30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 12+: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy

By Rising Parent Media

Sexual intimacy is one of the greatest experiences available to us as human beings. 30 Days of Sex Talks makes it simple for you to discuss sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Educate and Empower Kids
• Release date: Jan 10, 2019
• ISBN: 9781733604659

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30 Days of Sex Talks

Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy

Ages 12+

Rising Parent Media, LLC

© 2015, 2018 by Rising Parent Media

All rights reserved. Published 2015

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ISBN: 978-0-9863708-2-3 (paperback)

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FOR AGES

12+

30

DAYS

OF

SEX

TALKS

EMPOWERING YOUR CHILD WITH

KNOWLEDGE OF SEXUAL INTIMACY

BY

EDUCATE AND EMPOWER KIDS

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EDUCATE AND EMPOWER KIDS WOULD LIKE TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE FOLLOWING PEOPLE WHO CONTRIBUTED TIME,TALENTS, AND ENERGY TO THIS PUBLICATION:

Dina Alexander, MS

Amanda Scott

Jenny Webb, MA

Caron C. Andrews

Ed Allison

Mary Ann Benson, MSW, LSW

Scott Hounsell

Cliff Park, MBA

DESIGN AND ILLUSTRATION BY:

Jera Mehrdad

30 DAYS OF SEX TALKS

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

AGE 12+

1.   The Physical Side of Relationships

2.   Sex

3.   Emotional Intimacy

4.   Sex Means Different Things to Boys and Girls

5.   Positive Aspects of Sex

6.   Physical Responses to Sex

7.   Orgasm

8.   Relationship Boundaries

9.   The First Time

10. Consent

11. Creating a Healthy Relationship

12. Abusive Relationships

13. Self-worth and Sex

14. Liking Yourself

15. Body Image and Sex

16. Being Media Savvy

17. Pornography

18. Masturbation

19. Shame and Guilt

20. Sexting and Social Media

21. Sexual Conversations

22. Sexual Identification

23. Unwanted Sexual Attention

24. How Predators Groom Kids

25. Monogamy vs. Multiple Partners

26. Sex in a Committed Relationship vs. Hook-up Sex

27. The Double Standard and Derogatory Slang Terms

28. Sex Under the Influence

29. STDs and STIs

30. Birth Control

RESOURCES

GLOSSARY

INTRODUCTION

Sexual intimacy is one of the greatest experiences available to us as human beings. We feel that it is imperative that you are able to clearly express this sentiment to your child. Each of us at Educate and Empower Kids is a parent and like all parents, we feel passionate about providing positive, thought-provoking experiences for our children to learn from. In the world we live in, this is not an easy task.

Our goal is not only to provide you with an opportunity to start conversations about crucial topics, but also to help you create an environment in your home which encourages open discussions about the many other issues which will inevitably come up as you are raising your child. Talking with your child about sex and intimacy is a great way to open the door for other important discussions. After all, this is what makes us human—it’s part of what makes the human experience beautiful.

Children in the US spend an average of 7.5 hours consuming media each day (Boyse, RN, 2010). Additionally, according to one study, 42% of children had been exposed to pornography in the past year and of those, 67% were exposed to it accidentally (Wolack, et al., 2007). With the amount of sex and violence in almost every medium our kids are watching, we need to ask ourselves what we are doing to counteract all that screen time.

The purpose of this curriculum is to help you as parents establish and grow open and honest communication with your child about sex, intimacy, the dangers of online pornography and your child’s view of him or herself. We believe that once you have started these conversations, you will be empowered to talk to your child about anything.

With this program, we’ve made it simple for you to talk about love, sex, bodies and relationships. You can discuss sex in the context in which it belongs; as a part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy.

GETTINGSTARTED

The curriculum includes a book, glossary and a code to download the topic cards. Each topic is followed by several bullet points. These bullet points contain terms to define and discuss with your child as well as questions or statements designed to inspire conversations between you and your child. We’ve included definitions, sample dialogue and even some activities to make it simple and to help you get started. It’s important to discuss things with your child based on his or her own maturity level; progressing or referring back at your own pace.

You need not be an expert, the hard work has all been done for you. In fact, we feel strongly that leaning on your own personal experiences—both mistakes and successes—is a great way to use life lessons to teach your child. If done properly, these talks will bring you closer to your child than you ever could have imagined. You know and love your child more than anyone, so you decide when and where these discussions take place. In time, you will recognize and enjoy teaching moments in everyday life with your child.

This book works well with the downloadable topic cards (online code is available in the back of the book). On the following pages you’ll find each topic with its bullet points listed, followed by ideas for further discussion items, questions you may want to ask, and points to consider when talking with your child about that topic. Throughout the book we’ve also included several suggested scenarios that you could pose to your child to prompt additional thoughts and discussions of specific situations that could arise in his or her life.

Talk about both the emotional and physical aspects of each topic and discuss emotional and physical safety. Be sure to ask your child questions to help draw him or her out. These topics are starting points. If additional or different conversations arise, follow them. This curriculum is designed to be personalized to you and your child. Consistent conversation is the key to successfully implementing this program. Remember, the goal is not only to present useful information to your child, but to normalize the process of talking to each other about these topics.

We strongly encourage you to read through the suggested topics, bullet points, and ideas in the parent book before talking with