can see a clear reflection of who you are. We want to work on ourselves by speaking to our inner self as much as possible. If we learn something specific that we would like to retain for later, we should always make a note of it. Please do not hesitate to write what we feel, what we discover. Having an area quickly accessible for our own personal research can be a fantastic tool in remembering what we have read, as well as diving into topics at a later date. We should be encouraged to investigate knowledge for ourselves. We are living beings deserving of communication, knowledge, and understanding.

We are one. Inspired by my wife.

I love you dear.

Forward to the reader:

This book follows a principle that is well known to most. The individual only retains about two percent of all that they focus on. With the expectation that comprehension is vastly misconstrued, we will attempt to use a heuristic method by involving ourselves more congruently between each chapter by allowing the reader a moment to write. By using past experiences and self discovery, we hope to align the mentality in a way that allows us to continue making progress in not only our daily lives, but in our emotional sense of well being. Every person experiences everything differently and one of the largest obstacles we face is the idea that our pain and experience is more than others know. By letting go of this idea through self actualizing our specific events, we can identify our personal concepts and negotiate with ourselves the best course of compassion to stop holding onto feelings and start viewing reality.

It is deeply irrational to believe in our feelings as opposed to the reality of events. Our presumed notion of what has happened, is nothing more than that. A delusion of events that we create to defend ourselves due to past issues we may have faced. Not everyone, not every event, and not every circumstance is designed to hurt you. People are not malicious by nature. People are not trying to deal you an instance of pain or suffering. Suffering is however, the way of human beings. The state of being is to coexist and through suffering our corticoid based brains like to focus on the negative without seeing the whole. This is unfortunately how the human species has evolved to survive. By analyzing, being prepared, and defending itself instinctively.

We are more than our feelings. We are human. We are one if we choose to be. We can appreciate the moments that truly matter and continue to purvey with peace and harmony. The individual is not lost unless they choose to be. Humans are not broken by life, but by their choice to concede. A spirit or willingness can be lost in the face of harsh obstacles, but confidence can be rebuilt with the right tools. We have these tools readily available to us as long as we are willing to try. Let us place our best foot forward and give all that we can to the success of ourselves as a whole.

With love and admiration.

Your fellow human being,

Basile Schofield.

Dealing With Frustrations

In this chapter we will begin our focus on how the mind handles being frustrated with generalizing our concept so we can see it in a vague and broad view. By opening a door slowly, we can peek inside a small window that allows us to get a better idea of things as a whole. Starting small often helps us progress to larger steps in our comprehension later after we have had a chance to develop more of a diversified understanding. As children, we learned to call these, ‘small steps to success.’ We should take a moment to ponder and consider the instances we’ve asked ourselves this question, or one just like it:

Why Doesn’t Anyone Understand Me?

Well there’s many responses to a question like this. For instance, what about you is misunderstood? Why do you think it’s about you? Why do you feel entitled to this feeling? Sometimes we feel hurt, but that’s okay. Not every day is going to be perfect and not every person in the world is going to be our friend. Sometimes even the people we love the most will be the ones who hurt us the most, but this is life. As long as we continue to respect, communicate and follow through with each other, we can make it through anything. In this chapter, we want to understand what it means to be frustrated, but also learn concepts and strengths to build emotional maturity towards common self complaints that leave us asking:

Why me?

When we’re done, we should be able to find a way to build our own consistency with nurturing our hurt frustrations and fulfill a way to speak to ourselves without consuming another's energy. The things we tell ourselves around other people place