How to Talk to Your Child about Sex Without Shame

By Alagbe

How To Talk To Your Children About Sex Without Shame is a condensed guide and proven blueprint to having age-appropriate and value-laden conversations about sex with your ever-curious children. This book offers clear strategies and talking points designed t

• Language: English
• Publisher: Cornerstone Creativity Groups
• Release date: Apr 10, 2023
• ISBN: 9781957809502

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HOW TO TALK TO

YOUR CHILD

ABOUT SEX

WITHOUT SHAME

The Secrets of Raising Children with Healthy

Sexual Character in a Hypersexualized Society

FUNMI ALAGBE

REVIEWS

The book How To Talk To Your Child About Sex Without Shame, by Funmi Alagbe, is a well-written book that guides parents on how to have those uncomfortable but crucial conversations about sex with their children.

For so long, secrecy was thought to be the best way. Shielding the innocent minds of our children seemed to be the best approach, but as the Author wrote, it would be futile to shield our children from the information they would inevitably get one way or another in our current world. Instead, the best approach is to be the first teacher in this area This book prepares us to be the best teachers for our children in this regard.

The book doesn’t just highlight the possible dangers we expose our children to when we fail to educate them on their sexuality. It also advises on how to go about having these conversations and the practical steps to take to ensure that the conversation achieves its intended result, which is to raise wholesome adults who know themselves and their values.

Among other things, the book arms parents with the knowledge of the behavioural changes that occur with different stages of growth in children, making them know what’s normal or what’s not and the best approach to employ for each stage of development. I especially loved the guideline on introducing sex education to our children based on their ages and personalities, the questions to expect, and ways to answer these questions appropriately.

Personally, I think this is one book every intentional parent should read. Though it’s a book on Sex Education, it also contains other helpful information to help us succeed with parenting.

Dr. Nkechi Harry-Ngonadi

Ceo Nhn Couture

Founder Nhn The Warroom.

In a world where children are increasingly more involved with sex, sexuality and a lot of sexually related issues under the watch of parents who are sincerely clueless as to what to do about it, I consider this book as a book sent from heaven to all parents living under the sun irrespective of Nationality, location, tribe, race or religion.

The impact of the ignorance exposed in this book cannot be fully quantified as that ignorance had become the unwritten manuscript informing how we raise our children, producing the adults we see today and underpinning the high rate of decline in moral values all over the world.

Funmi hereby presents a very practical and instructive guide for talking to our children about sex that can be easily adapted to any culture and adopted by anyone, anywhere in the world, without shame.

Segun Coker (Pst.)

Visionaire: School Of Virtue, Nigeria

This book, How to Talk To Your Child About Sex Without Shame, is a great manual for Parents, guardians, Schools and all those who teach Children in communities and Religious organizations. The over-sexualization of our children is a matter of concern for me, and this book brings a balance effortlessly and provides easy steps to follow to educate your children early on sex matters and yet protect their vulnerabilities. Well researched and a great book to have.

Rev. Juliet Binitie,

President, Precious Jewel Ministries & the Director for Program mes in the Institute for National Transformation, Nigeria

This is a very thorough book. Going through it, l see an answer to many questions and removing fears of parents and children workers at all levels. The book is an epistle that seems not to leave any stone unturned.

Communicating sexual education in any form has been like mountains for ages, resulting in errors of today’s generation. The present parents had yet to learn it from their parents and school, so they did not include this in the curriculum, so it is not taught. Where it is mentioned, it may not be thorough. It is so because it has become a no touch area from generation to generation, which is one reason things are worsening.

The promising avenues to learn about sex remained muted and are silent about it, then either verbal or nonverbal, intentional or not everyone and everything is now engaging the child, especially in sexuality; hence a lot of the children out there are more wrongly informed than we thought. The world out there is passing their intended values; thus, every child is getting informed by the day on the vices. Another thing that is undoing this generation is the belief system that the child is too young to comprehend things.

Thank you, Funmi Alagbe, for helping shed detailed light to give a proper understanding of how to talk to children at each stage on sexuality without missing it.

At each stage of a child’s growth and development, they need correct love and respect conversations that are age appropriate to help them attain sexual maturity. The childhood stage is magnetic; they are looking for what to add up for growth and development. Since they are innocent and naive, they want to add all they sense, see and hear (bad or good). This is why a well-informed nurse, teacher or parent needs to be apt to instruct and train the child.

Every godly and goodly parent/child educator must seek to have a great impact on the life of the children, most especially on the issue of sex and sensuality. This book will help your assignment as a child educator as it is made explicit and easy to understand.

The book came with several insights, especially that a lot of persons involved with parenting or children handling have the desire to talk but do not know what(content), how(the methods), when(timing) and why(reasons). The reason the job of educating children has suffered shift the responsibility. Most parents expect someone else, like nannies, grandparents or some institutions, to take up the responsibility and will be okay with paying huge amounts of money. At the same time, the institutes also feel child education is purely the responsibility of the parents. This created a lot of gaps and omissions. Children’s education, especially in sexuality, is huge. It is a privilege and great responsibility and should not be shifted if we know what to do and to do it. Talking to a child about sex is an act that must be learnt.

This book is a learning tool rich in this specialized wisdom on removing shame, fear and reluctance around sex. It emphasizes the need to embrace new thoughts and new methods and establish good values to develop clarity in the minds of mothers, fathers, grandparents, children, children teachers, teen handlers and young adult mentors on the issue of sex education. It demystifies the myth around it and removes some old mothers’ fables.

Funmi explains some unchanging principles that govern sexuality for both male and female children.

We need more askable adults to make children feel heard, secured and respected, as they can open up on this topic without any threats. It is amazing that a well-rounded child will need cultural beliefs and other norms on romance and sexuality as part of growth and development.

In this book, you will find a list of values analyzed explicitly to help educators hands on deck in this assignment—menstruation, masturbation, plus other changes to expect at each stage and how to handle them.

I also find it interesting that this book also grouped parenting styles. It is the icing on the cake with the faith-based dimension to seal it up. God has answered to all decadence of our time, and a child who fears the Lord will also receive light and understanding of the heart. Such a child will receive grace to abide by the principles of sexuality.

This is a must-have book for every child handler, especially parents. It is will answer so many salient questions and fears.

Stella Ajetomobi (Rev.)

Vice President: The Men of Issachar Vision Inc

This is great and insightful book with simple and practical tips that can be used by any parent to set up